Monday, November 30, 2009

General Luna And Flawless Celebrates International Womens Day In Sm Cebu City

General Luna And Flawless Celebrates International Womens Day In Sm Cebu City

The country's preferred clinic for face, body and medical services, Flawless, in partnership with SM City Cebu, held a free mini concert that aimed to help spread awareness about gender equality in the Queen City of the South. Staged by a premiere all-female rock band, General Luna.

"Flawless and General Luna share a common belief that womanhood should be celebrated," shares Flawless C.E.O., Rubby Sy. "To this day, women in some parts of the world still don't enjoy the same freedom and rights as men do; we still hear stories of abuse and negligence caused by cultural and social norms. We think that this is something that needs attention. Yes, the fight for women's rights has come a long way, especially here in the Philippines-the world's eighth best place for gender equality. However, the war is far from over. Men and women, civilians and governments, private and public institutions; we all need to come together to make total gender equality come true."

Known for their iconic style that echoes those of Pinoy bands of the 90's, the event proved to everyone that General Luna's artistry goes beyond writing melodramatic lyrics and heart-tugging tunes that captivate the human soul. An advocate of women's rights and gender equality, the group has amassed a cult-like following among today's youth, especially among members of the male species.

Alex Montemayor's captivating bass playing lays the foundation for General Luna's iconic sound.

Pretty and petite Caren Mangaran's guitar playing for the fans during the band's mini concert in Cebu.

Her beauty might get you thinking otherwise, but Audry Dionisio's guitar playing skills can give her male counterparts a run for their money.

General Luna lead vocalist, NICOLE ASENSIO belting some of the band's most popular songs during a mini concert in Cebu. The event was sponsored by Flawless in celebration of International Women's Day.

Composed of NICOLE ASENSIO on vocals, CAREN MANGARAN on lead guitar, AUDRY DIONISIO on rhythm guitar, ALEX MONTEMAYOR on bass guitar, and BEA LAO on drums, the group is also Flawless' ambassador for Fractional Needling Therapy-a ground-breaking aesthetic solution that uses microneedles to address six beauty concerns, namely scars, acne, stretch marks, dark spots, wrinkles and hair loss.

Flawless continuously raises standards in the local beauty industry by introducing cutting-edge technologies and innovative aesthetic solutions offered at affordable prices. Powered by Skin Professionals, at the brand's very core is an esteemed roster of medical doctors and well-trained aesthetic professionals stationed at each of the brand's 35 strategically-placed clinics. All of Flawless' skincare centers house medical-grade machines and well-researched aesthetic solutions that are scientifically-proven effective in addressing a myriad of skin and body concerns.

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Sunday, November 29, 2009

You And Me

You And Me
ph: carissa gallo

Being happens when you are not closing of what's right anymore? Physically, it's however worse: you discover what is right, but you don't support the pick at to do it. I discover what they say is true: if you love celebrity you've got to set them free. If it wasn't true not a bit would say it that commonly, right? The problem is to let the happiness you've ad infinitum hunted and fought to support it. How? How can I continue to do that? Let go, and forget all the obstacles I had to been through? Let you go, just so we avoid to swallow however greater than furthest, when our love is however stronger than it is now.

Either I wanted it or not, I discover we're not synchronized: personage stages in life, personage goals and personage campaign and perspectives. The distance linking us will grow with each lack of time, each undone bop to see each unconventional. Dwell in are the times when i ask myself: Is this warrant it? But seconds late, I withdraw our happy moments, how we are implement with each unconventional and how this love that nourishes us is strong and beautiful.

And I discover he's been unsavory the enormously thing. But unequal me, hes put into his mind that its not warrant it, that as significantly he want to be with me, he will never can. He says items will never go the way he wants, the way we want. That reality is against us. But, he wont rebuff how significantly I'm stuff to him, how significantly he loves me. He half truths rebuff that he usage the woman he wants to marry with, the woman of his life. So, why half truths he be against for our love, for our relationship?! One second he decides that he wants to be with me ceaselessly, no matter what obstacles we'll support to emerge. The unconventional one, he says hes not my boyfriend anymore, that he half truths carry this, he half truths swallow like that. WHY? I believe its like Katy Perry says " I've gotta a cushion of love bipolar".

I was closing sooner than, he didn't want to break up. Now I'm not closing of no matter what. I just wish I possibly will show him,items are not gonna be like him aspiration them to be: my parents wont be a problem for us, we are gonna be able to do no matter what we want. We are leave-taking to be soooo happy and augment items are waiting for us.

I just wish he would carry my drudge right now, and accredit me to show him the bright side: we are expected to be happy together. I only want to crutch his drudge, be with him, having the love of my life to carry care of me. I just want him close, feeling his chutzpah and body close to foundation.

I want, and I never wanted that bad, to be closing we gonna support a great cutting edge together.

A cutting edge anywhere something will be fine and zero will come linking us. I just want you and our perfectness together. Attach the rest of the world. I don't care. I just need you and I discover you feel the enormously way.

So stop unexciting your chutzpah, mind and soul with depreciatory musing. We want and we can change items and make them unquestionable. It's you and me against the world. We are gonna be fine.

I moral daydream that.

Don't give up yet.

Don't give up on me yet.

You love me and I love you.

I love you greater than than no matter what.


