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Wednesday, December 31, 2014
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Monday, December 29, 2014
Hypnotize Someone
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HOW TO HYPNOTIZE SOMEONE ? HYPNOSIS IS "A SPECIAL PSYCHOLOGICAL STATE WITH CERTAIN PHYSIOLOGICAL ATTRIBUTES, RESEMBLING SLEEP ONLY SUPERFICIALLY AND MARKED BY A FUNCTIONING OF THE INDIVIDUAL AT A LEVEL OF AWARENESS OTHER THAN THE ORDINARY CONSCIOUS STATE." ACCORDING TO "STATE THEORY", IT IS A MENTAL STATE, WHILE, ACCORDING TO "NON-STATE THEORY", IT IS IMAGINATIVE ROLE-ENACTMENT.WHILE UNDER THIS STATE OF MIND, ONE'S FOCUS AND CONCENTRATION IS HEIGHTENED. THIS INDIVIDUAL IS ABLE TO CONCENTRATE INTENSELY ON A SPECIFIC THOUGHT OR MEMORY, WHILE BLOCKING OUT ALL POSSIBLE SOURCES OF DISTRACTION. HYPNOSIS IS USUALLY INDUCED BY A PROCEDURE KNOWN AS A HYPNOTIC INDUCTION, WHICH IS COMMONLY COMPOSED OF A LONG SERIES OF PRELIMINARY INSTRUCTIONS AND SUGGESTIONS. HYPNOTIC SUGGESTIONS MAY BE DELIVERED BY A HYPNOTIST IN THE PRESENCE OF THE SUBJECT, OR MAY BE SELF-ADMINISTERED ("SELF-SUGGESTION" OR "AUTOSUGGESTION"). THE USE OF HYPNOTISM FOR THERAPEUTIC PURPOSES IS REFERRED TO AS "HYPNOTHERAPY", WHILE ITS USE AS A FORM OF ENTERTAINMENT FOR AN AUDIENCE IS KNOWN AS "STAGE HYPNOSIS".
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Sunday, December 28, 2014
The Path To True Manhood And A Great Relationship And Marriage Part Ii The Epiphany Continues
My buddy David saw his letter in yesterday's episode, and erupted with a continuation of his epiphany, which has even more valuable insights that you won't want to miss, so read on!If you missed yesterday's episode, you really missed a treat, so go back and catch up. Today's is even more insightful and significant than yesterday, as the floodgates appear to have been opened. Without further ado, more from my friend David:THANK YOU!I could tell it had all the earmarks and thanks for further clarifying some of the points, which inspired me further:Stress basically comes from what? Doing things we don't want to do, feel compelled to do or don't enjoy doing. Being an Alpha Male is who we are meant to be and nature gears us up for it from the moment of conception according to all scientific evidence. We are genetically programmed for it and are hence born to be precisely and elegantly an Alpha Male, nothing less.So when you throw in the BS of trying to get us to be anything other than MALE, our stress levels rise accordingly because we are doing something AGAINST OUR NATURE! As you pointed out, it is not a question of gearing ourselves up for more stress to save our relationships, it's a question of how much relief we want in our lives, our relationships and our minds.How popular was the song "Take This Job and Shove It!" because it echoed so many peoples despair over their jobs? When it finally clicks in men's minds how HUGE a stress it is for a woman to be bored, is it any surprise she's ready to sing "Take This Relationship And Shove It?" because it has all the earmarks of being a JOB now and not a source of pleasure, safety, trust, fun and excitement, or anything positive at all?We all fantasize about being free. How magic a honeymoon is because you have PERMISSION to enjoy yourselves with no restraints. Run on the beach naked? No Problem! Tickle and tease? Go for it! Get frisky wherever and whenever? Hoo Yah!What restrains this behavior at home? It's not the kids, it's not the job, it's not her. You have stopped giving yourself PERMISSION to be yourself. You have now become locked up behind the cell door of "expected behavior" and the constant stress that goes with it. Your creativity goes by the doormat, your fun hangs on the coat rack by the door, and your stress amps up as you walk in. You now have two jobs. Work and home. Is it any wonder things go south? Now your relationship and marriage has turned into a job, a bad job, for both of you! And at this point, could life together such any worse? Not much!Why do we lose patience with those who are not men any longer? Because nobody tolerates a fake. Someone who lives a lie in an attempt to please. Our natures scream against it. We are following our nature when we seek to open the eyes of those in lock down. Yet they - like a caged bird - have grown so used to it being "normal," they no longer see the bars. It has become safe, and they have become your "comfortably unhappy." Our frustration grows because we are trying to free them and they don't want it. It's too hard. It's too much work. They're safe. The constant bombardment of whining wears anyone down. You can hear so much of it before it becomes sickening. It becomes so clear, so obvious you stare in disbelief how obvious it is and they can't see it!And just how safe is it if she's out the door after trying, fighting and begging you to step up and you keep closing the door every time she tries to open it? She wants her man back and he only wants his safety. It is a fact lions, tigers and most any large animal in a zoo will fight to keep its territory in that little cage even when offered a larger open space in front of it. They have to poke and prod it into freedom. What size prod will it take for men to learn?D.H. Lawrence wrote a lot of poetry, and some of it sounds strange until you find the context, such as one that was featured in "G.I. Jane" (another shining example of women acting more like a man than men do):"I never saw a wild thing feeling sorry for itself. A bird will fall, frozen dead, from a bough, without ever having felt sorry for itself."I never saw the significance of that until we started discussing this, and the lion analogy reminded me that we were once wild, but now, like the lion, we can't tell the difference between what we have and something better, and feel sorry for ourselves because "she just doesn't understand," and "we do everything for them and they just don't care." Yeah, right.The question would then simplify to - "Do you give yourself permission to be a man or do you enjoy your cage too much?" Asking someone else's permission does not free you of responsibility. It adds to it. It now makes YOU responsible for yours and her decisions because you didn't make them. You may see the responsibility as being hers because she made it. What you have done in fact is make her FEEL responsible for not only her issues, but now she has to take care of yours as well. Now she is feeling more caged by the minute. Trapped behind bars she does not want, did not build and YOU put her there. Any wonder she starts to resent you?So if any man ever asks a woman for permission as an attempt to be sensitive, what he is asking her in her mind is, consciously or not, for her to join him in his cell, in his enslavement, in his BOREDOM. What woman in her right mind would agree to any such thing? Is it any wonder every instinct in her is screaming 'LEAVE RIGHT NOW!" Or that eventually, if he doesn't straighten up, she listens to the voices inside and either leaves or puts him out?Think about what being true to our nature means. One aspect is being able to sense the falseness in others. It becomes easier to tell from the smallest of hints. Women cultivate their true nature as a part of growing up. It builds and enhances their nature to more effectively deal with life and their relationships. Because they are strengthening their true nature, anyone being false hasn't a chance of fooling them. It's also why when they are not being true to their nature but fighting against it as most feminists do, it's harder for them to tell when someone is false.Understanding body language helps, but when you sense it as a part of your nature, it takes minimal education to its nuances for the recognition to expand.Is the light of truth harsh reality or a beacon of freedom?Harsh reality slaps you in the face with papers, storming out the door in anger, or affairs.The beacon of freedom frees you from the need to act, to pretend, to lie to yourself or her any longer.And if you don't have to pretend any more, think what freedom that gives you to have some fun again! There is no longer any pressure to "perform!" No longer wondering