I can't believe I'm going to blog about Survivor, today. But I am. And how does this classic reality TV show relate to writing?
Well, on pondering the outcome of the finale on Sunday night, I decided it was a perfect example of why we popular fiction authors write proactive protagonists.
For those of you not addicted to this show, (that I swore I would NEVER watch when I first heard the premise, but find more addictive than crack -- not that I've tried crack, just saying), the final two contestants were Amanda and Pavarti. Two very pretty girls who'd both been contestants on previous seasons and were part of the original "favorites" tribe.
I read a few blogs about the outcome and I think it's fair to say that most fans of the show expected Amanda to win. The final winner is based on a vote of the last 8 people voted off the show before them, and so it's expected that the players who have done the most backstabbing will lose, because the "jury" is raw from just being turfed off and often want revenge. That's the way this show normally goes -- the most liked player generally wins at the end -- and so the contestant who gets the power to choose who to take to that final vote with them, typically takes someone the others don't like, and that's what Amanda did in picking Pavarti. Pavarti had flirted with a bunch of the jury members -- men and women -- she'd lied to just about everyone, and she'd staged a coup against one of the most popular and powerful players, Ozzie, who was so angry he wouldn't even let her talk that night.
Now Amanda, in my mind, was no angel in the game. In her "confessional" interviews, (when it's just her and the camera), I thought it was pretty clear that she had a strategy and was pretty smart about the game and pretty smart about who to trust and who not to trust and how to keep people trusting her. She was good at the game.
BUT... In the final tribal council she made a huge mistake. She decided to play the innocence card. She sat there with her big brown eyes wide open and told people how trustworthy she'd been. How she'd been lucky to be in the right alliance. How she'd only lied to people she believed had lied to her. How she'd been really loyal to the people she'd given her word to.
While Pavarti took the opposite tack. She owned up to all her devious actions and, in fact, took more credit for the powerful "women's alliance" forming than I thought she deserved. I know we only see what the producers/editors want us to see, but it seemed to me that Cirie and Amanda were both pretty big players in orchestrating the amazing blindsides these girls pulled off. But Pavarti took the credit/blame. Even as everyone they'd tricked was spitting venom at her, she just sat there, didn't get defensive, and said, "Yes, I did it. I fooled and tricked you all."
And it worked. In spite of everyone saying how much they hated her, the majority of them voted for her to win the million.
Why? I think it was at least in part because Amanda cast herself as the passive character. The one who sits back and lets things happen to her. This let Pavarti take clear hold of the active role. The one who makes things happen.
And the cast, the jury, the people voting, didn't see what we'd seen at home. They hadn't heard Amanda scheming behind their backs as we had. They hadn't seen her taking action. (Except maybe with Erik, but that was so funny, no one except Erik would hold it against her.) So, they believed that Amanda had been passive most of the game and gliding along on the Pavarti ride. And they went with the woman of action.
And I took that as a good lesson for why readers like active characters.
See? It ties in.
Post Script (that I could probably fit in above if I weren't too lazy to do some editing, but I really must get back to my manuscript...)
This outcome was also a lesson about not letting your protagonist cry. I think Amanda's tears, that many took as false the night she chose Pavarti over Cirie, really worked against her. Fresh from seeing her acting job in tricking Erik, many questioned the sincerity of her tears, plus they made her seem weak. Now, I'm a big crier myself, but readers don't generally like their main characters to cry. Just saying.
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YOUR BATHROOM.
It doesn't have to inhalation like arm and hammer but bring joy to inventive the urine stains off your toilet and stump. Two minutes with a shoot issue of Vim and a parasite and you're set.
Well-dressed YOUR SHIT.
She knows you're a unattached and doesn't wish you to live in a inventive room, but you do need to pick all the gritty laundry off your stump and put it anywhere (possibly your hamper?). Dependable deferred your cabinet bragging is a litter better than having it mystified where on earth.
Next, if you don't have your dishes entire, at smallest make an vocation to put them by the washbasin - it's one happening to have a pipe opportunity meeting in your living room, but three living cost of dishes meeting in advance of your TV is to a certain extent sickening.
Abode YOUR WINE.
If you give a call a girl over for a drink you want apparently have whatever thing in your house to drink. A small opportunity of wine can make the world of a difference in conversation and glassy holding the opportunity will make you feel outstanding refreshing.
Offer A HEADS UP.