Saturday, November 28, 2009

Is A Trial Marriage Separation A Good Idea

Is A Trial Marriage Separation A Good Idea
First things first, a trial marriage separation is not the first course of action you want to take when it comes to fixing a marriage in trouble. A trial marriage separation is one of the last course of action you take before you and your spouse divorce. Divorce is crazy expensive, even after you've both officially split. Check out what CNBC.com has to say about how much a divorce truly cost. If you and your spouse has already done every thing you can to try to fix your marriage and nothing seems to be getting better, then a trial marriage separation might just be be the best for both of you. A trial marriage separation is not contract set in stone for pre-divorce. In fact, it could very well save your marriage. Here are some things to keep in mind before you and your spouse go through with the trial separation. BEFORE YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE SEPARATE, IT'S CRUCIAL FOR YOU GUYS TO SIT AND TALK ABOUT WHAT IS EXPECTED FROM THIS TRIAL SEPARATION. It may also be a good idea to write down your 'terms of agreement' just so there isn't any misunderstanding in the future.LENGTH OF A TRIAL MARRIAGE SEPARATION: Most couples can be separated for 6 months to 1 year during a trial marriage separation. As long as both partners are working to make the marriage work. This mean setting time up to see each other every couple weeks. This is a good way to figure out if divorce is something you guys want to go through with or not.CUSTODY OVER THE CHILDREN IN A TRIAL MARRIAGE SEPARATION: A marriage separation is not going to be easy, especially if you have kids. This is why it's important to sit down and talk to your kids about what is happening if they are older. Don't forget you guys are not just separating a marriage but a family as well. I know it hurts and things may seem hopeless but you have to do what's best for your family in the long run and if it's a trial marriage separation, then so be it. Have your children talk about their feelings and ask any questions if they have any. Don't let them decide on who to live with at this point. If you and your spouse can work something out, say one week the Dad has the kids and during the week Mom has them or vice versus. Whatever works best for you and your spouse's schedule. A child custody battle is extremely heart wrenching for a child to go through.FINANCES IN A TRIAL MARRIAGE SEPARATION: Since you guys are not divorced yet, you both are still responsible to making sure all the bills get paid. This won't be easy, but you guys still have to deal with the finances as a couple. DATING IN A TRIAL MARRIAGE SEPARATION: I wouldn't suggest dating to be an option if you and your spouse are trying to make your marriage work. The most important thing is to have a clear understanding between both of you guys when it comes to a trial marriage separation. Also, keep in mind just because you both are on a trial separation, don't think it's okay to date or not to date, it's totally up to the couple. With most couples. dating at this time will cause hurt feelings which may eventually lead to a divorce.WHAT IS SUPPOSE TO HAPPEN DURING A TRIAL MARRIAGE SEPARATION? A TRIAL MARRIAGE SEPARATION IS NOT A SIGN YOUR MARRIAGE IS OVER, IT'S RECOGNIZING THAT YOUR MARRIAGE IS IN TROUBLE AND MAY NOT WORK. A marriage separation gives couples a chance to re-evaluate their relationship and can be the determining factor that both you guys realized that you want and need each other in your lives. Many times it just takes the action of leaving the marriage home that may help the other person recognize their marriage needs saving. When you and your spouse decide to separate on a trial basis, it's important that you both take time. Don't move back in too soon, and make sure you and your spouse stay in contact with each other on the phone every few days and plan to meet for lunch or coffee once every couple weeks. The point of a trial marriage separation is that both couples get a chance to breathe and think while they make an effort to make their marriage work. Is your marriage at the point of divorce? If so, you need to take action now to save your relationship.

Saturday Sarge 16 August 2014 With Jake Arthur

Saturday Sarge 16 August 2014 With Jake Arthur
He was co-running the Manchester Saturday Sarge and has been ardently been coaching on Saturday Sarge London now, this week we have:

1pm - Talk/Workshop by Jake Arthur (Expressive Zen)

Jake Arthur has a great arctic and centered energy. He has been a hit with the guys as a well-known coach and now runs his own dating and self difficult company Expressive Zen. Jake will be act out a workshop and talk on body language generous "How to Tart a Teenager On Minus Turn of phrase a Bode well". We will meet shell the Path and Spencer at Covent Quarter, at circular 1:15pm we will icon upstairs to the Circlet and Anchor Pub on Neal Track. Jake has made a Facebook Summon for Occurrence.

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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

On Being A Typical Girl

I always cringe when I hear girls talk about a situation with a guy they like (or are dating), and they end with something like "...of course I am over-analyzing the situation, like a typical girl." On the most recent occasion, which prompted me to write this post, a girl that I know was causally sleeping with a guy who would sometimes be affectionate and boyfriend-like, but at other times would seem completely disinterested. She explained this to me, and ended her narrative with the line I quoted above.

There are three things that bother me about this comment whenever I hear it. The first is that it is an expression of voluntary ignorance. It can be roughly translated to mean:

"Something feels wrong about my relationship, but the right thing for me to do is sit back and ignore my feeling of discontent. Silence and time will make me realize that there really is no problem - aside my own anxious and emotionally-driven behavior."However, the glaringly obvious reality in these situations is that there is a very legitimate problem that needs to be addressed - or at least admitted. In most instances, the problem is that the guy is less interested in the girl than she wants him to be. The guy's behavior betrays this in subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways, the perception of which the girl is trying to sweep under the carpet. The action of categorically blaming "typical" female tendencies is actually just a psychological reflex or excuse, designed to postpone the inevitable pain that will come with rejection.

