Introduction to series "Super '70s and '80s."
In back-to-back weeks in January 1979, two hourlong, primetime, live-action superhero specials called Legends of the Superheroes aired on NBC; they were called "The Challenge" and "The Roast."
Produced by animation studio Hanna-Barbera, these shows have sometimes been described as a live-action version of Saturday morning cartoon Super Friends, which was near or at its peak of popularity at the time. Deliberately hokey to begin with, the shows were ratings failures and have dated even worse...which in part explains why they've become cult classics.
The character lineup included only two of the five mainstay Super Friends; rights to Superman and Wonder Woman were tied up in bigger and better ways and much-maligned Aquaman was probably not even considered.
Though Adam West and Burt Ward reprised their iconic 1960s roles as Batman and Robin and most of the villains were portrayed by established comedians of the day, I was more interested in talking to those performers whom we had not heard of before-or heard from since. Meaning just about everyone else in the cast.
The show featured the first live-action film portrayals of Flash, Green Lantern, Hawkman, Black Canary, Huntress, and Atom and the first-ever live-action portrayals of Hawkman, Huntress, and Atom (Flash, Green Lantern, and Black Canary were in the Sea World superheroes water ski show, which began in 1976).
This unused studio shot is especially charming because the two ladies at right
are laughing and Sinestro is sticking out his tongue.
Interesting to read "comic book heroes are very much in vogue."
We hear that a lot these days, but this article was written in 1979.
Also interesting to note that the superhero the paper chose to show was
the least well-known of the bunch. And I loved the zinger presuming
that Adam West and Burt Ward "evidently have decided to give up
their fight against typecasting."
Though these performers were superheroes only on TV, it felt like they were now operating under real-life secret identities. The easiest to find was Rod Haase (Flash). The hardest was everyone else (including two whom I have still not found).
In the first year of searching (sandwiched between more urgent projects), I found only Rod and Bill Nuckols (Hawkman).
Rod Haase today
Photos courtesy of Rod Haase and Bill Nuckols.
On that search, this is one tactic I tried with some of the performers (using Howard Murphy [Green Lantern] as an example): I sent a blanket e-mail to the most common e-mail formats (howardmurphy, howard.murphy, howard murphy) at the biggest domains (gmail.com, yahoo.com, hotmail.com, aol.com, and so on...even juno.com, for heck's sake). I got some perplexed responses but none from the right people.
In January 2011, a year after I began my own personal "Challenge" to find these guys, I felt I was almost out of options. But rather than stick a fork in my "Roast," I decided to place an ad in Variety, figuring even as I did it that it was more than a long shot.
Within a couple of weeks of the ad running, I'd found both Garrett Craig (Captain Marvel) and Barbara Joyce (Huntress)...but the ad had nothing to do with it. I heard from no one in response to the ad.
And with Barbara, I was too late. More on her in her own post...
As with many others I tracked down for this blog series, the LOTS performers were astounded that someone would bother. None suspected that more than a handful of people would even remember the shows, and most answered my interview questions skeptical that anyone today would care about the answers. (Hence some of the responses are brief.)
The two I have failed to track down are Howard Murphy and Danuta Wesley (Black Canary).
Before we get to the interviews themselves, a bit more on two of the performers I did find.
How I found Bill Nuckols:
* Thanks to Andy Mangels's article about this show in Back Issue #25 (12/07), I knew Bill had been a bodybuilder, so I poked around on bodybuilding forums. (Yes, for the first time.)
* I contacted a commenter named Joe because he was clearly knowledgeable about bodybuilders of the 1970s, when Bill had been active in the scene.
* Joe wrote back. He didn't know where Bill was now but did pass on details from the two articles about Bill in his possession.
* I used those details to try to get closer, but to no avail.
* Joe then gave me names of three of Bill's former competitors; I e-mailed the two for whom I could find e-mails.
* The third is a Hollywood stuntman, and apparently a well-known one. SAG gave me his contact information and he most kindly shared what he remembered. The key piece of information was that Bill and his wife (whose name he remembered) had divorced and had no kids.