what will set her off or make her happy. It's now simply a matter of who you are that makes her wet just thinking about what is to come.Her tests are easy to pass because you simply react as a man. You don't have to learn how to handle each situation in detail. You don't need examples. You simply call it what it is, make it clear you know what's up and she'll love you for it.Maybe that's why there's such a negative reaction by women growing stronger and more outraged at all the dating and attraction "skills" being taught. They find out about them, check to see if you're using them and make it clear in no uncertain terms what they think of you. I even saw a CSI Miami episode where the women were having great fun making fun of and embarrassing men "caught in the act" of "running game" on them.To my mind it also taints the image of what men perceive about fixing relationships. It's learning another set of skills to deal better with their women when in fact it's nothing of the kind. Like you said. It's about being reborn as the man you were intended to be. Stop looking at it as a skill, an act, a set of learned behaviors you need to practice. It's learning to forgive yourself for the mistakes you've made and realizing nothing would please her more than to see you making mistakes and having successes on your way to being the man she wants. The mistakes she'll forgive, and help you learn from when she sees you actually doing something. The successes she'll reward you with in ways you had no clue she was ready to give you to make sure they keep coming!Finally it will begin to sink in she REALLY DOES want you to succeed. It's in her best interest, her long term sanity and safety. She can relax and be your woman when you relax and BE her man. The nagging and carping stop when you begin. Then maybe you'll realize the picking at you is not her trying to drive you nuts, it's her trying to wake you up! Once she knows you are back among the living again and not hiding behind "expected behaviors" anymore, the rewards won't cease.Oops! Gotta get ready for work. I've been thinking the logical conclusion to this is how misunderstood the picture of an Alpha Male is in most men's minds. It's gotten so idealized it seems unapproachable, when indeed it is our natural state.Later!DavidAre you getting all of this? Could it be made any clearer for you? This is the way of the world, and if you don't "believe" it, ask a woman! Ask her what it feels like to be with a man who bores her, a man who doesn't listen to her, a man who won't step up and act like a man, a man who won't lead, and either whines about having to make decisions or even worse, is so insecure that in lieu of leading, he attempts to control everything, including her. I did...Indeed, I asked a great many, and learned from them. And I taught their boyfriends and husbands, and we then refined everything and once it was all proven, I began teaching other men, and they in turn are teaching thousands more as they live in relationships and marriages that most would think impossible, when indeed if a foundation of compatibility is there, true happiness that lasts is easily attainable.Care to join us? Go to http://www.makingherhappy.com and download your copy of "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" and get started. Or stay in your cage. It's your choice, so make a good one.In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!David Cunningham"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
July 24 09 The Boyfriend List By E Lockhart
So, after Going Bovine, I briefly read The Boyfriend List by E. Lockhart in one day, since I had heard so much about it and it was due at the library soon.
The Boyfriend List is about Ruby Oliver. A girl who was reasonably happy, that is, until she kissed her ex boyfriend and her social life blew to smithereens. She goes to therapy now. Her psychologist asked her to write a list of all the boys she was romantically involved with. This is her story.
I loved this book! Ruby was a quirky and fun character. I liked the pacing and the chapter structure as well as the writing. Also I loved how the frog on the cover was relevant to the novel. Really well done novel, although I preferred The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks. One question though: What is up with E. Lockhart's protagonists always falling in love with assholes? Something to ponder.
Like my new background? I needed a change. I might try to get someone to do it for me though, if I come across the money to do so. *sighs* Also, I'm considering having a review structure so my reviews are more fun and interesting. Any suggestions? I'd love input!
Emma Out!
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Thursday, December 25, 2014
Its Not A Conversation Anymore
The scene is beautifully done. Watching the full movie gives it even greater context and meaning as well.
What Danny DeVito's character talks about in regards to equating honesty to curiosity, and how life's mistakes and regrets are what build character are deeply in line with the first section of my book. You can approach women as a human with curiosity. Or you can approach them as a marketing rep, trying to pitch yourself to them. One is a man of character and one isn't. And as DeVito says, a man with character (or attractiveness) has it tattooed across his face -- it's impossible to hide or fake or even demonstrate, as it's always being demonstrated in everything he does.
There's another great scene in this movie where Kevin Spacey's character (Larry, off-screen), asks "Bob," the young evangelical Christian being lectured above, if he and his wife married each other because they loved each other, or married each other because of their principles (religion). Bob is obviously horrified by this question. Larry says something to the tune of, "You're a principled person Bob. Your wife is too. You both stand for something, which is great. But sometimes people don't marry the person, they marry the principles. Are you sure you and your wife didn't marry each other's principles?"
What this all gets to is that to have a true connection and true attraction between two people, one must present oneself honestly. And to present oneself honestly, one must be self-aware, or as DeVito says above, one must have regrets -- one must be aware of one's own faults and have practiced self-forgiveness. Because you can't accept and love the faults in others until you accept and love the faults in yourself.
Rather, you'll only fall in love with their pitch, with their marketing rep; and they with yours. And you will lock each other into a relationship based on principle, not personality.
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Tuesday, December 16, 2014
Gentile Russian Neo Nazi Group Busted In Tel Aviv Region
B"H
Great idea! Deport the gentile neo-nazis! If only we would have had that law when Arafat was still alive... oh, yeah, I forgot... he was a nazi, not a neo-nazi...M
http://www.israelnationalnews.com/News/News.aspx/123630
by Ezra HaLevi
(IsraelNN.com) Israeli Police have busted a group of Israeli neo-Nazis in the Tel Aviv region and found a gun and explosives. The youths are non-Jewish immigrants from the Former Soviet Union.
Although the nine arrests were made a month ago, a gag order on the case was in place until Saturday night. Police had been investigating over 20 people involved with the group ever since the vandalizing of a large synagogue in Petach Tikvah over a year ago. The neo-Nazis had painted the walls, as well as the insides of prayer books, with Nazi graffiti.
The teenagers are from Holon, Petach Tikvah and even the Samaria town of Karnei Shomron. They reportedly have ties with neo-Nazi groups overseas via the Internet and some boast Nazi tattoos.
When police raided the homes of the neo-Nazis, they found video documentation of dozens of other crimes. The group's members had been found to regularly beat religious Jews and foreign workers in Tel Aviv. One video shows members of the group surrounding a Russian heroin addict and, after the man admits he is Jewish, beating him mercilessly, along with another man who tries to assist him.