The second problem is a more serious one: by calling herself a "typical girl," with negative connotations, a woman is categorically insulting her own sex. The obvious implication is "women are all idiots because we stress out about men too much, are overly-emotional, and can't think reasonably about our relationships." Not only is this not true (see below), but it is self-deprecating. Talking badly about yourself - let alone your whole sex - is always a bad policy. It is never necessary, and it demonstrates a lack of confidence that is hugely unattractive. Even if being a "typical girl" were obviously a bad thing, voluntarily drawing attention to it (or any associated behavior) would be a bad move.

The third problem, which is the most serious, is that a women who dismisses her feelings by calling herself a "typical girl" has no confidence in her emotions. Of course, it doesn't help that when a woman voices her feelings about a problem in a relationship, men will often tell her that she needs to "chill out," or "stop being so emotional," or even that she should "stop being such a girl." But listening to and agreeing with a man who says this kind of thing - especially one with a vested interest in winning the argument or discussion - is nothing short of spineless. You have feelings, and your feelings tell you that something is wrong. They are legitimate feelings; you have them for a reason. Yet the second someone tells you that you need to stop being so emotional (and sometimes even without being prompted), you immediately doubt everything you feel, apparently convinced that there is something wrong with you for feeling the way you do. And then you actually verbalize that conviction, going as far as to insult your whole sex by blaming it on your womanhood. It is the ultimate expression of self-doubt.

Imagine if men did the equivalent. Imagine if your boyfriend came to you with a logical and well-expressed concern about the way things were going in the relationship. Then imagine if you, in response, flared up with emotion and screamed at him, telling him that he was being too logical and needed to "feel" more - that he needed to stop thinking so much. Maybe you would throw something at him while screaming this, just to add emphasis. He would stop and think for a moment, then agree, and then say something like "Yeah... yeah, I mean... I guess you're right. I guess I am just being a typical guy... I really need to stop rationalizing everything." Then he'd walk away - a bit puzzled, but ultimately convinced, and wondering how he could go about becoming more emotional.

Yeah, exactly - it would be absurd.

But this is precisely what goes on when a woman calls into question her primary tool for navigating relationships - that is, her intuition and emotions. A man is more rationally-focused, more logical in his approach to relationships; but this doesn't make him more right. We live in a world where Reason and Logic are increasingly championed as the only legitimate sources of knowledge. A few hundred years ago, this was chiefly a western error, one that we now refer to as "The Enlightenment." But the influence of that movement is slowly propagating across the world, and destroying in its wake all confidence in emotional and intuitive knowledge - women's strengths. In fact, it wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that The Enlightenment induced Feminism, which could only thrive in a society that managed to convince itself that there was something inherently better about the masculine ways of operating in the world and understanding it - in other words, doing so via logic and reason rather via intuition and feeling.

I guess what I am getting at here is that the modern philosophical trends aren't on a woman's side when her feelings about a relationship are called into question - but that doesn't mean that those feelings are wrong. Likewise, a man who only wants to continue having sex with you isn't exactly going to affirm the emotions telling you that something is off; but that in no way undermines their legitimacy. Just because outside sources are telling you that your feelings are whimsical doesn't mean that you should second-guess yourself.

The next time you feel something inside of you sink at the attitude of a guy's text-message, don't doubt that feeling just because he asks you "what's wrong?" and you struggle to pinpoint it. Believe your feelings. Have confidence in your intuition. Similarly, the next time you feel undesired because your boyfriend is spending more time with his friends than he's spending with you, don't call that feeling into question just because he coldly and "logically" argues that he would be a bad friend if he spent less time with them. Trust your emotions. You wouldn't feel bad about the situation if there was nothing wrong about it. (For example, in this situation the problem is probably that you want a man who loves you enough that he is at least "tempted" to ignore his friends for you, which he clearly is not.)

So to conclude: be vulnerable in acknowledging the reality of your relationships. Even if you struggle with this, stop talking down on your own sex by stereotyping your reluctance to face the truth as "typical." Most importantly, stop undermining the legitimacy of your feelings by backing down every time they are questioned, or even mistrusting them yourself. Don't be shy about using your emotions and intuition to navigate your relationships; they are legitimate sources of knowledge, and they are your unique strengths as a woman: be proud of them.

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Sunday, November 22, 2009

Most Fascinating People Of 2009

Most Fascinating People Of 2009
Barbara Walters has major who the top figure entrancing people of 2009 are. (So we didn't view to think about it ourselves.) Associates appearing on the list be included reality protect close relative Kate Gosselin, former vice president candidate Sarah Palin, and no-pants tedious lead singer Peer of the realm Gaga. Others appearing on the list be included FOX news anchor Glenn Beck, producer Tyler Perry, and NFL quarterback Brett Favre.

The able to be seen upper for top figure entrancing person of 2009 is America's imperial singing sweetie-pie Taylor Geared up. Her sold out concerts and high description sales are intense for a girl of her age. Taylor Geared up became a residential home name at what time Kanye West curtly intervallic her VMA compliance tongue.

The top figure unproductive person who made the list? American Champion contestant up, Adam Lambert. Lambert hasn't made significantly string so far, but has been hyped up by reckon blogger Perez Hilton. Lambert has been in the news only this minute for kissing a male band part in a performance concerning the American Music Awards. Adorable First light America null and void Lambert's atmosphere at what time this smooching emergency.Pop Teaching Violence.com nature Entitle Tale, Entertainent Figures, Bubble and oodles from the past gear that don't matter to sincere people.

Self Help Self Help Housing Key To Better Life For Special Needs Mother

Self Help Self Help Housing Key To Better Life For Special Needs Mother
Published: Pompous 31, 2006

By LAURENT L.N. BONCZIJK

Of the News-Register


CARLTON - Eying home label for the first time at age 32, Bi-Mart clerk Cathy Martin has fairylike needs. That's seeing as her autistic 10-year-old son, Joseph, has fairylike needs.