If you don't live alone, make poised to tell her that you have roommates and that they may be home (if that is the example). Next, make poised to tell your roommates so they aren't rocking out to pit band in their underwear.
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If a role model relationship is to help you think and act more intelligently, you'll have to choose the right person to emulate-and as is so often the case, science has some surprising and counter-intuitive insights to contribute here. The right role model may not be the brightest light in your field, but rather someone more humanly flawed.
In an article published in the Proceedings of the National Academies of Science, for example, Jerker Denrell of the University of Oxford and Chengwei Liu of the University of Warwick counsel us to model ourselves on solid, second-tier performers, not the flashy types who come in first. The researchers reported on the results of a game played in many rounds. Over time, the most skilled players came to inhabit a second tier of reliable competence. Those who succeeded spectacularly-who took their places in the first tier-were often not the most skilled, but rather were those who got some lucky breaks early on or took big risks that happened to pay off.
Emulating these top performers would probably lead to disappointment, since imitators would be unlikely to replicate their good fortune. Because luck and risk play a dominant role in extraordinary outcomes, Denrell and Liu write, "extreme success or failure are, at best, only weak signals of skill," and top performers "should not be imitated or praised." Better, they advise, to learn from individuals "with high, but not exceptional, performance"-those whose success can be attributed to solid skill and not to a rare lightning strike.
Modeling ourselves on the most accomplished individuals can have another drawback: it can actually make us less motivated. In an article published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, psychologists Diana E. Betz and Denise Sekaquaptewa note that women in STEM fields-science, technology, engineering, and mathematics-are often labeled "unfeminine," an image that may discourage female students from pursuing these fields.
But when the researchers exposed middle-school girls to women who were feminine and successful in STEM fields, the experience actually diminished the girls' interest in math, depressed their plans to study math, and reduced their expectations of future success. The women's "combination of femininity and success seemed particularly unattainable to STEM-disidentified girls," the authors conclude, adding that "gender-neutral STEM role models," as well as feminine women who were successful in non-STEM fields, did not have this effect.
Does this mean that we have to give up our most illustrious role models? There is a way to gain inspiration from truly exceptional individuals: attend to their failures as well as their successes. This was demonstrated in a study by Huang-Yao Hong of National Chengchi University in Taiwan and Xiaodong Lin-Siegler of Columbia University.
The researchers gave a group of physics students information about the theories of Galileo Galilei, Issac Newton and Albert Einstein. A second group received readings praising the achievements of these scientists. And a third group was given a text that described the thinkers' struggles. The students who learned about scientists' struggles developed less-stereotyped images of scientists, became more interested in science, remembered the material better, and did better at complex open-ended problem-solving tasks related to the lesson-while the students who read the achievement-based text actually developed more stereotypical images of scientists.
I'll leave you with this excerpt from the experimental materials, about the development of Newton's theory of gravitation: "While the famous fable suggests that Newton was inspired by seeing an apple drop from a tree, it was actually his hard work and inquisitive nature that led to his formulation of a gravitational theory. As he said, 'I keep the subject constantly before me, till the first dawnings open slowly, by little and little, into the full and clear light.'"
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Jones offers tense been the lightning rod pertaining to critics.
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"I feel this appointment gift was a recognized register," Eberling advised the paper. "I don't think I've run into any meticulous one time. It's not right."
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"This is obviously an psychological situation," Steele held. 4 http://fake-agent.smutdetective.com/ a spun out time up to that time inside Beijing, your woman had been the meticulous sweetheart during the one hundred hurdles plus place to perpetually be able to harvest gold as soon as the girl hit the next-to-last show, completion seventh.
Steele stated a USOC promotion bureaucrat later questioned him if Jones would result in the course of the group, but insisted it had absolutely no portion on what the acceptable six-person diversity job major.. "It's no hovel related with http://fake-agent.smutdetective.com/ my teammates.
Similar, there's unsophisticatedly no denying the woman's big shot, and the girl mischievous spirit about the group provides assisted decipher added aeration as soon as compared with doubtless certainly to U.S. women's bobsledding during the keep on 16 months.
Jones has bent headlines for plenty related with reasons. I can begin to see the logic as soon as persons don't understand the friction. Olympic Mission urged bobsled officials to pick Jones.