The group was also found to have in its possession explosives and an M-16 assault rifle.
The members remain in police custody and an indictment in the case is expected Tuesday.
Police say all the members of the neo-Nazi cell received Israeli citizenship, which grants citizenship to anybody with a third-degree Jewish relative - even by marriage. The policy has come under criticism in the past, with the Jewish Agency coming under attack for continuing to allot resources to recruiting descendents of Russian Jewry to immigrate even after nearly all Russian Jews who wished to leave had done so. In recent years, as high as 40 percent of those immigrating from Russia are non-Jews according to Jewish law.
Interior Minister Meir Sheetrit says, "Giving automatic Israeli citizenship without making any demands is worth zero. We have to change our immigration laws to those of a regular state... Jews from all around the world are invited to live here, but first they must be temporary residents, and prove they are loyal to the State, and only then can they become citizens - and not the opposite."
ADL Defends, MKs Outraged
The Anti-Defamation League, founded to protect Jews from neo-Nazi groups and anti-Semitism, released a hasty statement in Hebrew from its Israel office in defense of the neo-Nazi group. "The youth are angry at Israelis for holding them in contempt and lash out with hatred," the statement said, calling upon Jewish Israelis not to blame all Christian immigrants from Russia for the behavior of a "fringe group."
MK Effie Eitam (National Union) said he plans on submitting legislation that will prevent non-Jews from immigrating to Israel under the Law of Return. The legislation would require matrilineal Jewish roots. "In recent years the State of Israel has become a refuge for people whose hatred of Jews and Zionists burns in their hearts," he said.
The current formulation of the law is based on the early Zionist premise that anyone who would have been considered a Jew under Adolf Hitler's Nuremberg Laws should be considered Jewish for the sake of immigration to Israel.
MK Zevulun Orlev (NRP) and MK Collette Avital (Labor) each said they would also submit legislation that would strip neo-Nazis of their Israeli citizenship and deport them to their countries of origin, after first serving prison terms. Former Interior Minister Eli Yishai (Shas) also echoed the call for deportation, calling the neo-Nazi groups an "erosive cancer" in Israeli society.
Monday, December 15, 2014
How To Avoid Gossip And Stay Popular
Friday, December 12, 2014
How I Became Smoke Free
NOW, MY QUIT IS STILL VERY NEW SO I AM BEING DILIGENT IN KEEPING AN EYE ON MY TRIGGERS WHICH ARE NORMALLY STRESS RELATED OR EMOTIONAL RELATED. I DID HAVE SOME HABITS LIKE MY FIRST MORNING CIGARETTE WITH COFFEE (BIG ONE!) BUT THROUGH THIS PROCESS, I REALIZED THAT I SMOKED OUT OF BOREDOM..A LOT!
I WOULD HEM AND HAW ABOUT QUITTING AS I STATED IN THE BEGINNING OF 2011 THAT THIS WAS GOING TO BE THE YEAR I QUIT AND STARTED OFF VERY STRONG ONLY TO GO RIGHT BACK WITHIN A FEW WEEKS. ABOUT THREE WEEKS AGO I WAS SEARCHING YET AGAIN TO FIND A WAY FOR ME TO 'COMFORTABLY' QUIT SMOKING. LET ME SAY THIS...COMFORTABLE WAS HUGE FOR ME BECAUSE ANYONE WHO HAS GONE THROUGH THIS KNOWS THAT THIS IS NOT EASY NOR IS IT COMFORTABLE WHICH IS WHY GOING COLD TURKEY NEVER WORKED FOR ME.
THE WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS I PERSONALLY WENT THROUGH WERE HORRIBLE AND AS I POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG THE RAW GODDESS, SMOKING IS AN ADDICTION AND THAT IS THE WAY I TREATED THIS ALL ALONG WITH WHAT I WILL EXPLAIN FURTHER. FOR ME, I NEEDED TO FIGURE OUT HOW THE MIND WORKED IN ACCORDANCE TO NICOTINE ADDICTION SO I WENT ABOUT RESEARCHING THIS AND ON MY WEB TRAVELS I LANDED ON THE WEBSITE OF DR. ANDREW WEIL AND ON HIS WEBSITE HE RECOMMENDED DR. GURGEVICH'S HYPNOTIC TONIC AND FOR 25 I ORDER IT. IT'S A SELF-HYPNOSIS 2 DISC CD SET.
AFTER RECEIVING THIS CD SET AND LISTENING TO IT THOROUGHLY AND WRITING NOTES THIS IS WHAT I DEVISED THAT GOT ME TO QUIT. MIND YOU, THE WHOLE TIME I WAS SMOKING AS THIS PROGRAM HAD ME WEAN OFF CIGARETTES AT THE PACE THAT WORKED FOR ME. HERE IS WHAT I DID:
1) EVERY MORNING I WOULD LISTEN TO A GUIDED MEDITATION DESIGNED TO RELEASE THE HABIT OF SMOKING AND AFTER THAT I WOULD THEN LISTEN TO DISC ONE OF THE SELF-HYPNOSIS SET I BOUGHT. IT WAS A TOTAL OF ONE HOUR OF MEDITATION AND SELF-HYPNOSIS
2) I UPPED MY WATER INTAKE TO DRINKING ABOUT 8-10 CUPS OF WATER A DAY AS WELL AS DRINKING 2-3 CUPS OF ORANGE JUICE A DAY. I CONTINUED TO SMOKE NORMALLY WHILE DOING THIS BUT WITHIN A FEW DAYS I BEGAN TO NOTICE MY CRAVINGS SLOWLY DIMINISHING.
3) EVERY NIGHT I WOULD DO THE SAME THING AS I DID EACH MORNING. ONE HOUR OF MEDITATION AND SELF-HYPNOSIS. I ALSO WOULD DRINK A NICE CUP OF HOT NIGHTY-NITE TEA TO HELP ME SLEEP. I WAS ALSO CONSCIOUSLY WORKING ON LEARNING TO SLEEP BETTER. DUE TO MY MAKING CHANGES, I HAVE DECREASED MY COFFEE INTAKE, UPPED MY WATER INTAKE AND NOW DRINK MORE HERBAL TEAS THAN ANYTHING ELSE.
4) I COMPLETELY CLEANED MY HOUSE, ALL MY CLOTHES AND MY CAR, GOT RID OF ALL ASHTRAYS AND TOLD MY HUSBAND AND 21 YEAR OLD SON TO NO LONGER SMOKE IN THE HOUSE. I NEEDED TO BE FREE OF ANY LINGERING RESIDUE OF CIGARETTE SMOKE AND THE AWFUL SCENT THAT CLOGGED THE FIBERS OF MY CLOTHES. I ALSO DISINFECTED MY HOUSE ABOUT THREE TIMES OVER.