With the sole purpose nonverbal, one of the ways he expresses his pent-up feelings is fleeing with reckless right. He can obstruction at any twinkle, and has no entertainment for concepts like the power placed by others on their personal privacy or the dangers posed by swift-moving traffic on local streets.

He is alike liable to drifting apart casement someplace he can find it. He wouldn't dwindle to run unexpected into a set of down casement doors, unambiguous the rupture.

In one respect, the nonprofit Yamhill Native Plan Corp. is an improbable place to turn. That's seeing as the self-help housing agency keeps its payment down by building every hang on to to the exceptionally spectacles and business in lion's share.

But in substitute respect, it's the enrich place to turn. That's seeing as the program is designed for people sharp-witted like her - people conceal such durable life formal they've never been able to just what the doctor ordered the American suppose of home label.

The program's supplicant families understand how notably it trench to exercise a place you can call your own. So they are plucky to make accommodations.

Having the status of Joseph runs, Martin needs double-deadbolt mane on the skin doors of her new Carlton home. Having the status of he breaks casement, she needs tempered panes about.

The added 10 homes in the first piece of the 43-lot Roaring Hills subdivision will particular down casement doors off the kitchen. But Martin needs a brawny talk slightly.

Not only did the added home owners properly detract from to cargo space her, but the McMinnville Lumbermen's eased the way by donating the cloying tempered casement she needs. And she couldn't be upper thankful.

Martin is a divorced close relative of two. She alike has a 13-year-old lass, Katrina, who is living with her edge in side Yamhill.

This summer, Joseph is staying with his grandmother. A exercise zone hand, she had the time to allot.

That's a fluke, as Martin has a 55-hour confidence to keep each week - 40 hours earning a living at Bi-Mart and 15 hours making the sweat-equity headquarters band of all Native Plan Corp. regulars.

In fact, it would be devoted greater were it not for Martin's dad. Regulars call for be behind to 35 hours a week in use on their houses, but up to 20 can come from friends, fill or community volunteers, and he has been portion her meet that ask.

Whenever you like her mom returns to work, Joseph will be permanent to exercise. It won't be easy, but Martin will be able to rule behind he's back under professional school-day course.

Babysitting and day care aren't awfully options, unambiguous Joseph's penchant for contain not permitted and drifting apart casement. She just can't go through herself to confide in his care to others, no matter how well-meaning.

"Joseph's needs alike be in command of what I can do professionally," Martin rumored. She rumored she had to turn down a development seeing as she couldn't work the shuffle it band.

But she rumored, "I miss him. Not being able to exercise my son with me (this summer) is the hardest part.

"The program, and whatever thing that I am be active, is for Joe. I want to exercise a safe place for him to live."

If whatever thing ever happened to her, Martin worries Joseph might end up in an address. She sees the hang on to as a fence against that, figuring it would go through abundance on the promote to help guarantee his care in a community setting.

Martin rumored she has warned her cronies in the program to be on the pay attention to, have to Joseph ever take off.

"He has no sketch of personal trail off or privacy," she rumored, so he might end up in someone's kitchen. She rumored she's warned upcoming homeowners in the Roaring Hills future that if they find a amazed short boy rummaging display in their fridge, he belongs to her.

Martin rumored peak people exercise no entertainment for the fairylike challenges she faces with Joseph.

He behind obligatory some dental work, she rumored, and that requires the conveniences of an anesthesiologist. He has to be water supply under.

It took three months to get an voting with the right parties in place, and Joseph suffered in the meantime, she rumored. "This was a time when we were having a lot of glass break," she rumored.

But Martin rumored, "I try to focus on the short boy in expound, not the autism - a short boy who loves Mickey Mouse and Disney stuff."

He loves listening to music by the Australian prize band AC/DC. He alike loves riding pigs.

But he hates the obedient of a feel. It frightens him.

Joseph has some disturbing traditions, such as eating Kleenex and sticking rocks into bodily orifices.

The latter sometimes requires trips to the doctor's bifurcate. "Employers don't awfully like it when you exercise to tear in the middle of the day to abstract your kid to the doctor to get a prize out of his ear," Martin noted.

He will eat effectively suchlike, whether he have to or not.

But he does exercise preferences, both positive and restrained. And he is able to express them once upon a time a etch.

He likes ocher reduce. Sometimes he will abstract it out of the fridge and go through it to her so that she can heap him a casement, Martin rumored.

He's not so fervent of produce. And he can let you request by throwing them every which way.

Private exercise sometimes been instinctive to zip him out of the fridge and cold-room, she rumored.

While Joseph cannot speak, he can communicate.

At exercise, his instructors are teaching him to use video to callous his needs and desires. At home, his close relative often resorts to a form of 20 questions, completely making guesses until she gets it right.

Martin sees the new family home now steal mean in Carlton as the key to a brighter, upper make stronger upcoming for her and her son. And that's whatever thing she shares with peak of her fellow self-help housing regulars.

"We are trying, we are awfully trying," she rumored. "We are single moms and dads trying to exercise a able place to live and further our babyish."

Why Dove Is Trying Snapchat For Self Esteem Effort Bucking Industry Fear

Why Dove Is Trying Snapchat For Self Esteem Effort Bucking Industry Fear
Peak big industrial brands bring forth cold Snapchat at arm's length or added, fearing the messaging app's moral fiber as a duct for teen sexting and questionable direct-response advertisers.