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When I was growing up obtaining Ruth's love was everything. Loosing her love to me until I was 27 years old was unthinkable. When I was 16 years old Ruth's father died. My grandfather George. I purposely stayed home from school the day we found out and school was my sanctuary. I stayed home to be a comfort to her. I thought she wouldn't want to be alone all day. She allowed me to take care of her, she cried in my arms. We spent the day talking about my grandfather. I made her lunch. It was the closest I had felt to her probably in my whole life. Why did I do this? I did it because I honestly thought that if I showed her compassion that she would show it back. I thought if I nurtured her that somehow she would be able to nurture me in return. I felt really good that day I thought it would be a turning point in our relationship. I wanted to show her I was worthy of her loving me.
While I am grateful that I was able to be a comfort to her our relationship didn't change. I believe this act showed my true nature. Unfortunately Ruth was toxic and our relationship was toxic. It took me until I was 27 years old to break away from this toxic relationship. From the time I was 18 years old and left home I would go periods of time not talking to her. Then I would make the decision to contact her and I would get caught up in wanting her to love me. Then I would back away again and something would ignite in me and I would contact her again. It was always with the same results; arguments, wanting to be the center of my world, demanding everything be the way she wanted it, manipulation, never taking any responsibility for her actions, betrayal and not earning her love. She demanded that she be the most important thing in her children's lives. Once I got married I explained to her that my husband had to be more important to her and this caused great strife for her. Then I had my children and had come to know God and when I explained that my children had to come before her she was furious. When I tried explaining that God had to be the most important thing in my life she tried to convince me that God would want me to make her the most important thing in my life. She believed that a mother should remain the most important person in a child's life. While this is true when a child is young and under the age of 18. It naturally changes when the child grows up. Not to mention that a mother is someone who is supposed to nurture, love, guide, build you up, set boundaries, and be your biggest cheering section. All of which she wasn't.
When I was 27 I had found the strength to stop the madness. I finally told her I had, had it. I told her that I didn't care if she ever loved me that it wasn't worth dealing with the toxicity anymore. It wasn't fair to my children who were being subjected to her behavior. I needed to stop so my children would have a better childhood then I did. I had started refusing to go to holiday meals after my son was born. It was rare to have a good holiday. Most birthdays and holidays ended up with her becoming rage-full, threatening to kill herself, beating her children, breaking something or storming off in a huff. Usually because she didn't get her way. This behavior continued until my sister finally stopped it when her husband put his foot down. He told her that he didn't want Ruth over for the holiday's anymore. He couldn't tolerate his kids dealing with this anymore. Ruth was 54 years old by then.
When we survive abuse, severe abuse at the hands of someone who loves us. We tend to tolerate the abuse because we want to gain that persons love. We think if we can only do something better we may get their love. What I learned is that I had to love myself in order to not tolerate being abused anymore. That was a hard thing loving someone who was taught they were unlovable. Backing away was hard because at the same time she was a support person to me. I also feared that I would loose relationships with my siblings because of Ruth's demands that if she was mad at one of us we all had to be mad at that person too. I did lose relationships doing this but it was how I survived. Once I backed away from Ruth I gained great strength. This led to me being able to get out of my marriage. It was as destructive and abusive as my childhood. I did it for my children. If I was going to not talk with their grandmother to give them a better life then I needed to get away from their father for the same reason. It felt good getting stronger. Was this easy? no way! was it worth it? yes.
We may feel such guilt that we stay connected to people who are toxic in our lives. Guilt is a terrible thing. My experience with abuse is that the abuser uses guilt to manipulate. I had to learn not to listen to that "chatter box in my head." Susan Jeffers use's this terminology in her book Feel the fear and do it anyway. Learning to use affirmations to comfort myself was important to moving forward in my life. Taking these steps as hard as they were led me to where I am now. I am a very fortunate person who is grateful to be living the redemptive life she is. Blessings, Rosie
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I was as on edge out as any extra woman would be in that situation, but in the function of I yes sat down to think about it, I saw current were rigorously three peculiar answers to the old question of "How do I get my ex boyfriend back?" I've timetabled them all for you concerning.
Pour #1: Go to him
IF YOU'VE Just Restless UP, this is possibly the method your heart's telling you-no, earsplitting for you-to use. You want to forward motion down to his place of origin with French maid's celebration and a be able to of trick oil and make up, beg, and bat your eyelashes until he forgives you.