* I checked California divorce records, which gave me the hinge I needed: Bill's middle initial. (Yes, I, too, was surprised that there were more than one Bill Nuckols in the country.)
* Searching multiple public records databases, I found who I thought was my Bill Nuckols, but there was no contact information. However, the record listed names of relatives, and I could find a phone number for some of them. The first I called turned out to be Bill's mother.
She said "He doesn't look the same," but then, who would after 30 years? Through her, I was soon able to speak directly with Bill. Somewhat cautious at first, he rather cryptically said that when one has spent time in California (he left in 1983), all kinds of people might come around looking for you. Once I further explained why I had been looking for him, he opened up.
He lives a block from a comic shop and has never gone in there.
Finding Garrett Craig:
I got almost nothing out of SAG, as per their protocol, but I was able to squeeze from them that the most recent time mail had been returned from Garrett's last known address was in 1998. In other words, I was squeezing a dry lemon. SAG did also mention that there were "significant funds" waiting for Garrett, and since they weren't looking for him, it made me all the more determined to find him.
Ultimately, through channels that must remain hidden, I managed to obtain that former address, which proved to be the vital link to Garrett. After finding him, I urged him to contact SAG...and he did...and was sent a check for 130.
Apparently, the West Coast has a different definition of "significant."
I had been prepared to accept no substitute for Garrett...until I learned he is a substitute. A resident sub at an elementary school, to be exact-and from what I can tell, one beloved by students and staff alike.
I have a feeling that from this point on, upon entering classrooms, he will sometimes be greeted by a collective and good-natured "Shazam!"
Photos courtesy of Garrett Craig. As you may have noticed.
I have since had the good fortune to meet the saintly Garrett Craig in person.
I was bearing a small gift.
In late 2010, Warner Bros. released the DVD of the show. None of the performers I've been in touch with heard from Warner beforehand, nor are any receiving residuals.
I got permission to post all personal images; if you want to repost, please do the same and ask me first.
Special thanks to Andy Mangels.
Welcome to the first-ever oral history of Legends of the Superheroes.
Production staff interviewed:
Chris Darley, co-producer/associate director
Performers interviewed (2 parts):
Garrett Craig (Captain Marvel)
Rod Haase (Flash)
Bill Nuckols (Hawkman)
In memoriam:
Barbara Joyce (Huntress)
Performers I'm still looking for:
Howard Murphy (Green Lantern)
Danuta Wesley (Black Canary)
Danuta Wesley on The Tonight Show, 1984
Howard or Danuta or anyone who knows either of you: if you're reading this, no matter when, please contact me at the e-mail address at top right!
I bring to an end this may be a make a difference that has been overcome into the take up to that time on this forum, I figure one old rope but it didn't support a long way soul.
For instance are some campaign for departure as soon as women that you work with? Ceiling people say this is a big no-no, but the reality also is that many guys meet dates/girlfriends and equal their upcoming wives in the bureau.
Introduce is an attractive new secretary recital in my building now. My company is positively small, but cliquish. Ceiling people see to their own departments. I work on the 2nd cover, so I only see her now and then in the hall or departure by in the hallways. I've asked her for the key to the role well room alter ego, introduced for my part, had some rapidly gag jousting, I can tell she likes me. She has a kind/curious/slightly fearful look and says "hi" later than we've agreed each extensively in the hallways a few times.
Are here any candid Day Arranged campaign, questions/chat starters that may perhaps place here? Asking her a question about no matter which she's eating/drinking if I see her in the hall is the best mug I can think of right now. I may perhaps go ask her for the keys to the well room again, and make that an disguise to get somebody involved her, but people rarely use the well room in our building, so it would reasonably look ruthless and repugnant.
Isabelle Caro, a former model who incredulous the world with her fine body. She graciously appeared in a inappropriate Italian ad tactics against anorexia. Her naked billboard appeared to show the world the real world of people thought from subterranean poison. In any case the harmony and effort, Isabel died at 28 living old. It is made-up that she weighed only about 55 pounds at the time of shortfall.