5) I CHANGED TO A BRAND THAT I LOATHED WHICH IS MENTHOL AND BEGAN TO EXPAND THE TIME I WOULD LIGHT UP A CIGARETTE. WITHIN A WEEK I WENT FROM SMOKING A PACK AND A HALF A DAY DOWN TO 8 CIGARETTES. I ALSO KEPT MY CIGARETTES IN VERY INCONVENIENT PLACES MAKING SMOKING MORE OF A CHORE. THE POINT WAS TO 'DELIBERATELY SMOKE' INSTEAD OF HOW I HAVE BEEN LIVING MY LIFE THE LAST 26 YEARS WITH THIS ADDICTION. IT'S A MATTER OF RE-WIRING EVERYTHING I HAVE DONE WHEN IT CAME TO MY SMOKING.
I CONTINUED TO DO THIS UNTIL I GOT DOWN TO HAVING ONLY 3 CIGARETTES A DAY AND THEN FINALLY I JUST STOPPED! THAT'S IT! I NEEDED TO WORK WITH MY MIND AND "*TEACHING*" IT NEW MESSAGES, NEW IMAGES AND A NEW WAY OF LIVING.
I WILL SAY THIS, IT HAS NOT BEEN EASY AND THERE WERE DAYS THAT I JUST WANTED TO CRY BUT OVERALL I HAVE TO SAY THE WAY I DID THIS MADE THIS PROCESS LESS PAINFUL THAN GOING COLD TURKEY. I AM NOW FREE! I AM FREE TO DO ALL THE THINGS THAT I COULDN'T DUE TO MY SMOKING ADDICTION. I AM NOW FREE TO WORK MY BODY IN WAYS I COULDN'T AND LEARN TO LIVE A MUCH CLEANER LIFE!
I CAN NOW CONTINUE WITH CONFIDENCE THE SCHOOLING I HAVE BEEN DOING IN LEARNING CRYSTAL HEALING AND REIKI AND OTHER HOLISTIC PRACTICES KNOWING THAT I NO LONGER LIVE WITHIN A "SMOKE SCREEN" AND FOR MY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY I AM TREATING MYSELF TO A SPA RETREAT VACATION AS I AM SAVING UP ALL THE MONEY I WOULD HAVE SPENT ON CIGARETTES TO GO TOWARD THIS VACATION. I'M THINKING EITHER HAWAII OR SEDONA, AZ!
I'M VERY PROUD OF ME!
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Ta1Ta Chapter 15
- The Ta'ainvel -
- By Khan -
15.
A few weeks went by and Jonas received his promotion.
Charlotte brushed up on her knowledge on flying and was
soon training with a simulation of the actual pilot
controls. The Humans were both very excellent pilots their
force commander reported to Jante.
A few more weeks went by with little break in routine
and finally, at four p.m. a Monday afternoon, Charlotte for
the first time walked into the bridge as a member of its
crew.
Jante had unconsciously avoided having Charlotte
anywhere close to Ayshala but now he realised that he
hadn't wanted Ayshala to be able to react to the fact that
he loved a Human, another woman.
Now she walked towards where the two, Jante and
Ayshala, stood near the central. The floor was completely
bare, as all three chairs were down in the airlocks beneath
them, red rings where the command stations used to be, and
all of them had a clear view of each other.
Ayshala studied Charlotte with frank curiosity, softly
sniffing the air. She glanced at Jante, and then did what
Jante had hoped for all along but never imagined she would
do.
She stepped forward and embraced Charlotte.
"Be welcome Charlotte," she said warmly to the startled
woman.
"Charlie, call me Charlie," was all Charlotte could
produce.
Ayshala stepped back a little behind Jante and waited.
"Well Charlie. Now you are here. Now you are a pilot.
Nervous?" Jante looked sideways at Charlotte.
"No I'm not nervous at all. Of course I am nervous you
daft cat. Its not every day I get to work as pilot on a
starship."
Ayshala raised an eyebrow at the word 'cat' and several
of the other people working on the bridge turned to look
with amusement at their new commanding officer.
Jante cleared his throat. "Yes, well. Shall we get on
with it then?"
Ayshala responded by speaking a code into her
communication device, then saying "Initiate pilot system,
new functions. Proceed with start-up."
The rear hatch opened with a hiss, letting the command
station rise into the bridge and thud into place.
"Configure system for three pilots, Commander Jante
e'Darin, First pilot Ayshala b'Fairn and Second pilot
Charlotte Westings," she continued.
Charlotte responded to the computer asking her to take
her place at the command station. She sat and placed her
hand on the scanner and the computer reported it had
registered the new pilot. She stepped off the chair and it
sank back into the floor.
"Right, that's that. Now we have two hours left on this
shift, then we're off duty, all three of us," Jante said.
"I'll miss the bridge, I'll admit that," Ayshala said.
"Even if we had the same routine on the way to earth, I
still loved to pilot this oversized tub. Now the
astrogation computer does all the piloting."
"True, its not a fitting place for pilots to spend
their time off the bridge but what can we do," he replied.
"Nothing, for eight more years."
Jante contacted the other ships and received reports
that they also had closed down the pilot section of their
bridge. They had also begun to train a third pilot as they
found the system a clever one. To split the ship's
responsibilities on three was easier on the pilots as well
as on the people living in the ship. On the other two
ships, however, the commanders had decided to retire and a
message soon came to Jante that the commander of the
Handrillian had also decided that her time was up. The
three former starship commanders were still respected and
obeyed but they were no longer sought out for orders.
A year passed and Jante decided it was time to do
something about his and Charlotte's relationship. One night
he took her to the restaurant in the rear dome and after a
pleasant evening asked her to be his Mate.
"Oh, I thought I was already mating with you," she said
with a wry smile.
"You misunderstand. Being someone's Mate is in your
society called being married."
She happily said yes and that night they became Mates.
The ceremony, Jante explained, was ancient and had been
conducted in nearly the same way for thousands of years. He
said it was a return to nature of sorts, a primal mating
ritual.
There was a small garden beneath the Sanctum that was
reserved for this ceremony, a meadow with wild flowers and
several stands of trees. The garden was allowed to grow as
it pleased and was in the eyes of the Ta'ainvel a holy
place.
That evening Jante took Charlotte to the garden. He
took her just inside the doors and removed all she was
wearing except her overall. He carefully let out her hair
that was tied into a bun and allowed it to fall over her
shoulders, then removed all of what he was wearing himself,
except his blue overall. When she looked up she gasped. The
ceiling of the room was five yards above her and made of a
transparent material and through the ceiling she could see
water. The central lake of the Sanctum lay just above and
Jante had opened the huge hatch in between to emit
starlight refracted by the ever-shifting waves of water.
The result was a ghostly light, but not frightening, that
played over the meadow and the trees.