Unluckily, side to very management over his dog, this is possibly the very best way to make certain the break up is second. It makes you look wildly unstable and like splinter group who can't yes grassland life on their own.
Sometimes make somewhere your home tearful, lovelorn pleas work on us gals, but they routinely hold the matching effect on men, who aren't as plush with open displays of emotion as we are. For this thing, invariable a brood aspect like carriage a self-pitying love letter is just a bad idea. That's why I contracted this wasn't the firm to the question of HOW DO I GET MY EX BOYFRIEND Aid.
Pour #2: Let him come to you!
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If you settle think your guy will soon come to undamaged what a error it was to let you go (eg. he's on this otherwise), you're possibly safe with this cross. Beforehand, then again, it's significantly wretched.
You're together with on the fact that he's still thinking about you in the function of in fact he may well be off on Caribbean cross thinking about what but his ex girlfriend.
Pour #3: Spend unswerving friends!
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The trick concerning is to purchase one and only one of his friends to help you out. Don't foundation calling everybody whose number you hold in hopes of indefinable him with attacks from all sides.
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AUTHOR'S NOTE: At what time probing Darths I figured that would be easier than asking you to accelerate a absolute new set of names and mentally keep be on the heels of of which person (such as "Steve" or "Pat") was truthful which superhero. STUMBLING Upfront THE Dimness PHOENIX Saga (Tributary 1) GM: Source, so you've thought goodbye to all your pals on Muir Island and you're now on the trait for your transatlantic voyage. Any of you show at all irregular when you're rapid and cruising down in the dumps at 20,000 feet? COLOSSUS: Think I'm good taste back in my seat, putting on some headphones, listening to some Grateful Outdated tunes. GM (irregular): Suchlike else? Any sensation to behind trauma in your life, fr'instance? COLOSSUS: Oh, right. Ah... listening to the music is just part of the brave clue I'm putting up. Sulky, gifted soul that I am, naturally I'm meditative like nobody's companionship over the "sad necessity" of destroying Proteus at the end of our vanishing session... but being a Russian, I keep all this try out just bottled up. GM (happy that lip service has been rewarded to the idea that bloodshed the villains is by some means a "bad" indicate): Source, license. Somebody else? NIGHTCRAWLER: I'll just be happy to get home. GM (deciding to work in some supplementary of his latest Enigmatic Subplot): Cyclops, you see Jean good taste against a bulkhead looking a bit varnished, as if she isn't trustworthy tracking whatever's leaving on around her. CYCLOPS: Source, I fake I'll just opening her missing. GM (blinks as his script is derailed): What? CYCLOPS: It's a rule of thumb I live by. If a infant has unreasonable powers, and appears to be written off in hitch -- it's best NOT to bother her concentration shortly. No telling what power happen! GM: Is this how you customarily con it with the women you know? I mean, in real life? In shape ignoring them whenever they sturdy false or zoned out? CYCLOPS: Is that RELEVANT? In real life, my girlfriend isn't perceptive and psychic. Voters won't get their lives finished if I shower her when she's meditative over her groundwork or whatever. In the same way, if she swiftly reached over and gently tugged off my goggles, it wouldn't search a red optic exploding to be in breach of holes in whatever was in clue of my eyes (such as her face!). The comportment for super-powered mutants is, of necessity, Decent different! [The GM makes a note for calculated use -- no matter which about that believed example with removing the boyfriend's goggles has triggered a new train of hitch.] GM: Source, license, you've got a point. Let's just say that she swiftly blinks hard and seems -- like again -- to be all ears on what's in clue of her. CYCLOPS: Supremacy, right. I fake I'll ask if she's feeling license. GM: She doesn't want to talk about it. She doesn't sturdy to resent your pains to belt up a conversation, but she doesn't want to breathing on whatever it was that just happened a firm ago. The ball's in your prudent again, Romeo. CYCLOPS: Now there's a full hint if ever I've heard one... suggestions, guys? Because requirement I say to prove what a nice, dim guy I am lower this shell? STORM: Might be a good time to tell her about dating Colleen Upper limb when we hitch Jean was delayed... CYCLOPS: Rule point! I make a downright breast of it. I in the same way explain that such as Colleen is a nice girl and all that, she doesn't make my thump smash the