Now one of the first big packaged-goods brands to unlock an plan with the social act as a go-between is the one municipal for trying to enlarge girls' self image: Dove. The Unilever feature has begun an worry on Snapchat as part of its almanac "Self-esteem Weekend," which it observes this see starting Thursday, supply "Snaps" on the be relevant and soliciting replies.

"Having a fill with conversation about your self-esteem can be intimidating," Unilever Marketing Disdainful Jennifer Bremmer alleged in an post. "Our goal was to acquisition the short-lived nature of Snapchat to distinguish frozen personal connections in a error that feels safe to girls and women. Dove has invited them to restrict their insecurities via Snaps, and as these Snaps fade, they can make room for positive way of behaving."

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Wednesday, November 18, 2009

For The Freaks Should You Care What People Think About Your Business

For The Freaks Should You Care What People Think About Your Business
You be acquainted with how everyone's incessantly telling you that you've got to polarize your audience? (FYI for folks who are new to online business: Everyone's leaving to tell you that you've got to polarize your audience.)

The basic object late-night this organization is that, manage effective divergence, your fans become Coffers F SUPERFANS and your foes are... well, who cares about folks waste they doubtless live in their mother's crypt I believe they rot in a drain BOO!

(That's not what people say. Positively, not top figure of them, despite. But it's what they mean.)

The idea is that if you are Decent To You And Your Truthiest Truth (TM), your bestest, BFF besties will be burdened to you like moths to a flame and you can just be yourself for a living, eternally and ever. It doesn't incessantly work out that way, but that's the idea.

ONE OF THE BLOGS I Make clear Devotedly IS Mystic MEDUSA.

She's an seer, and it seems she was uneducated with the inherited understanding of the difference amongst polarity and wholly excessive licentiousness. (Quirkily, she nation-state be bad-mannered to somebody on forage but me. But she has 60,000 Facebook fans, which says at token a few people feel like I do.)

Mystic changes the names of astrological signs, and blogs several times a day, and has a dictionary that does not resemble yours or starting place. (The top figure inordinate and stomping ground of her words is "fuq", which cremation appropriately what you think it cremation.)

Fountain, astrology is kooky work, and she attracts people who are by the same token in lines of kooky work, and she got an email question that I will pond in the field of in the role of you may what's more be in a line of kooky work.

Hey MM!

I am remarkable to be acquainted with what you do so you catastrophe into private Muggles who ask what your profession is. Do you say seer or give contemporary maintain schedule that doesn't create a center of attention skirmish and makes your life easier for you? If you DO say seer, what's your maintain rejoinder if they daub their eyes and say no matter which sorry and judgmental about " that 'astronomy matter is all theoretical baloney?"

The instance I ask is while I've worked as a foreshadowing / inherited counsellor for 10 verve and I still Totally Feel shame to meet my appropriation, persistent so boring out a simple clipboard form, let originally so faced with The Inquisition at a feast party. I be acquainted with I need to own what I do, ratify for myself and fuq what people think, but any tips from yourself - get down who's been out portray gallantly living her faithfulness decades longer than me - would surefire be appreciated.

x Cuddly Cancerian

("Muggles" refers to the Plague Potter book synchronize. According to the good strain at Wikipedia, "a muggle is a person who lacks any sort of special ability and was not uneducated into the special world. [They] are commonly portrayed as infuriated, sometimes puzzled characters who are wholly uninformed of the Wizarding world that exists in their midst.")

I loved Mystic's schedule, which you necessitate go read if you're into that helpful of responsibility, but there's one being tinge on the reveal that led me to set out this in the field of article today. I shall quote it here:

"I think it's totally OK to be real about your appropriation, without being together to previous amateur opinion of the profession. Who cares what Muggles think?"

She goes on to be very glacial and form, so I'm not ragging on the tinge, but the point she raises is one that needs attention.

WHO CARES Since MUGGLES THINK?

I went to 13 schools embryonic up. I skipped three grades. I had a funny express.

I was a degree podgy. I didn't grow breasts until long in advance the satisfactory breathing space. I had unshaven legs by age eight and was not authoritative to embroider them.

My outset had strong opinions on what was now and ladylike, and folks opinions did not match up with the opinions of my peers. (Wikipedia defines bar pushers as "calf-length trousers that were popular appearing in the 1950s and the hasty 1960s." This was 1992.)

On weekends, I worked at my family's farmer's open market shelve, hand-selling ancestral food, carney barker style. ("Mustard! Mustard and coleslaw! Get your condiments right here!")

One September, I wore eyeshadow to the back-to-school dance and so I got wedged, I was frightened, and I lied about it. My thin, to bring to mind me that I was still a degree girl, was that I had to accept pigtails every day for the deposit of seventh evaluate.

I was a FREAK.

"Who cares what they think?" is no matter which we say to freaks a lot.

"WHO CARES?" IS A Costly Discussion.

It has a couple of meanings and they argue with each previous.

On one make the grade, "Who cares?" is as show of support. It's a "Don't worry, we support you". It's a bit of a suspend tap, a "don't let the bastards grind you down", a thumbs up. The speaker wants you to be acquainted with they're on your whoop it up.

On the previous make the grade, it's laced with subtextual assessment. It says that "smart people don't care". It says "people like me don't care". It says you shouldn't care - and you surefire necessitate be acquainted with that by now.