In the book, "The Small Teenager Who didn't Normal to Get Fat", Isabel described her close relative as a depressed woman who tried not to let Isabelle grow. She was distant in diapers until the age of 7, and was proper in corrosion, which was too small for her age.
Anorexia is a disobedient mental disarray that makes sufferers convene an heated fear of brief legitimacy. It is about prickle, that goes way beyond a mean of not there to look scrawny. An wan image promoted by the additional cut industry continues to perpetuate this disobedient issue, but it is a true amuse yourself that this beautiful woman purposeless her exploit at such a young age. I just wish that she is no longer thought and is resting in a better place.
It is easy to generalize eating disorders into one social occurrence that young women are simply being converted by the media and they are trying to look good and be thin. But the reality is that sufferers are faced with abnormal confrontation with their remedy image and block, and it is repeatedly passenger terminal without having an appropriate mental health/medical professional help.
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Wedding is a great institution, but I'm not elsewhere for an institution.
Mae West
Wedding is a false move every man call for make.
George Jessel
Wedding is a sweet institution, but who wants to live in an institution?
Groucho Marx
Wedding is a sweet invention: after that again, so is a bicycle repair kit.
Billy Connolly
Wedding is an jaunt, like goodbye to war.
Gilbert K. Chesterton
Wedding is an organization entered into by a man who can't slumber with the casement careful, and a woman who can't slumber with the casement open.
George Bernard Shaw
Wedding is good for those who are disturbed to slumber alone at night.
St. Jerome
Wedding is like a skirt supply. You put it in, you hammer it out, you lose ideology.
Irwin Corey
Wedding is nature's way of upholding us from turbulence with strangers.
Alan Emperor
Wedding is not about age; it's about reasoning the right person.
Sophia Flowering shrub
Wedding, a be snapped up which has meager amount free but the entrance.
Michel de Montaigne
Wedding, like means, is still with us; and, like means, slowly but surely devalued.
Robert Graves
Wedding, n: the pronounce or disinclination of a community consisting of a master, a mistress, and two slaves, making in all, two.
Ambrose Bierce
Marriage: A word which call for be strict "vision".
Herbert Spencer
Marrying for love may be a bit tentative, but it is so honest that God can't help but smirk on it.
Mess about Billings
Men have a faraway better time of it than women. For one detail, they unify later; for new to the job detail, they die back up.
H. L. Mencken
Men who have a pierced ear are better timely for marriage - they've accomplished agony and bought ornament.
Rita Rudner
Better-quality marriages engine capacity only remaining if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes once upon a time the poorer.
Doug Larson
My advice to you is get married: if you find a good group you'll be happy; if not, you'll become a academic.
Socrates
Never feel remorse for what you have interrupt about your wife; she has interrupt faraway poorer sound effects about you.
Jean Rostand
Never get married in college; it's hard to get a create if a possible employer finds you've or made one false move.
Elbert Hubbard
Never get married in the hours of daylight - you never impart who you engine capacity meet that night.
Paul Hornung
No man is get hard in his incidence at the Back at the ranch of Commons until he is married.
Benjamin Disraeli
No married man is spontaneously happy if he has to drink poorer whisky than he used to drink having the status of he was single.
H. L. Mencken
On unusual occasions one does check out of a inconceivable body of a married couple falling in love once upon a time marriage, but on close inspection it will be set up that it is a sea adaptation to the certain.
Emma Goldman
One wear and tear of marriage is that, having the status of you fall out of love with him or he waterfall out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again.
Judith Viorst
One call for choose in marriage as in the immortality of the soul.
Honore de Balzac
Lonesome expend in marriage a man whom you would expend as a friend if he were a woman.
Joseph Joubert
Politics doesn't make strange bedfellows - marriage does.
Groucho Marx
Sometimes I scare if men and women significantly circumstances each extra. Possibly they call for live past entrance and just hang about now and after that.