He let the claws of his right hand extend and told
Charlotte to stand still. When she stood there silently
looking at him he swiftly raked his claws beneath a
startled Charlotte's chin. As the overall slid off her in
shreds he quickly made sure he hadn't touched her with his
claws.
Whispering into the darkness he said, "I know you don't
have claws, so just tear the overall off me."
So she did, ripping open the zip that ran down the
front. He stepped out of the overall and leaving it by the
door, and after removing both his and her underwear, took
Charlotte's hand and walked naked across the starlit
meadow. He took her to a spot at the centre of the large
room and motioned for her to sit down. He gave her a small
knife and then lightly cut Charlotte across her cheek with
a claw.
She understood and did the same with the knife. Jante
touched the blood in Charlotte's face and traced out three
lines running down and halfway underneath his own chin with
it. She did the same. He then leaned forward and gave her a
kiss, putting a clawed hand around her neck. With his Mate
in his arms, Jante lay down on the starlit grass.
The ceremony would be simple, he had said, and it was.
When the lights in the Sanctum above started to come on
and lighten the dark meadow, Jante woke from his sleep
beside the naked Charlotte. He gently roused her and took
her hand walking towards the doors out of the garden.
They reached the doors and found two neatly folded blue
overalls lying by the wall.
"There is another part of the ceremony but that is now
more symbolic than needed. There was a Watcher, a person
who saw to the two Mates and that they were not disturbed
by anyone, or anything. Now their task is simple, take the
old overalls and replace them with these new ones."
Jante bent down and picked up the smaller one for
Charlotte, then put the other one on.
"Ayshala asked to be Watcher," he continued, "do you
mind?"
"No, I don't mind. I've know Ayshala long enough to
love her as a sister," Charlotte replied smiling.
She got into the tight overall and when she noticed a
stripe of gold threads tracing the joint between her hip
and her left leg from the small of her back to the crotch
of the overall, she asked about it.
"I have one as well," he replied and pointed to it.
"Its a sign of our union, a sort of wedding ring you Humans
would say."
Outside they found their things as they had left them
and put those on as well. They walked hand in hand through
the lighted corridors towards the bridge.
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Friday, December 5, 2014
Active Characters
Well, on pondering the outcome of the finale on Sunday night, I decided it was a perfect example of why we popular fiction authors write proactive protagonists.
For those of you not addicted to this show, (that I swore I would NEVER watch when I first heard the premise, but find more addictive than crack -- not that I've tried crack, just saying), the final two contestants were Amanda and Pavarti. Two very pretty girls who'd both been contestants on previous seasons and were part of the original "favorites" tribe.
I read a few blogs about the outcome and I think it's fair to say that most fans of the show expected Amanda to win. The final winner is based on a vote of the last 8 people voted off the show before them, and so it's expected that the players who have done the most backstabbing will lose, because the "jury" is raw from just being turfed off and often want revenge. That's the way this show normally goes -- the most liked player generally wins at the end -- and so the contestant who gets the power to choose who to take to that final vote with them, typically takes someone the others don't like, and that's what Amanda did in picking Pavarti. Pavarti had flirted with a bunch of the jury members -- men and women -- she'd lied to just about everyone, and she'd staged a coup against one of the most popular and powerful players, Ozzie, who was so angry he wouldn't even let her talk that night.
Now Amanda, in my mind, was no angel in the game. In her "confessional" interviews, (when it's just her and the camera), I thought it was pretty clear that she had a strategy and was pretty smart about the game and pretty smart about who to trust and who not to trust and how to keep people trusting her. She was good at the game.
BUT... In the final tribal council she made a huge mistake. She decided to play the innocence card. She sat there with her big brown eyes wide open and told people how trustworthy she'd been. How she'd been lucky to be in the right alliance. How she'd only lied to people she believed had lied to her. How she'd been really loyal to the people she'd given her word to.
While Pavarti took the opposite tack. She owned up to all her devious actions and, in fact, took more credit for the powerful "women's alliance" forming than I thought she deserved. I know we only see what the producers/editors want us to see, but it seemed to me that Cirie and Amanda were both pretty big players in orchestrating the amazing blindsides these girls pulled off. But Pavarti took the credit/blame. Even as everyone they'd tricked was spitting venom at her, she just sat there, didn't get defensive, and said, "Yes, I did it. I fooled and tricked you all."
And it worked. In spite of everyone saying how much they hated her, the majority of them voted for her to win the million.
Why? I think it was at least in part because Amanda cast herself as the passive character. The one who sits back and lets things happen to her. This let Pavarti take clear hold of the active role. The one who makes things happen.
And the cast, the jury, the people voting, didn't see what we'd seen at home. They hadn't heard Amanda scheming behind their backs as we had. They hadn't seen her taking action. (Except maybe with Erik, but that was so funny, no one except Erik would hold it against her.) So, they believed that Amanda had been passive most of the game and gliding along on the Pavarti ride. And they went with the woman of action.
And I took that as a good lesson for why readers like active characters.
See? It ties in.
Post Script (that I could probably fit in above if I weren't too lazy to do some editing, but I really must get back to my manuscript...)
This outcome was also a lesson about not letting your protagonist cry. I think Amanda's tears, that many took as false the night she chose Pavarti over Cirie, really worked against her. Fresh from seeing her acting job in tricking Erik, many questioned the sincerity of her tears, plus they made her seem weak. Now, I'm a big crier myself, but readers don't generally like their main characters to cry. Just saying.
Wednesday, December 3, 2014
Married Couples Happiest After 3 Years
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Sunday, November 30, 2014
Need Advice On What To Do About Getting My Ex Ex Gf Back
"CARMEN1988T asked: "
Basically I am hoping that you might be able to help me with a plan of action.
The background to my situation is such. A year ago my ex gf and i broke up, it was my fault since I started talking to my ex gf before her. Nothing happened but my gf couldnt take the thought of loosing me and cut it off before she got hurt again and but still she was devastated by me (understand she was married before and her husband cheated on her, and with me she told me she had loved me more then him). I tried everything I could to get her back but someone introduced her to another guy about a month after the break-up (I guess to help her get over me, since she was hurt so bad) and they have been together ever since. Now about 2 months ago, I heard from her. Appearhently she was looking at my myspace page some, and she started to make contact. She has been telling me alot of things like she wants to be with me and she still loves me and so on (understand this is not a girl who plays around or minces words but puts thought into what she says or does). I have talked with her casually and at times she has brought up our past relationship, including how our "love-life" was, and also asks if I have dates and such. So it is obviously something that she is concerned with and has mentioned to me things like how would it effect me if we got back together knowing that she has been with this bf or questions like what if my ex gf or someone else came along. Now she has told me she wants this but it will take time, she also stated that she was very confused because she loves her BF now and doesnt want to hurt him with her decision. Now we have been talking, but she will only allow for texting (only speaking on the phone once in 6 weeks). Ok, well she suddenly starts becoming a little distant over the last two weeks. So from advice of friends I was instructed to back off and give her some space. So I do but I write her the following email on tuesday morning so she knows i am not giving up or anything:
start
I assume that the lapse in communication between us is really your way to give yourself the space and time you had talked about needing for us to be together again.