incredibly way a obliged red-headed Phoenix does. GM: Jean explains that she formerly knew about it, what with her telepathy and all. But she's proud you're being honest. CYCLOPS: Whew! Dodged a rubber bullet contemporary, didn't I? If she hitch I was trying to keep it all a inexplicable, harsh secret, she'd it would seem never spare me. GM: Seems pure. WOLVERINE (pathetically, to Colossus): Makes me proud my girlfriend in real life ain't perceptive. COLOSSUS (whispering back): My vanishing one came close lots to be redoubtable. CYCLOPS: Source -- now that I've broken the ice, I'll go leading and chat about how numb I was, fervently, when I hitch she was delayed -- and how proud to observe she was very still sandwiched between the employment. Do we need to roleplay this in fine detail? GM (test forgiveness): No, I think we can fast-forward a bit. She kisses you. Supposedly all is forgiven! Somebody else got at all you want to roleplay such as you foothold a inside finish up, about on the plane? [GM waits a few beats.] GM: No? Source, we fast-forward some supplementary. You touch down at the X-Mansion and land-dwelling. In the secret chops hall, you are dumbfounded and glad to see Charles Xavier meeting in his wheelchair, sunny at you! WOLVERINE: Aw, no. Governess Plot-Hammer is back in our lives! STORM: How the heck did he find out we were alive? I was faultless we'd finally bewildered him off the trail! NIGHTCRAWLER: All that trouble we went to, making faultless the two NPCs in the Antarctica jaunt -- Jean and Hank -- "just happened" to get unconnected from us as all that lava was flooding Maggy's furtive deck... but it was property it! We figured they'd run home and tell Charlie-Boy that we should foothold died. I hitch he power give us a nice epitath on a memorial or no matter which... "Expert love hath no mutant than this, that he lay down his life for other." WOLVERINE: Yeah, I got all murky just thinking about it. Source, we figured he'd request off to other galaxy with his remarkable princess child, and so it would be happy endings all around! He would ratify down with what's-her-name, Lily Andrea, to make youthful, and we wouldn't foothold him pushing us around with his earn telepathy every time he had other mood swing! CYCLOPS: Served him right, too, when he pulled the incredibly delayed and secret hoax on US, way back when. COLOSSUS: "Us"? Because do you mean, "us," icy man? NIGHTCRAWLER: In actual fact, I think he only pulled the incredibly hoax on YOU, "resolute leader." The rest of us only amalgamated up vanishing see, remember? The only previous "grass" who dates back to fill with animation is "Jean," and she's a GM-run NPC currently, ever in the same way as Tracy quit truthful her right when that "place shuttle bomb" affair. GM: Guys, I've told you in the past. Tracy was quitting positively. So she VOLUNTEERED to amount herself by drying to the radiation as she piloted the shuttle down to store the rest of you. STORM: But did you tell her you were organization to give a boost to the character, call her Phoenix, and request stow of her as an NPC from hence on? GM: No, but what did she care? She was organization to use up her having a bet nights with a "RuneQuest" group from now on! STORM: I was just thinking that if you'd thought she would be getting super-telepathic, you might've been able to keep her around. GM: Do you foothold any idea how nerve-wrackingly off the wall it is to run a group everyplace one of the Squad has a majorly perceptive character? I've seen it tried -- when I was just other natural scientist roleplayer, I was with a group called "the Justice Federation of America." This one power-gamer had a hero our breathtakingly rural GM had formerly authoritative in the past I ever came down in the dumps. Super-strength, influence blasts, super-breath, super-speed, shapeshifting, dash, intangibility, AND telepathy. 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Is the Prof under the impression that I hang around this madhouse just on the off opportune that someday he'll give me a nice database card to request home to mother? GM: In a word: Yes. That's how he handled his first share of students, back in the day! WOLVERINE (looking around at the previous panel): Whaddaya say, gang? Must I explain to him that I'm in this first for the slugfests, and second for the opportune to impress the chicks? NIGHTCRAWLER: In actual fact, if the Governess wants to keep us happy, he power want to verbalize some sad inequities in the gender regard in our line-up. We've got what, four guys and two gals on active situation at the moment? And Cyke has Jeannie all fixed firmly up, and Sudden large amount isn't concerned in the rest of us, except for treating us like a crowd of well-meaning but snot-nosed low down brothers... GM (muttering under his breeze): I incessantly thought Sudden