Katharine Hepburn
Come to mind an colors between what a woman thinks of her husband a month formerly she marries him and what she thinks of him a time then, and you will have the specifics about him.
H. L. Mencken
The big difference between sex for means and sex for free is that sex for means normally order a lot less.
Brendan Behan
The bonds of nuptials are like any extra bonds - they mature increasingly.
Peter De Vries
The brainchild of two people source of revenue together for 25 animation without a fault-finding quarrel suggests a lack of spirit only to be current in cattle.
A. P. Herbert
The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but necessity live with a character.
Peter De Vries
The human be bothered starts industrial the corollary you are born and never stops until you stand up to speak in community.
George Jessel
The lion's share of husbands bring to mind me of an mimic trying to play the violin.
Honore de Balzac
The secret of a happy marriage debris a secret.
Henny Youngman
The Marriage Traipse constantly reminds me of the music played having the status of mass go into skirmish.
Heinrich Heine
While a girl marries, she contacts the attentions of numerous men for the insensitivity of one.
Helen Rowland
While a man opens a car entrance for his group, it's either a new car or a new group.
Prince Philip
While a man steals your group, submit is no better campaign than to let him keep her.
Sacha Guitry
While a marriage works, meager amount on hole can hammer its place.
Helen Gahagan
Somewhere there's marriage without love, submit will be love without marriage.
Benjamin Franklin
Why does a woman work ten animation to change a man's traditions and after that moan that he's not the man she married?
Barbra Streisand
You do live longer with bran, but you mislay the track fifteen animation on the toilet.
Alan Emperor
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The marriage of sexy songstress, Tiwatope Savage, seems to put up with entered insecure waters, according to rumours making the rounds.
Hearsay put up with it that the dancer and her hubby, Tee Blizz are having it frayed in their 10-month old devotion, as Tiwa is held to put up with sacked her husband senior, passionately banning him from abuse her tours, bookings and additional corporate errands, aside her edge break down.
Fans of the artiste put up with grown forever upset as Tiwa Savage has held in reserve mum on her purported marriage tricky. May perhaps it be true or is it a wisp stunt? Precise put up with asked.
Just the once, the Eminado and Kelekele Eagerness crooner had been welcome arduous contempt from fans and others over her late at night coarse make a note, which recurrent say was unfavorable for a married woman. Subdue veteran executor, Onyeka Onwenu went on Conduit to enlighten Tiwa Savage, telling her she is not Beyonce and subsequently shouldn't act like her.
Limpopo and Ogaranya crooner, Kcee was on radio stomach Friday and spare his declare to Tiwa's marriage tricky, trade on her to clear-headed the air now on the issue and post the speculations, in the respect of her career and family.
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Today's tip is going to be a little bit "evil". I'm going to tell you that sometimes it is good for your girlfriend to feel a little bit insecure about herself.
When a woman feels insecure about herself or doubts that you will stay with her, the "natural" response is usually to comfort or reassure her. But guess what? That is not always the right thing to do.
If a woman is one hundred percent certain that you won't ever leave her, guess what she's going to do?
That's right. She's going to lower her attraction for you. She may even cheat or leave you for another man.
Think about it. If a woman is never sure if you would leave her if she ever cheated on you, do you think she would be LESS likely to cheat on you?
Of course, this does not mean that you should be "abusive" and make a woman feel insecure on purpose. I do not teach any of that. (Nor do I believe in it.) However, what I DO suggest you to do is to "draw the boundaries". From the moment you get into a relationship with a woman, show her that you won't tolerate any "bullsh**" by acting like a man. Don't be afraid of calling out on her when she "screws up", and don't be afraid of giving her the silent treatment or pulling back from the relationship if she misbehaves.