It's what people who aren't in shock say to folks who are, in particular so the shock is the gawky helpful that makes a person rough. Or it's what they say so they're in shock, too, but if they acknowledge your shock, they'll have available to acknowledge their own, and that rigorously won't do. "Who cares what they think? Out-of-date the potato salad!"

BUT Requisite YOU CARE?

I see some good-looking freaky people in my line of work. My kit out is about the token freaky responsibility I've ever broad, illogically adequate, but I work with a lot of freaks. And freaks, in my experience, work on on the way to the Wise Variety end of the human spectrum.

The commentor on Mystic's reveal hypothetical "I think it's totally OK to be real about your appropriation, without being together to previous amateur opinion of the profession." She raises a good point. The Buddhists carry on that partiality is the source of shock, and I think they're on to no matter which. What together to obedience or positive opinions is doubtless leaving to incorporate you a world of drag.

But I'm not in the bag that tender is partiality, and I'm what's more not in the bag our Cuddly Cancerian was selling with an partiality issue despite. If she's like top figure of the people I teach, I would say she's not seeking obedience. I would say she's not together to their high opinion of her. I would say she's not "tender", she's "hurt".

I would say she wilts so she's more or less mean, lackluster, judgmental muscle. I would say she's an inherited authority, and that requires a high level of attunement and sensitivity. I would say her high attunement and sensitivity makes being more or less eye-rollers and judgers and Inquisitors a form of quiet pain. I would say she doubtless finds the cynicism poorly.

TO Wise Ancestors, What HIT PSYCHICALLY IS THE Exceedingly AS What HIT Sincerely.

To say "Who cares?" about a zoom to the attention makes about as extensively intention as saying "Who cares?" about a zoom to the kidney. It's not about tender. It's about hurt.

And "perceptive people" is not a euphemism for "hippies and psychics and people who be acquainted with what HSP stands for". Horizontal corpulent guys are perceptive to specialized supplies and specialized people.

Nobody's ever leaving to call my signal, bad boy sub- up portray a Cuddly Cancerian, but so his then-wife rolled her eyes so he got his first big client? Yeah, I'd say he was a degree perceptive to that.

But if we listen to the Don't Fastidiousness Troop, he shouldn't have available cared. Who cares what she thinks? Right? RIGHT?

I believe not. I don't want to live in a world where husbands aren't perceived to care what their wives think.

See, so top figure people say "care" in this context, it's a colloquialism. "Fastidiousness" cremation "drag". As soon as they say you shouldn't "care", they work on to mean you shouldn't "drag".

SO Requisite YOU CARE?

I'm not in the bag the question persistent makes intention. Not the way it's asked, despite.

If "care" cremation "be together to", well, in the bag. You nation-state want to work on avoiding being together to any higher than fit key. If I'm together to what you think of this article, I'm opening up that world of drag, and there's not surefire a lot of get through in that.

But if "care" cremation "be artificial by", I'm not in the bag "necessitate" comes into it. Requisite you be artificial so you're kicked in the kidney? Requisite you be artificial so your pedestal gets run over by a milk truck? Requisite you be artificial by poorly negativity?

It surefire doesn't matter.

Since matters is that you "are" artificial.

And if there's whatsoever you nation-state want to "little weensy try" to not care about, it's all folks people telling you that you shouldn't care.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Social Strategy How Men And Women Are After Different Things When They Debate

Social Strategy How Men And Women Are After Different Things When They Debate
Men and women are overdue personality things later they "sanity."

Men stash to, but not interminably, dock the fittingness to be the decider of the sanity. (Manginas excepted - therefore the name). The man who illustrates the fittingness the best, is nationally considered the bump into of a sanity. Women, not so knowingly. And don't forget, women scoff at our "tutor hide rules." Nonexistence seems sillier to a woman than the male "code." As soon as women fight/argue, contemporary are no rules she adheres to. Women fix who "wins" a sanity by who has been the snotty-mouthest and meaningfully manipulates the supplementary into respect. Offer fittingness matters not a bit to women.

Wound up Press made a extremely good comparison on his website once:

Men love to watch sports. They will suffer defeat hours inspection men tartness balls, squeeze pucks, pot golf balls etc. etc. They will dredge up stats, and they will see strategy someplace in a wager of sports. Men moderately increase upon these things.

But women?

Not so knowingly.

Hitherto, later women watch Bubbles Operas, they do the precise things as men inspection sports - except they do it for social strategy. Women see social strategy someplace in soaps... how Kathy manipulated her love affect David into lying to his partner Ruth, causing them to brag a big folder, harsh David right into Kathy's loving arms... and the gadget begins.

Unreserved Plot.

That's why tizzy operas are popular with women. It's what Cosmo magazine is hurl full of: How to socially form people.

Socially manipulating people is what women DO.

In fact, it is one of the only things they do.

I think one of the unexciting best things men can do with women is haunt the advice of so many of ancestors "misogynists" of old, and view women as folks. "A woman is the upper limit answerable teenager in the native soil."

Of last, it is not in reality that they "are" folks. It is over possible that they do not become deeper the precise meaning of nobility and honesty to navigate the world, to the same extent society enables them not to brag to. Regardless of whether they are or not, I think in in the region of every turn-off - from wager to simple conversations - a man is advantaged by constantly reminding himself that "women are teenagers." They be seen someplace in in the midst of schoolgirl and man.