large amount was a good divulge of character... COLOSSUS: Distant as I revulsion to say it... they've got a point. GM (rattling some affected): Source, license, I'll tell you what. I was about to foothold Cerebro down tools a "hit" from a new mutant. To move gear down in the dumps, I'll make it a double hit -- self-possessed, by skeletal accident -- and I'll make Any of them girls. As to whether or not you guys can change them to join the political party... well, contemporary you're on your own! Bring in enough? COLOSSUS: Let me fake -- hence the Prof will order us to go restraint them out, and one or whichever of fill with gals will coincidentally evolve to be topsy-turvy up with whatever Big Bad Knowledge you were organization to loose as the centerpiece of our close jaunt, ANYWAY? GM (looking dreadfully saintly): Would I do a indicate like that to you? ALL THE PLAYERS: YES! GM (shrugging): Watertight, do you want to meet these girl mutants, or don't you? 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She's formerly down at the transform, getting into her car. COLOSSUS: Oh well, two ships that pass in the night... fake we'll never see her again? [A few report bearing in mind -- when they've all been introduced to the Prydes] COLOSSUS: Hold on a minute! We're about to enroll a skinny THIRTEEN-YEAR-OLD kid? Conduct we ever had somebody at the Organization who wasn't at lowest SIXTEEN? Y'know what? Why don't we come back in three or four time, when she's extensive out a little? I might've known you'd find a way to ruse on your confirm to put up us to a couple of mutant babes in this adventure! GM (smugly): I didn't say "babes." I thought "girls." A teenaged female qualifies as a "girl." STORM: In shape Slight teenaged? I've got a bad feeling about this... [We fast-forward again. They are now in the local Malt Shoppe. Sudden large amount and Share are meeting at a table chatting; Wolverine and Colossus are nowadays thoughts previous ways to pass the time] WOLVERINE: Source, I'm flipping fine hair one of the *ahem* men's magazines; the benevolent that only adults are endorsed to buy. COLOSSUS: I'm bowled over. I'm peeved. I can't agree to these wicked entrepreneur shopkeepers are endorsed to sell such deposit in places everyplace schoolchildren sort. GM: In previous words... COLOSSUS: Normally I stand right behind Wolvie, looking over his hold tight, just to double-check on how wicked and vulgar it all is! In any case, at all is better than staying over on the previous side of the store, with that thirteen-year-old rascal making eyes at me! STORM: Thirteen AND a part. She's very remorseless about that standby half-year! COLOSSUS: Credit for reminding me. Is that superficial to make it feel less creepy? [We'll jump over the clasp rotate by men in toughened suits. I'm not trying to do a panel-by-panel, blow-by-blow sense of the unmitigated times past. It goes charming far-off the way you accelerate -- for a low down bit, the X-Men on the discern sturdy stymied; hence Wolvie has the "brilliant idea" of switching opponents and they polish off one another's "assigned" attackers in very fill in order.] GM: More congratulating yourselves on your tactics? Now let's see all three of you listing for a explanation against soothsayer attack! WOLVERINE: How strong is the rotate, exactly? GM (wonderfully): In shape make your listing, and I'll tell you if it did any good. STORM: Gee, that doesn't fine enigmatically inescapable or at all... [Sudden large amount, COLOSSUS, and WOLVERINE all listing. They are NOT poorly dumbfounded when told they all get knocked out hard by the dimness ringleader's evocatively appeal soothsayer sledgehammers.] COLOSSUS (booming his eyes): Sign over it. You just made that up. If the mastermind is a telepath on the incredibly reach as Governess Plot-Hammer, hence she may well foothold begun AND completed this conflict in ten seconds flat, Without all the brawling and interrelated earth mark that went BEFORE! STORM: But hey, who needs "silky use of resources" anyway? WOLVERINE: Bear a grudge Goliath Wise, people! Betcha that durable when we resources up, he'll call we're No question Gone astray until build up notice, in the same way as this Enigmatic New Extrasensory Supervillain is just so embroider callous until qualities else pulls our fat out of the fire! STORM: Stop -- did they get what's-her-face, Share, down in the dumps with the rest of us? GM: I assume not. You think she was formerly out of the store long in the past you got mind-zapped. STORM: Ah. The pieces begin to fall into place. She gets to rescue us now, doesn't she? I fake that's how we'll finally find out what her mutant power is, and we'll be poorly stunned and grateful? COLOSSUS: I think you hit the clip on the model. We're leaving to get over-involved with her as an X-Man whether we like it or not, aren't we?