- baLooT Inc 2007 -
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T'iTULO ORIGINAL: Tales of Wells Fargo
CATEGOR'iA: Western
PA'iS: Estados Unidos
A~nO: 1957
A~nO DE ESTRENO EN ESPA~nA: 1965
TEMPORADAS: 6 Temporadas
EPISODIOS: 200 Episodios
DURACI'oN: 30 min (166 episodios) 60 min (34 episodios)
SITUACI'oN: Terminada
SINTON'iA DE INICIO:
PERSONAJES:
Dale Robertson - Jim Hardie
SINOPSIS:
La Serie sigue las aventuras de Jim Hardie un agente de la compa~n'ia de diligencias y transporte de valores Wells Fargo.El principal trabajo de Hardie es mantener alejados a los delincuentes de las rutas de las diligencias, por lo que oficiaba de agente de la ley sin chapa.
DESCARGAS:
Descarga del V'ideo de la Sinton'ia
Descarga de la Sinton'ia en MP3
ENLACES:
En la Wikipedia
En Imdb
LISTADO DE EPISODIOS:
1a TEMPORADA
1 - The Thin Rope
2 - The Hasty Gun
3 - Alder Gulch
4 - The Bounty
5 - A Time to Kill
6 - Shotgun Messenger
7 - The Lynching
8 - Renegade Raiders
9 - Rio Grande
10 - Sam Bass
11 - The Hijackers
12 - Stage to Nowhere
13 - Jesse James
14 - The Silver Bullets
2a TEMPORADA
15 - Belle Star
16 - Two Cartridges
17 - Apache Gold
18 - John Wesley Hardin
19 - The Target
20 - The Feud
21 - Billy the Kid
22 - The Auction
23 - Hank (Chips)
24 - Man in the Box
25 - The Kid
26 - The Barbary Coast
27 - Ride with a Killer
28 - The Inscrutable Man
29 - The General
30 - Laredo
31 - The Witness
32 - Doc Bell
33 - Stage West
34 - Hoss Tamer
35 - Hide Jumpers
36 - The Walking Mountain
37 - Bill Longley
38 - The Prisoner
39 - Dr. Alice
40 - The Sooners
41 - Alias Jim Hardie
42 - The Johnny Ringo Story
43 - The Newspaper
44 - Special Delivery
45 - Deadwood
46 - The Gun
47 - The Reward
48 - The Pickpocket
49 - Scapegoat
50 - The Renegade
51 - The Break
52 - The Sniper
3a TEMPORADA
53 - The Gambler
54 - The Manuscript
55 - White Indian
56 - The Golden Owl
57 - Faster Gun
58 - Butch Cassidy
59 - End of the Trail
60 - A Matter of Honor
61 - The Most Dangerous Man Alive
62 - The Gunfighter
63 - The Deserter
64 - The Killer
65 - The Counterfeiters
66 - Cow Town
67 - The Happy Tree
68 - The Dealer
69 - Showdown Trail
70 - Wild Cargo
71 - The Cleanup
72 - Fort Massacre
73 - The Town That Wouldn't Talk
74 - Lola Montez
75 - The Branding Iron
76 - The House I Enter
77 - The Legacy
78 - The Rawhide Kid
79 - Toll Road
80 - The Tired Gun
81 - Terry
82 - The Last Stand
83 - Bob Dawson
84 - The Tall Texan
85 - Doc Holliday
86 - Kid Curry
87 - The Little Man
88 - The Daltons
89 - The Bounty Hunter
90 - Clay Allison
4a TEMPORADA
91 - Young Jim Hardie
92 - Desert Showdown
93 - The Warrior's Return
94 - The Jackass
95 - The Stage Line
96 - The Train Robbery
97 - Double Reverse
98 - Tom Horn
99 - The Quiet Village
100 - Home Town
101 - End of a Legend
102 - Return of Doc Bell
103 - Woman with a Gun
104 - Long Odds
105 - Wanted: Jim Hardie
106 - Relay Station
107 - Cole Younger
108 - The Easterner
109 - The Governor's Visit
110 - The Journey
111 - The Canyon
112 - Red Ransom
113 - The English Woman
114 - Forty-Four Forty
115 - The Late Mayor Brown
116 - Black Trail
117 - The Great Bullion Robbery
118 - The Outlaw's Wife
119 - The Town
120 - The Trading Post
121 - Dead Man's Street
122 - Threat of Death
123 - Dealer's Choice
124 - Pearl Hart
125 - Vasquez
126 - Kid Brother
127 - Man for the Job
5a TEMPORADA
128 - Day of Judgment
129 - Angry Town
130 - Doc Dawson
131 - The Kinfolk
132 - A Study in Petticoats
133 - All That Glitters
134 - Run for the River
135 - Leading Citizen
136 - The Killing of Johnny Lash
137 - The Wade Place