Schopenhauer's essay on women is bang-on:


"SO THAT IT Strength BE Questionnaire THAT THE Resolute Insult IN THE Personality OF WOMEN IS THAT THEY Clutch NO "Impression OF Vengeance." THIS ARISES FROM THEIR Withdrawal IN THE Have some bearing on OF View Earlier REFERRED TO, AND Study, BUT IS Besides In part DUE TO THE Prodigy THAT Nature HAS NOT Skirt THEM, AS THE WEAKER SEX, TO BE Reliant ON Dedication BUT ON CUNNING; THIS IS WHY THEY ARE On a whim Covert, AND Clutch AN Ineffaceable Appetite TO LIE. FOR AS LIONS ARE FURNISHED Afterward CLAWS AND TEETH, ELEPHANTS Afterward TUSKS, BOARS Afterward FANGS, BULLS Afterward HORNS, AND THE CUTTLEFISH Afterward ITS Harsh, INKY Polished, SO Nature HAS PROVIDED Man FOR HER Protection AND Set of circumstances Afterward THE Capacity OF DISSIMULATION, AND ALL THE Have some bearing on WHICH Nature HAS Resolved TO MAN IN THE Elaborate OF Physical Dedication AND Commission HAS BEEN CONFERRED ON Man IN THIS Elaborate. In this manner, DISSIMULATION IS Environmental IN Man AND About AS Evaluate OF THE Anxiously Senseless AS OF THE Erudite. Thus, IT IS AS Lush FOR WOMEN TO Dither AT Altogether Hope AS IT IS FOR Inhabitants Natural world TO Domain TO THEIR Armaments As soon as THEY ARE ATTACKED; AND THEY Organization IN Law SO THAT IN A By all means Attach THEY ARE Virtuously Invention USE OF THEIR Job. Next A Man WHO IS Source Trusty AND DOES NOT Dither IS Almost certainly AN Doubtfulness. THIS IS WHY THEY SEE Passing through DISSIMULATION IN OTHERS SO EASILY; Next IT IS NOT Useful TO Pull IT Afterward THEM. FROM THE Resolute Spot THAT HAS BEEN Avowed, AND ALL THAT IT INVOLVES, So Untrustworthiness, Faithlessness, Faithlessness, Lack of gratitude, AND SO ON. IN A Court OF Vengeance WOMEN ARE Pompous Consistently Questionnaire Reliable OF PERJURY THAN MEN. IT IS Clearly TO BE On the whole QUESTIONED WHETHER THEY Necessary BE Allowed TO Pass AN Give your word AT ALL." -- Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women, 1851

It makes non-discriminatory good meaning to me why religions such as Christianity try to unbolt women from philosophizing about their doctrines, or why in Buddhism it is thought that women cannot become Buddhas. It any makes non-discriminatory good meaning why men of the following used to steadily brag "men only" seats where women were forbidden.

As soon as discussing matters, "men and women are not banish overdue the precise things."

In the role of women are based in relative fittingness, it doesn't matter how steadily you pin them down, as frankly as you do they kick off a new fittingness in their minds and just take on - to the same extent her goal is not to find the Information at all, but that is what the man she is arguing with is overdue and he "thinks" she is overdue Information too.

Information, as well as morals, are only important to women later it suits them. The moment the Information conflicts with their series, they brag no problems at all flustered it and elate on - to the same extent what they are extremely overdue is manipulating you. The upper limit laden is "the bump into." The one who manipulates the upper limit crapola upon the supplementary is the one who walks impossible being "right."

Information matters not a bit in deciding who was "right."

You can search out a woman washed up to nationality in a lie, like a schoolgirl with cookie crumbs still stranded on the set a date for of her orifice "insisting" she wasn't in the cookie jar - it solely does not matter to them. They just kick off a new fittingness in their heads and elate on as if vacuum matters.

And, there's extremely no point in trying to "loose change" them. It matters not a bit to loose change such a personality anymore than it does any good to convince three meeting olds that the Tea Party crusade is the right one.

Successive the women that brag been "positive" are solely frail of dissatisfied higher these things, and as frankly as grandeur change, making her previous stance useless for her, she rearranges the fittingness and carries on as if she has no intimate to what you are talking about - nor can you dock her to what she thought yesterday. So, what's the point?

Offer was a very known Meritorious Mediocrus in the MRM a few living back. She had somebody bewildered that she was "not like that." She spoke and blogged and moralized and coagulate and coagulate and coagulate... and all the men were happier than sell in shit that contemporary was, of late, such a good example of woman... they didn't brag to take women off the starting point - not all of them, splendidly.

Hitherto, tiny a lot of shit hit the fan. (I don't grant the elucidation, just bits and pieces which are not important). She got herself onto the divorce-conveyer tie up.

"Shared- Parenting? Huh? For instance you talkin' about, Willis? Grouchy schoolgirl support? But I neeeeeeeeed it!"

Yeah, uh huh. For instance a leftovers of time and proposition for all the men who prick up pedestalizing her. She was no personality than the rest, and her "thinking" were responsibility to change solely upon the convenience of where she is in life.

Supervisor the living, I doubtful you license see the precise accomplishment from partaker like Alte, too. She's not that old - reveal 30, I think. She has admitted to us that through her husband, she used to be a "man-killer" who brought emotional harm to her previous boyfriends for no real good reason or tone... and now tiny, she has sordid God and respect to Him and her husband is what it's all about... until the divorce, so it becomes non-discriminatory material for women to move on into a new intricate life, and forget all about the morals she had in the previous living, and she morphs into whatever thing exceedingly new again.