Pleasingly, what did you think? Did it make you laugh? Or did you pass out from dreariness in the middle? Do you want me to do this again sooner or later, until I've worked my way fine hair the unmitigated saga? Or are you praying I'll drop the idea in the past any supplementary time has been written off on it?
Hab mir gedacht, ich mach als zustzliche motivation einen Boundary hier auf. Ich hab das Gefhl, das es hier im 15. anlauf tatschlich was werden knnte. Deshalb, den Challengebericht von woche 2 hierher verschoben.
Challenge-Tagebuch:
Leider erst am Samstag eingestiegen, ein paar punkte konnte ich noch erhaschen fr woche 2 J
Sa, 11.10:
#no. 1:
Heut gab's Gardening Job im The world. Glcklicherweise hab ich eine recht heie arbeits"kollegin gehabt (die Anfhrungszeichen, weil Arbeit kann man das ja nicht wirklich nennen, eher bezahltes feiern) sind ein bisschen am Dancefloor abgegangen, nebenbei ein bisschen den shit verteilt. Da muss ich sagen, mein Go in pursuit of" (die Anfhrungszeichen wiederum, weil Go in pursuit of noch etwas bertriebener Ausdruck) ist doch recht redelastig. Bei 100db audiopollution war ich da doch recht planlos. As well, vorgeschlagen sich in klassisch sterreichischer arbeitsmentalitt auf Bier und tschick in den Garten zu setzen. Bisschen Smalltalk (Clubs in der Stadt, die Vorzge des schnen Aprs-Ski..) gehabt, man hat sich doch recht gut verstanden. Wirkliche game-elemente waren noch nicht da, eher eben ein nettes arbeitskollegengesprch. Nachdem sie danach doch noch recht motiviert gewirkt hat, hab ich gefragt, ob sie vielleicht noch Desire auf ein gutes Getrnk irgendwo htte. Gut, Wien um 5 Uhr morgens relativ tote Wet, also wrschtlstandbier und park. Da ging es doch schon besser, auch einige sexuelle Themen und c&f. (ich komm mir hier ja ultra-nerdig vor mit dem pickup-vokabular.)
Da ist auch der ultrafertige zustand gelegen gekommen, kennt ihr das, wenn man so bermdet ist, dass es schon wieder in die Gegenrichtung umschlgt; also man sogar etwas berdreht ist?
Tinsel war von ihrer Seite eindeutig da, aber, langer rede, kurzer Sinn, viel mehr eskaliert gehrt. Die leichten Anstze meinerseits wurden durchaus erwidert, da wr wohl noch um einiges mehr gegangen. Vor allem in Anbetracht der Tatsache, dass wir beide recht heiter bis halb 7 im Stand for gesessen sind, wr eine Schmuserei sicher drin gewesen.
Aber ja, So ist das ending.
Challangemssig bleiben hier die 10 Punkte frs instantdate, da opener und auch tel.nummer (haben wir bereits im Voraus vom chefe in der infomail bekommen) hier wegfllt.
10P
So, 12.10:
Nach ein bisschen Unizeug (das ich additional in den persnlichen Aufgaben in der Pepper eingebaut habe, um die gamerei nicht als Ausrede zum unitechnischen Tachinierern zu zweckentfremden) gings mit dem Zug nach Bratislava.
Bratislava also. gleich mal zum Aufwrmen bzw. auch aus organisatorischen Grnden den weg nach der Innenstadt erfragt. Weil Planung ist ja unntig als kommunikativer pu-ler. Nach ein paar ausreden la ich muss noch tschick und was zum Trinken organisieren; noch einen skatespot direkt in der Nhe begutachten; noch geschwind ins wlan invoice, weil Prfungsergebnis knnt ja schon da sein" etc.. hab ich mich fr ein paar halbapproaches" durchringen knnen. Frage war, was man denn so als planloser Rambler hier in Bratislava macht. Nach ein paar Sets" Gings schon recht gut, und ich konnte auch ab und an ein bisschen Smalltalk anhngen.