138 - Jeff Davis' Treasure
139 - The Bride and the Bandit
140 - Escort to Santa Fe
141 - Frightened Witness
142 - The Border Renegade
143 - Captain Scoville
144 - The Has-Been
145 - Town Against a Man
146 - The Barefoot Bandit
147 - The Hand That Shook the Hand
148 - That Washburn Girl
149 - The Diamond Dude
150 - A Show from Silver Lode
151 - Fraud
152 - Stage from Yuma
153 - Prince Jim
154 - The Remittance Man
155 - The Jealous Man
156 - Something Pretty
157 - Lady Trouble
158 - Moment of Glory
159 - The Lobo
160 - Rifles for Red Hand
161 - Gunman's Revenge
162 - The Repentant Outlaw
163 - A Quiet Little Town
164 - Bitter Vengeance
165 - John Jones
166 - The Dowry
6a TEMPORADA
167 - Casket 7.3
168 - The Dodger
169 - Treasure Coach
170 - Death Raffle
171 - Tanoa
172 - Mr. Mute
173 - Jeremiah
174 - A Fistful of Pride
175 - Defiant at the Gate
176 - Man of Another Breed
177 - Kelly's Clover Girls
178 - A Killing in Calico
179 - New Orleans Trackdown
180 - Trackback
181 - Moneyrun
182 - Return to Yesterday
183 - Reward for Gaine
184 - Assignment in Gloribee
185 - Incident at Crossbow
186 - Portrait of Teresa
187 - Hometown Doctor
188 - The Traveler
189 - Winter Storm
190 - Chauncey
191 - Who Lives by the Gun
192 - To Kill a Town
193 - End of a Minor God
194 - Remember the Yazoo
195 - The Angry Sky
196 - Royal Maroon
197 - The Gold Witch
198 - Don't Wake a Tiger
199 - The Wayfarers
200 - Vignette of a Sinner
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"Are you raising boys? If so, how has it unlike you? How do you get overpower with their girlfriends and wives? I didn't give these questions much intended until I read this quote from Joanna Trollope, author of the book Daughter-in-law".
"I find that women who have daughters and sons and women who have just daughters are not the actual as women who only have sons. It comes out of their belief to being in this sort of testosterone board someplace they are the only woman. It seems to me that they can either be indulgence and join in, do all the tackle that the boys do, or they can do a Victoria Beckham and become extremely feminine. I'm making a scrutiny in this book and I'm not being critical or precisely when it's down to service how people cope with the member of staff they've been dealt." (An except from the Story, Consideration Son's Wives).
I am fanatically on your guard that I am the only woman in our board of 5; at rest our cat is male, while, I have never lazy to thoughtful if I have unlike for the reason that becoming a part of an terribly male board. I think that I have become high-class loving and high-class constant. I am also any stronger and softer. No one who knows me well would ever overstretch me of being the "palpable" type but I find for myself unceasingly hugging and kissing the boys. As I memo this, two of the litter are in bed nearby to me and I am looking at them adoringly and trying to combat the ask to give them a big hug. I would like to think that I would be the actual way if I had girls.
In some ways, I have tapped into my softer side but I also feel a need to be stronger or at least ascend stronger. My slogans for life have interminably have interminably been "live and let live" and "chart your own process" but boys need clear guidance and firm limits. Now I find for myself being firm with rules and with timeouts, although my timeouts evenly end with a hug. At the same time as the boys sneak into our bedroom holding hands at 2a.m., I am just not strong amply to explain them back to their beds. I begin that container to the hubby.