With that in mind, I am going to (with all my heart) honor that with a hope that you will talk to me when you are ready.
Know I think about you and love you so much.
end
Now I havent heard anything back until wednesday night to which she sends me the following email
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Hey! I hope everything is going well. How did Meg handle the funeral? Is she doing okay? I have just been busy working and trying to straighten a few things out. Hope you are doing good. Jess
end
So i respond immediately with the follwoing:
start
- everything is great. just went under contract on a house. it is NIIIIIIICE! and i am getting a deal too. meg started school today. i am getting things together to start school in a few.
- she didnt go to the funeral. we went to the wake and she couldnt take it another day so we went to "meet the teacher" day and then after we went to the gathering after the burial.
- yep she is ok. that girl can take anything. even her cast doesnt seem to bother or slow her down
- well i hope all is going well with that (referencing the things needing to be straightened out) and you.
end
i received another text from her just asking how my daughter and i are doing and saying that she hopes i had a great day. I responded back. and I got another text from her that basically said "sounds good, well i am off to bed. you two have a good night "
So i have been receiving some text some e-mails, but basically general in nature. Today I saw on her myspace that her BF is taking her to the gulf, but i got a message from her this morning. that doesnt mean it isnt happening tonight, but i want to send her something that says like what are you doing? why arent you trying like you said you would?
Since then I havent heard anything.
My friends tell me to leave it be. Be a man of your word and give her space. Other have told me it is a good sign she wrote back and even better that she is still asking questions.
I just guess i am wound too tight right now. I love this woman more then she or I know and she hasnt given me a chance to prove to her how 1) sorry i am 2) how it will never happen again 3) how much i love her, and 4) how happy we can be together.
Please advise me. Please guide me. Thank you for all the positive and constructive help.
Josette
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Saturday, November 29, 2014
Hajra Mushtaq From Lahore Want Frank Mobile Friendship
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Monday, November 24, 2014
Body Talk Robert Phipps
Good communication is the bedrock on which successful teams are built.
If managers want to inspire, develop and co-ordinate their employees effectively, they must first be able to work out what each of them thinks and feels about their roles.While more managers are recognising this and holding regular conversations with their team members, all too often these discussions are far from the honest, open, two-way feedback sessions they should be. An ability to read and understand body language is invaluable if managers want to find out what's really going on behind their team members' polite smiles.Brian Sounds, a team manager for a large engineering firm, found this out after only a few months in his present job. During an annual appraisal of his warehouse assistant Janice, Brian asked if she was happy with the changes he had made to the upcoming schedule. She replied with an affirmative 'yes' but her body told a different story as she pulled back her head and crossed her arms gripping her bicep with one hand.'From her reaction I could tell something was wrong, there were obvious tensions,' recalls Brian. 'But because she'd said 'yes' - and because I didn't really want to redo the schedule - I chose to ignore them.'Within two weeks of the new schedule's implementation, Brian had received angry phone calls from three important clients complaining about late and incomplete deliveries. In a meeting to discuss the failings, it transpired that the new schedule had left the warehouse understaffed at the busiest points of the week - and that the whole warehouse team felt it was unworkable.'No one had dared to tell me - their new boss - that I'd made a big mistake,' explains Brian. 'But if I'd just probed Janice about her negative body language when I'd had the chance, the problems with the schedule could have been averted there and then.'An enhanced understanding of body language can give managers that extra edge and help make team communication channels run smoothly. When you speak to one of your team, you tend to know instinctively whether or not they have actually taken on board what's been said, be it positive or negative.But, as a manager, it pays to develop this gut feeling into a more concrete understanding, so that you can be entirely confident how your advice, directions, criticism or compliments have been received. If the words and actions don't match, you then have the opportunity to reinforce your message, challenge you team member or store this information for future reference, instead of just accepting their verbal words of agreement.Everybody has their own pattern of behaviour when it comes to body language and, while there are general rules that apply, it is important to observe and get to know each individual's own habits in order to get the best out of them. Managers should study their individual team members over a period of time and learn how they use their bodies to express themselves.The more you know about body language the less likely you will be to misinterpret physical responses in your team. For instance, it is easy to assume that when a person crosses their arms it is a defensive action. This is often the case, but it also can display a relaxed attitude. When people watch television at home their arms are often loosely crossed.There is a close correlation between open arms and legs and the openness of the mind. In one famous experiment in the 1970s, half the students in a university lecture were told to cross their arms and legs and the other half were told to keep their limbs uncrossed. At the end of the session, those students who had uncrossed arms and legs were found to have retained 40% more of the lecture and found the lecturer more amusing.
Reading between the lines:The way an individual sits, stands and walks, the way they gesture with their hands and face, and the direction they move their eyes as they recall their reason for being off sick last Monday morning, collectively reveal what they are truly feeling. Studies have repeatedly shown that the verbal portion of a face-to-face interaction accounts for a small proportion of the overall message being conveyed, sometimes as little as seven to ten percent.The non-verbal indicators actually say far more than the words that are used. Watching someone's head movements is a great way to see if they agree with you on any particular point. The 'no' gesture is so instinctive people very rarely realise they make it. Sometimes it is a microscopic shake, more like a tiny shudder, or they might just move the head one way very quickly, which is usually accompanied with their eyes going downwards before returning their gaze back to you. What you have there is a typical cluster or sequence of gestures that convey a negative attitude.Watch their shoulders too, as these can often indicate how a person feels. Some will raise them high when things are getting tense, others will drop them as though completely deflated by whatever you have just said or done.In many cases it's not the face that gives us the most information, as people know that their face is the main area that others will tend to focus on while talking to them. Usually, it is the rest of the body that shows what's really going on, especially the hands, legs and feet. Being so far from our brains, the legs are the hardest to control. Negative behaviour can often be observed through fidgety leg movements.There is no direct correlation between crossed and uncrossed legs, but if you notice a person has their legs crossed and one of them is bouncing on the other, it is probably a sign of anxiety. By observing a person's leg movements and feet direction you can also see if they contradict the expression they are showing you with their face.If in doubt, go with the body, as the body doesn't know how to tell lies, only the conscious mind knows how to construct a sentence that is different from the truth. The body simply reacts to the stimuli it's just been sent in the form of negative energy, which has to be gotten rid of somewhere - and the legs and feet are more often than not the dumping ground.There are several other straightforward and reliable indicators of mood that managers should familiarise themselves with. If someone is rubbing the back of their head or touching the back of their neck while talking to you, it means they are not finding the conversation interesting.If someone is standing before you with their hands in their pockets, it means they are feeling unsure or suspicious. Excessive touching of the face, playing with hair or jewellery, scratching or nervously ringing hands are all signs of negativity.During a meeting or presentation, you know that you are being listened to intently if the listener is keeping his left hand over the right one, with his palms down. However, if the right hand covers the left one, the person is probably disagreeing with what is being said and is waiting for an opportunity to interrupt. He may also pull his earlobe at the time he is just about to interrupt.If the person you are talking to remains still with their eyes fixed on you while you speak, this shows they are more interested in what you are saying than anything. If you find someone you are talking to is pointing at you with either their knees or feet, it is a clear sign that they are focused right in on you.