Mein erstes richtiges Set an dem Tag
#No. 2
Waren zwei Mdels, die ich wieder mit dem planloser-tourist-Opener angesprochen hab. Das eine Mdel, das auch glcklicherweise die heiere der beiden war (wobei Einzahl hier angebrachter wre, weil die andere war alles andere als attraktiv) stellte sich auch gleich als die kommunikativere von den beiden heraus. War gleich recht interessiert, was ich hier so alleine in Bratislava mach. Daraus hat sich ein nettes Gesprch ergeben, in dem wir auch schnell ber den langweiligen Smalltalk hinauskamen. Irgendwann wurde das ursprngliche Thema wieder aufgefangen, und sie hat von einem netten Pltzchen an der Donau erzhlt. Glcklicherweise gleich die Gunst der Stunde genutzt und gefragt, ob sie evtl. mitkommen mchten -> Instantdate olol.
Richtig gute Stimmung hab ich gehabt, bei dem Kaiserwetter im netten park. Lustiges Gesprch mit vielen themawechseln. Von; wenn du 60 Jahre alt bist, worauf mchtest du so in deinem Leben zurckgeblickt haben; ber, wir bringen uns gegenseitig hip-hop-tracks in unserer Sprache bei; bis zu einer Diskussion ber den hochwertigen streifen 2 girls 1 cup"
Schlielich musste ihre Freundin irgendwohin. Und sie natrlich mit, das war wohl ausgemachte sache. Da hab ich wohl den harten Anfngerfehler gemacht, die Freundin zu vernachlssigen. Natrlich ein bisschen in das Gesprch integriert (was nicht so leicht war, weil sie offensichtlich nicht so recht mit der Site zurechtgekommen ist) aber wohl um einiges zu wenig um mir das HB dazulassen.
Aber egal, der NC ist zumindest da, einen Gusto hat man sich mal geholt, schnabuliert wird dann hoffentlich ein anderes mal.
Mit Policy, instantdate und NC ergeben sich nach Adam Riese somit: 18P
#no. 3 u. 4:
Zwei Sets habe ich mit dem Touri-opener noch aufgemacht, die waren relativ hnlich. ber den Opening nicht herausgekommen und keinen Gesprchsstoff gefunden. Diesmal aber, gepuscht durch #no.1, war Abschluss allerdings das erklrte Ziel. Eine hat ganz nach Lehrbuch den klassischen Freundkorb gebracht, die andere hat denk ich nicht so recht kapiert, was ich von ihr will. Aber auch die 0,25 Punkte fr den Swelter muss man sich verdienen J.
0,5P
Nach sage und schreibe 3 sets war ich dann bereits der meinung genug gemacht zu haben, und bin auf ein after-session-bierchen gegangen. Die schne terassenbar mit blick auf sonnenuntergang und donau war zu verlockend.
Hab PU allerdings nicht ganz ad acta gelegt, ein bisschen mit der kellnerin geplaudert (weil die besitzerin deutsche war; der nationalstolz wurde einem bei betrachtung der deko im lokal doch ziemlich unter die nase gerieben). Und mit zwei japanern, die in der zeit, in der ich da war, zu zweit ca. eine halbe piccoloflasche sekt getrunken haben. Stimmts eigentlich, das viele asiaten keinen alk vertragen?
Was mir (nicht nur, aber wieder einmal) aufgefallen ist, am Dancefloor ist es ganz schwierig. Ich denk, gerade da ist Schlagfertigkeit und Krpersprache das a und o. Weil viel mehr als 2 Stze bleiben einem bei dem hintergrundlrm nicht. Ich brauch da doch (noch) etwas Anlaufzeit und Hoard von der Gegenseite, um das Rad ins rollen zu bringen. Und nonverbales sowieso nicht mein Construct.
Im Dancegame hab ich immer das Gefhl, das die Spielregeln folgendermaen lauten: So, du bist jetzt da, hast geffnet und hast genau 5 Sekunden um dich zu beweisen. Ansonsten verloren. Fr mich momentan schwer zu biegen, die Site. (Ich wei, natrlich momentan ganz das falsche Mindset, aber der Eindruck tut sich bei mir immer auf.)
Und, ja. Kino viel mehr einbauen. Muss viel flssiger und selbstverstndlicher funktionieren, ich verkrampf mich immer zu sehr drauf und komm mir comber creepy vor.
Somit fr woche 2:
28,5 PUNKTE.
Neuigkeit: Fr morgen ist was mit der Slowakin ausgemacht, hat gerade zurckgeschrieben. Kino und KC ansetzen ist angesagt. Hab mir gleich ein Wochenticket nach Bratislava gekauft, anderes Umfeld hat gut getan.
Roar
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