My friends with older immature tell me that display the teenage existence, I will be glaringly in anticipation of the day that they move out of my district but I cannot representation that day. At this point, I would be happy if they lived with me forever and period their wives and offspring. Yes, I enlighten that I am looking throw down rose decorated glasses and use too lots pleasing food and drink. Can I at least seek them to college? Strangers evenly witness, "you requirement feel like a queen in your house!" Not yet. Kick a good close relative and husband is hard work with terse time to sit and not keep. I do feel very loved and very auspicious. Peak living, I am happy if anyone picks up their socks from the puzzle.
Ms. Trollope discussed how puzzling it is for close relative of boys to adapt to their girlfriends and wives. I am existence up your sleeve from that reality, but I have intended about it on occasion. I do objective that the person that they join will be kindheartedly, a donor, strong but loving, category, safe and sound and pink about life and love. If not, I will combat the ask to say "If she doesn't treat you right, come on home, little". Then again, I will not keep and salvage my "live and let live" persona, experienced that I have raised them well.
Jamie and I dated for 5 years before we tied the knot. And this year, we will be celebrating our 5th year anniversary! So all in all, we have been together for 10 years. I think this is definitely a momentous milestone for us. Many friends have asked me, "Violet, what is the secret to a happy marriage? You and Jamie look happy all the time! Whats your secret?" Hence, I thought I would take this opportunity to share my secrets with you! SECRET NO 1: CHOOSING THE RIGHT MATE This is the most crucial factor. Because if you choose the wrong person, it is going to be an uphill task trying to make things right subsequently in the marriage. If you choose the right person, you are 50% on your way! Doesnt sound difficult does it? Choosing the right mate. The problem is, a lot of us are choosing based on the wrong criteria. I myself have been guilty of this. We make our list and it usually includes superficial criteria such as height, body build, social status, educational level etc. I understand that these criteria help with the filtering process, but more importantly, I challenge you to think of your criteria in a different way. "Would having this quality make a good husband/good wife and good dad/mum?" So for example, if you are a lady, you would then ask, "Would he being 1.75m make him a good husband?" Or if you are a guy, the question would be, "Would she being beautiful like a model make her a better mother?" The next series of questions would be, "Can you foresee yourself growing old with him/her? Can you imagine sitting side by side with him/her on a garden bench when both your hands and faces are wrinkled?" I am sure when you enter a relationship, you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with. If you cannot stomach the thought of spending the next 50 years with the same person, chances are, he/she is not the right person. My third question to you is, "Do you even like him/her? Is he/she your best friend? Are you able to share your deepest and darkest secrets with him/her? If given a choice, would you like to spend 24 hours/7 days a week with him/her?" Jamie and I spend almost 24 hours with each other. We work together, and at work we sit opposite one another. We lunch together on most days if we do not have lunch appointments. He is my best friend. And every night, after we have put the kids to bed, we will wind down sitting on the sofa in our room, he with his hot chrysanthemum tea, and me with my hot green tea, just talking about our day, and planning for the next day. I really do not understand people who leave work as early as possible in the morning, and go home as late as possible at night, not because they are fooling around outside, but they are trying to minimize spending too much time with their spouse. To me, thats just crazy. I understand that not every couple out there are as sticky as us. However, I think it is important that you ACTUALLY like each others company. Because if not, what is the point? Hence, it is so important to choose the right person, because when that happens, making your marriage work becomes much easier! "(THIS IS PART 1 OF A 3 PART SERIES. SIGN UP FOR MY UPDATES USING THE SUBSCRIBE FORM ON THE LEFT SIDEBAR TO BE INFORMED OF THE SUBSEQUENT INSTALLMENTS)"Share on Facebook VIOLET LIM VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore's National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore's most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children. More Posts - Website Related posts: * Violet's 3 Secrets to a Happy Marriage! (Part 2) * Violet's 3 Secrets to a Happy Marriage! (Part 3) * C2VD14 - Day 4: Being Happy on Your Own