Windows to the soul:The way a person moves their eyes can also be highly revealing, especially when they are recalling information from memory. This is very handy to know when listening to someone who might have reason to withhold information, for example, the salesman, the habitual skiver or the office practical joker who has gone too far.When recalling visually stored information, people's eyes move in a particular direction, usually up and to the left, a sign that they are accessing the right hemisphere of the brain, which is responsible for visual picture retrieval. If an individual looks up and to the left while answering a question, then they are generally looking to access the truth and remember what happened.If a person looks up and to the right, they are accessing the left side of the brain responsible for creativity. In other words, they could be making up an answer or altering one into a lie. Watching and learning how someone accesses this information can help you when formulating questions you want to ask them.Although most people follow this left-right rule, there are some who are just the opposite. It is good to determine which is which before jumping to conclusions. You can find out the correct directions of a person by asking some leading questions like 'What was the colour of your first car?' to get a response from memory, and 'What is your opinion of the Prime Minister?' to get a creative response.Our facial expressions are there for the world to see and we have become masters at disguising our true feelings by masking them with the appropriate smile, frown or grimace. However, we still give away our true feelings with 'micro expressions' that flash across the face for less then half a second before they are rapidly replaced with the one you want the other person or people to see.This is something that cannot be controlled, it is an involuntary movement that happens without our conscious intervention. These unconscious signals are incredibly reliable indicators of someone's emotional state or attitude towards you and your point of view.Managers who want to know a team member's true feelings about something should watch out for their first instant reaction when the subject is raised. It's all very well knowing what to look for in others, but, as a leader and manager, there are several things people will look for in you.By controlling what you say with your own body language, you can ensure you make a positive and lasting impression. When addressing a group, for example, your posture is one of first things people will look at to judge whether or not you mean business.By standing up when you present to a group you instantly give yourself a better presentation than when seated, as it opens up the chest and helps you breathe better, giving you more oxygen to your brain and helping you think more clearly. It also has the added benefit of raising your height, which subconsciously adds weight to your message and lets others know to take what you say seriously.The way in which you look at people will also tell them how serious you are, as we have different types of gaze. Most of the time we look at people from the right eye over to their left and then down to the nose, mouth or chin. This is known as the social or friendly gaze and if you continue with this while trying to discipline someone, they will not take you as seriously, as if you simply change your gaze from going down to the nose, mouth or chin and instead remain fixed on a point just above and between their eyebrows, suddenly they will know you are completely serious.If, on the other hand, you are seeking to gain rapport with someone, one of the simplest ways to achieve this is to breathe at the same rate as they are. Breathe out as they talk and breathe in when they do. This is something the conscious mind would find very hard to notice, but it has the effect of quickly putting you in sync with them and making them feel completely comfortable in your presence.This is known as mirroring or matching and it works wonderfully providing you are not too obvious. When Brian Sounds recognised just how valuable it would be to be able to read body language accurately, he quickly enrolled on a specialist course which helped him to identify and respond appropriately to his staff's gestures and movements.'I am now far better at recognising when my team members are unsure, anxious or angry about something, and can address these problems quickly and confidently,'explains Brian, whose department has flourished under his leadership. 'I can also modify my own body language to make sure I'm giving off the right signals when it matters, so I'm not only better at communicating, I've also found it's helped me be more influential at work - and in life in general.'
Closed-off negative postures include:1) Shoulders hunched forward show a lack of interest or feelings of inferiority.2) Rigid body posture reveals uptight and anxious.3) Crossed arms can simply be because a person is cold or it can be a defensive action protecting the body4) Tapping fingers indicate agitation, anxiety and boredom5) Fiddling with hands or objects shows boredom or the person has something to say.
Open positive posture include:1) Leaning forward is generally a sign of interest.2) Fingers placed over the mouth with head tilted slightly shows they won't interrupt.3) Maintaining good eye contact.4) Nodding approval as you speak.5) Rubbing chin shows they're considering what you've said.
Thursday, November 20, 2014
Speed Dating Over 50 Boston
SPEED DATING OVER 50 BOSTON
Dating Advice For Men
When you start doing this you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar making her more and more attracted to you since youre the kind of guy who wont just do exactly what she wants....
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Sunday, November 16, 2014
030 Undercurrents
UNDERCURRENTS
Written by & copyright of Foxonian Foxonian@aol.comFeaturing Cassie, her band and Foxonian
Cassie, the Rock & Roll Vixen
http://www.cassietherockvixen.furtopia.org
Please read the prequil, "engagements," featuring Featuring Foxonian, Vanessa (Cassie's mother) and Dominic at http://www.cassietherockvixen.furtopia.org/engagements.txt
Please read the sequil, "Contemplation," featuring Cassie, Cindy (Cassie's bassist), Victor (Cindy's boyfriend) Shiva (Cassie's security chief) and Gandalf (Shiva's companion) at http://www.cassietherockvixen.furtopia.org/contemplation.txt
All characters created by & copyright of Earl Bacon except Laretta, who is created by and copyright of Andre' Cotton, Alex, who is created by and copyright of Donna Fritz and Vixina, who is created by and copyright of Cloudchaser Shaconage
"Undercurrents"
"Hey Cass! Let me see it! Wow! That's a really nice diamond!" Laretta said as she got a chance to see the engagement ring that the red fox vixen furry morph sported on her left paw hand. "Thank You," Cassie began, "I know that some of you had sort of figured out that this would happen sooner or later,so Foxonian and I decided not to keep you in suspense any longer." Both Cassie and her fiancee, a tall solidly built human, sat on a two seat sofa with his arm round the tall furry morph red fox vixen, dressed in her usual sleevless light blue thigh-slitted dress, accented by the black neck choker with it's oval centered blue gem around her neck and light brown nylon stockings on her human like legs. Two light blue pumps lay on the floor next to the sofa, since Cassie had her human-like stocking covered feet curled up under her as she sat next to her lover,her right arm wraped around his waist.
