The 2 SIMPLE questions that will help you build a connection with her.
Let's say that you've followed my post on How to Approach A Super Hot Girl in 4 Steps. You've just approached a girl, and you've already made your introductions. Maybe you've fluffed a little bit and you have no idea what to do. Maybe you've been in this situation before and it went nowhere. The conversation dies, awkward silences ensue, and you leave or she leaves. You need more direction. Here's what you can do.
Now, there's just a certain way that I talk. And if you do this too, women will feel that you're LISTENING TO THEM. Asking these questions will instantly push your conversations into a much deeper place. Seriously though, DEEP COMMUNICATION is what gives you insight into their world, into their view of life, their perspective, and most of all is how I elicit a 'Romantic' or any other state. You want your conversations to elicit emotions, period.
People connect on an emotional level. So learning how to have a conversation that triggers the emotions, is pretty important in relationships of any kind, friendly or sexual.
Here's an example that illustrates the difference between 'Deep' and 'Superficial Communication."
WHAT NOT TO DO: Superficial (This is what you want to avoid - it's fine early on, but as you build rapport, go for DEEPER communication).
QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU ENJOY?
SHE SAYS SHE LIKES DANCING:
GUY: 'SO WHERE DO YOU DANCE?'
GIRL: AT SUCH AND SUCH CLUB.
GUY: 'SO WHAT KIND OF DANCING DO YOU DO?'
GIRL: OH TECHNO TYPE GUY: 'SO HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN DANCING?'
GIRL: MY WHOLE LIFE.
See where this goes NOWHERE. But the thing is that MOST GUYS communicate like this!
Now contrast this to 'Deep Communication,' ('X' and 'Y' just represent her specific responses that you can fill the blanks in with).
ME: 'WHAT DO YOU REALLY ENJOY?'
HER: DANCING:
ME: 'SO WHAT IS IT ABOUT DANCING THAT YOU REALLY ENJOY?
HER: I REALLY ENJOY X AND DOING THIS TYPE OF THING.
ME: 'SO WHEN YOU'RE DOING X, AND YOU'RE REALLY STARTING TO GET INTO IT, WHAT IS THIS LIKE?' (YOU ARE EVOKING THE FEELING NOW)
HER: IT'S LIKE 'Y'
ME: 'YOU KNOW WHEN I'VE DANCED BEFORE IT'S ALMOST LIKE YOUR EXPERIENCE WHERE YOU CAN DO X. AND FEEL Y IT'S JUST AMAZING' (AND ADDING YOUR PERSPECTIVE USING HER WORDS!)
By now she's going glassy eyed because she's FEELING so GOOD. Here's another example: She says 'Music,' I'd want to avoid 'Superficial' responses like, 'What kind of music, What groups do you like?' etc. GO with Deep communication:
ME: 'SO WHAT IS IT ABOUT MUSIC THAT YOU ENJOY?' OR YOU COULD SAY, 'SO WHAT DO YOU REALLY ENJOY ABOUT MUSIC?'
HER: SHE SAYS 'I FEEL X' OR IF SHE SAYS I LIKE 'X'. THEN I'D SAY 'SO HOW DOES 'X' MAKE YOU FEEL?'
ME: SO WHEN YOU'RE LISTENING TO MUSIC AND REALLY FEELING IT WHAT IS IT LIKE FOR YOU?'
HER: SHE SAYS 'Y'
ME: 'I LIKE THAT YOU KNOW, I KNOW FOR ME WHEN I LISTEN TO MUSIC IT'S ALMOST LIKE YOUR EXPERIENCE ALSO WHERE YOU CAN FEEL X AND YOU START TO Y. IT'S AMAZING'
Again Glassy eyed! Showing your understanding of the feelings and emotions she experiences with whatever activity they like to do shows that you are genuinely listening to her. It shows understanding and builds a connection with her. She'll like and appreciate you much more for it and you will stand apart from the pack if you do this. Most guys are clueless and don't know how to connect like this. Now you do.
Now go out there and practice. Reading and ideas ain't shit, you have to execute, take action!
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