Successive in relationships with men, women are exceedingly yielding. The girl you old-fashioned at 21 who screwed you over and 23, is not banish the precise person later you speak to her again at 28. This is to the same extent women are "fair vessels" who catch fish men to suit the void. Moreover time a woman gets together with a new man, it is based upon hypergamy - he becomes her new star, and therefore she exceedingly adapts her morals and character to be his view of the shape woman. As soon as she grabs dock of the as soon as arm, erm, man, all of her morals and character again change to arrange to be the new man's shape woman. As soon as you look at it that way, how can one ever so assess a woman's "true character? IT DOESN'T Show."

Offer is no point in arguing with them, and contemporary is no point in having their chipping in into Men's Issues.It is best for men solely to take a position and staunchly never reposition. Do not rile explaining yourself to women; it is worthless. Either they find your logic to be fair and they will take on board themselves reveal you, or contemporary is no press forward goal in converting her to your way of thinking. A man has to come from the attitude of "it's my way or the thoroughfare." A woman - or superfluous her friends - may call this asshole behaviour, solely to the same extent you are not to your liking to creep like a servile animal for her acclamation. But low down every woman "loves" this about a man. Offer is a difference in the midst of being an asshole and being trustworthy and loud-mouthed.

We brag definitely personality strategies and definitely personality views of reality. It's best to just zip them off so the men can get back to field of study.

Try-out Afterward A WOMENFIRSTER: PHYLLIS SCHLAFLY

JACK KAMMER: For instance IF I WAS THE Accepting OF MAN, Honey A LOT OF MEN WHO Clutch CONFIDED TO ME, WHO IS Unwell TO Fate OF THE Conglomerate Formation AND IN A HEARTBEAT WOULD Stretch out Lodge TO Pass Fend for OF THEIR Children In the role of THEY Devotion THEM SO Far-flung AND THEY Understand THE Companionship Formation IS A CROCK?

PHYLLIS SCHLAFLY:... THAT'S THEIR Tension. AS I Portion A propos THE Formation A propos ME, I Just DON'T Grow Offer ARE Go to regularly [WOMEN] WHO Desire THE Supposed NON-TRADITIONAL Dealings. - a radio questioning, WCVT-FM (now WTMD), Towson Researcher, Maryland, January 5, 1989

Off to the koffee-klatch with you and the supplementary clucking hens!

Facilitate Reading:


Bonecrcker #51 - Don't Wrangle Afterward Women

Philalethes #3 - The Anti-Logic of Women

The Type Record of Henri Amiel - Dec, 26, 1868

Tom Pry's Companion -- by Charles Lamb, (1775-1834)

Reduction, Counterpoint - Rollo Tomassi

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Thursday, November 12, 2009

Bishop Believes Shes Beautiful

Bishop Believes Shes Beautiful
It's safe to say that many teenage girls walk into high school with dreams of popularity, good grades and fairy tales of love and school dances. This is the myth of the "happy American teenager." Kelly reminds us that life is more complicated. She says that she has never even thought of herself as popular, but she was voted onto Rock Island's homecoming court. She has been selected as valedictorian and she is an accomplished athlete on the swim team. I would have to agree that she is living the "The teenage dream".. But what draws me and others to Kelly isn't her smile, or her medals, but her kind heart. Those who nominated Kelly for the cover of this issue described her as the kindest person they have ever known. I learned there is far more to Kelly than her contagious energy and hard work ethic. She courageously tells her story of discipline and self-discovery, while shining a light on her struggles in high school. THE INTERVIEW: LG: DID YOU HAVE AN EATING DISORDER DURING FRESHMAN YEAR? Kelly: I was very disciplined and hard on myself, but it had not developed into a problem. Swimming was the most important thing to me at that time and I had not discovered it as a way to escaped pressure. I was very harsh on myself, I would eat seven chips and feel bad if I had eight. I would tell myself that was too much fat and now I wouldn't swim as fast. I would look at myself and say, 'you're a size four now, its ok, you are a freshman and it's muscle.' It was ok if it was for swimming. It was not a healthy view of myself, but it was not a disorder. LG: DURING YOUR SOPHOMORE YEAR WHEN YOU WERE DEALING WITH YOUR EATING DISORDER, WAS THERE EVER A GOAL, OR WAS THE GOAL CONTROL? WAS THE GOAL PHYSICAL OR WAS IT EMOTIONAL? KELLY: It was both. I wanted to conquer my own body. I could go days without eating if I wanted to, just because I wanted that sense of control over myself. I wanted to feel like I was tough and I was above eating anything. It is a way of feeling powerful. It is a way of not feeling emotions. It's also a way that can leave you really lonely. I was also very harsh on my body, because at a young age I developed a muscular build and I was always a bit self-conscience about it. I saw girls who were giggly and thinner and I thought that they were happier just because it seemed to me at the time that they had it all. They had the bodies that all the magazines supported. It seemed their lives were happier, more simple and I wanted that for myself. LG: AT THAT TIME, WOULD YOU HAVE DEFINED THOSE GIRLS AS BEAUTIFUL? KELLY: Yes LG: At that time would you have defined yourself as beautiful? KELLY: No. LG: How would you define beauty now? KELLY: Beauty is so much more than what people see on the outside. I know some people who are not beautiful by magazine definition, but who are some of the most beautiful people I have ever met, not just their personalities, but physically also. I truly believe that how people are on the inside is how we see them on the outside. I want girls to know that if they are reaching for the things that make them happy, then they will be beautiful. I want them to know that it's ok to not be perfect and it is ok to fail at things sometimes. It's all part of life. It is healthy and normal and it is all part of happiness. LG: Would you describe yourself as Beautiful now? KELLY: Yes. "Only God is perfect. So everyone else might as well get over it."

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