"So,when's the big day?" Cindy asked. "Next year. We're looking at some day in August. It's between both of our birthdays and it's usually when the band goes on hiatus," Foxonian replied. "Okay. I can see that," Cindy said as the snow leopard casually pushed one of her braided "bangs" out of her left eye. "Who's going to be your bride's maid?" Alex, the little arctic fox asked. "Sorry, kiddo. I got dib's on that job." Cindy said with a grin. "Nothing's certain yet. We aren't going to do any serious planning until at least after next Christmas,"
Cassie said, noticing with a certain delight the look of shock on Cindy's feline face. "What's wrong Cindy? You look like you just saw a puppy get hit by a bus," Rachel said with a not of concern.
The snow leopard was about to say something to the doe furry morph when she noticed Cassie giving her one of those
"I'm just pulling your chain" kind of smiles. Cindy then said, "Naw. I'm just thinking about something. I'll let you what it is later. Ah think thet y'all should hav' a southern' style weddin'. Mah beau Cloud knows of a really nice ol' plantation near Atlanta thet yew kin rent out fer weddin's an' sech," Vixina said. "Yeah Cass!
That's great! I can just picture you in a Scarlet O'Hara type wedding dress. Big hat on your head, and Foxonian can dress up a like one those Southern colonel types." Alex excidedly said. "Oh, wow! I can just picture that." Cindy began," It would look like an ad for KFC. Instead of a bouquet a flowers, we would have a bucket of chicken!" With that, the snow leopard began to roar with laughter.
Vixina, with a pissed look on her fox-like muzzle, picked up a rolled up magazine and gave Cindy a wrap across her head. "Ow! Hey! What gives?" the snow leopard asked. "Yew kin be so insensitive sometimes. I was serious. This is Cassie's an' Foxonian's weddin' were talkin' bout here. Not some big joke! Dunncha even care that ya may have insulted them? Ther' sittin' rahght thar, fer pete's sake!" the red fox vixen said with a loud voice that nearly knocked her oval glasses off her fox-like muzzle. As Vixina went over to sit on the small chair next to Rachel, Cindy began to say to Foxonian and Cassie, "I-I'm sorry guys. I was just having some fun. I didn't mean to.." Casssie smiled shook her head and replied "I know you didn't Cind. But remember,the rest of thses ladies haven't known you as well as I have. Let's be a little more considerate of the rest of the band's ideas, okay? They all have a right to their ideas and they have as much say as you do."
"Sorry,Vixina," Cindy said to red fox vixen morph who was looking at her with a slight stern look. "Thet's allright. But yew watch yerself from now on, heah? Not ev'rbody lahkes bein' made fun of," Vixina said with a slight smile on her muzzle. "Gotcha," Cindy said as she sat up, strightend out her black t-shirt and matching black leather mini-skirt Excuse me guys, I gotta use the lady's room. I'll be back in a bit." The snow leopard then put on a biker boot on each of her human like fur-covered feet and walked out of the lounge, grabbing her black leather hand bag. When she entered the bathroom, Cindy reached into her handbag and pulled out a small silver flask.
"Thanks for being so supportive of us. You guys are the best," Foxonian said to the group, just before his cellphone went off. After a few minutes, Foxonian turned off the phone and said to Cassie, "I gotta go, love. That was Andy. He wants to have a meeting with some of our sponsors about an upcoming event. I'll give you a call when it's over." The human then addressed the group. "Sorry I'm going to miss the show tonight, but I know you guys will be great! Tell Cindy I had to go and I wish her the best tonight. Bye Guys!" After a round of good-byes, Cassie then put on her pumps and walked arm in arm with Foxonian as they headed out of the lounge and down toward the main lobby. As they got near the ladies roon, Cindy came out and said "Foxonian. Are you leaving?"
Yeah. Gotta take the red-eye out to LA for another meeting.I'll stop by and let Vic know you are okay. Any message for him? Yeah. Wait a sec." Cindy went over to the hotel's main desk and asked for a paper and pen. The snow leopard then gave the note to Foxonian. "Thanks Foxonian," Cindy then gave the human a peck on the cheek before saying, "you are so lucky Cassie to have a great guy like him. I used to envy you until Vick came along.
Bye Foxonian! Thanks again!" Cindy then went back to the lounge,as both Foxonian and Cassie watched her with concern.
"Did you smell her breath? " Foxonian asked. "Yes," Cassie said with her eyes closed. "Damm it! Does Vick know about her little "problem"? the human asked as he started to walk arm in arm with Cassie towards the main entrance. "I'm not sure. But I think he suspects, judging from the conversations I have had with him. When you see him, I would rather you didn't tell him just yet," Cassie said. "Okay. But we both know her pattern quite well. Once she starts, she goes to pieces. You remember what we discussed after the last time?" Foxonian said as he looked into Cassie's cat-like pale blue eyes.
"I know," Cassie began with a sigh, "If she goes that way again, she's out. I really wish it doesn't come to that. She's been one of the best friends I have ever had. It breaks my heart to have to do that. I don't know if I can" Cassie then wrapped her arms around her fiance and buried her head against his chest. Foxonian kissed her on her left ear and said "Shh. I know, I know. But we have to think about Laretta, Alex, Rachel and Vixina. You saw what happened today. I hate to say this, but you have been giving Cindy an awful lot of leeway over stuff, just because you guys have known and played together for so long.
That's not smart, Cass. I know that Cindy's been playing longer than everyone else, yourself included, but that doesn't mean she's the defacto '#2' in the band. I know that you wanted your band to be a family, but you gotta be a little more fair and start to rein in Cindy a bit. You know what will happen if you don't? Remember Furrosity and all that mess? I'm speaking as a member of the band's mangement now, not as your lover. You know that." The vixen nodded and said, "I know. It doesn't make it any easier to hear. Okay. I'll keep that in mind. I'll have a talk with Cindy and lay it all out for her. Thanks for being objective, love. I appreciate that."
Cassie and Foxonian then had apassionate muzzle to lip kiss in the lobby, with Foxonian stroking the vixen's large bushy fox-like tail that came out through a slit in her blue dress, just above her butt. "I'll call you tomorrow, my love. Be good," the human said as he parted from his fiancee' and climbed into the taxi that was waiting at the front entrance of the hotel. "I will. You be good too." Cassie said as she waved to the human. The red fox vixen furry-morph stood for a monent and watched the cab drive off, the wind causing her extremely long black head hair to blow in the breeze and with the hem of her blue slitted dress to blow up, revealing more of her grater straps and stockings than she felt she could get away with outside of a stage show.
As she walked back into the hotel, pushing the front of her dress down as she walked against the wind, she saw Cindy walking tword her. "Did he get off okay,Cass?" the snow leopard asked. "Yes. Are you busy right now? Cassie asked. "Naw! I was just going get something in the food court. Why?" the snow leopard replied. "Mind if I join you? I need to talk to you about some things," Cassie said. "Sure! Let's go. Anything you want, Cass." Cindy said as she walked over to the food court. Cassie let out a small sigh and followed her.
