"CARMEN1988T asked: "
Basically I am hoping that you might be able to help me with a plan of action.
The background to my situation is such. A year ago my ex gf and i broke up, it was my fault since I started talking to my ex gf before her. Nothing happened but my gf couldnt take the thought of loosing me and cut it off before she got hurt again and but still she was devastated by me (understand she was married before and her husband cheated on her, and with me she told me she had loved me more then him). I tried everything I could to get her back but someone introduced her to another guy about a month after the break-up (I guess to help her get over me, since she was hurt so bad) and they have been together ever since. Now about 2 months ago, I heard from her. Appearhently she was looking at my myspace page some, and she started to make contact. She has been telling me alot of things like she wants to be with me and she still loves me and so on (understand this is not a girl who plays around or minces words but puts thought into what she says or does). I have talked with her casually and at times she has brought up our past relationship, including how our "love-life" was, and also asks if I have dates and such. So it is obviously something that she is concerned with and has mentioned to me things like how would it effect me if we got back together knowing that she has been with this bf or questions like what if my ex gf or someone else came along. Now she has told me she wants this but it will take time, she also stated that she was very confused because she loves her BF now and doesnt want to hurt him with her decision. Now we have been talking, but she will only allow for texting (only speaking on the phone once in 6 weeks). Ok, well she suddenly starts becoming a little distant over the last two weeks. So from advice of friends I was instructed to back off and give her some space. So I do but I write her the following email on tuesday morning so she knows i am not giving up or anything:
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I assume that the lapse in communication between us is really your way to give yourself the space and time you had talked about needing for us to be together again.
With that in mind, I am going to (with all my heart) honor that with a hope that you will talk to me when you are ready.
Know I think about you and love you so much.
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Now I havent heard anything back until wednesday night to which she sends me the following email
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Hey! I hope everything is going well. How did Meg handle the funeral? Is she doing okay? I have just been busy working and trying to straighten a few things out. Hope you are doing good. Jess
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So i respond immediately with the follwoing:
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- everything is great. just went under contract on a house. it is NIIIIIIICE! and i am getting a deal too. meg started school today. i am getting things together to start school in a few.
- she didnt go to the funeral. we went to the wake and she couldnt take it another day so we went to "meet the teacher" day and then after we went to the gathering after the burial.
- yep she is ok. that girl can take anything. even her cast doesnt seem to bother or slow her down
- well i hope all is going well with that (referencing the things needing to be straightened out) and you.
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i received another text from her just asking how my daughter and i are doing and saying that she hopes i had a great day. I responded back. and I got another text from her that basically said "sounds good, well i am off to bed. you two have a good night "
So i have been receiving some text some e-mails, but basically general in nature. Today I saw on her myspace that her BF is taking her to the gulf, but i got a message from her this morning. that doesnt mean it isnt happening tonight, but i want to send her something that says like what are you doing? why arent you trying like you said you would?
Since then I havent heard anything.
My friends tell me to leave it be. Be a man of your word and give her space. Other have told me it is a good sign she wrote back and even better that she is still asking questions.
I just guess i am wound too tight right now. I love this woman more then she or I know and she hasnt given me a chance to prove to her how 1) sorry i am 2) how it will never happen again 3) how much i love her, and 4) how happy we can be together.
Please advise me. Please guide me. Thank you for all the positive and constructive help.
Josette
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As little as half a second of movement can reveal a person's true feelings. Someone maybe nodding in agreement but their body language tells a different story. Being able to identify and interpret subtle body signals can help managers to communicate more effectively. Robert Phipps explains why you should learn to speak body language
Good communication is the bedrock on which successful teams are built.
If managers want to inspire, develop and co-ordinate their employees effectively, they must first be able to work out what each of them thinks and feels about their roles.While more managers are recognising this and holding regular conversations with their team members, all too often these discussions are far from the honest, open, two-way feedback sessions they should be. An ability to read and understand body language is invaluable if managers want to find out what's really going on behind their team members' polite smiles.Brian Sounds, a team manager for a large engineering firm, found this out after only a few months in his present job. During an annual appraisal of his warehouse assistant Janice, Brian asked if she was happy with the changes he had made to the upcoming schedule. She replied with an affirmative 'yes' but her body told a different story as she pulled back her head and crossed her arms gripping her bicep with one hand.'From her reaction I could tell something was wrong, there were obvious tensions,' recalls Brian. 'But because she'd said 'yes' - and because I didn't really want to redo the schedule - I chose to ignore them.'Within two weeks of the new schedule's implementation, Brian had received angry phone calls from three important clients complaining about late and incomplete deliveries. In a meeting to discuss the failings, it transpired that the new schedule had left the warehouse understaffed at the busiest points of the week - and that the whole warehouse team felt it was unworkable.'No one had dared to tell me - their new boss - that I'd made a big mistake,' explains Brian. 'But if I'd just probed Janice about her negative body language when I'd had the chance, the problems with the schedule could have been averted there and then.'An enhanced understanding of body language can give managers that extra edge and help make team communication channels run smoothly. When you speak to one of your team, you tend to know instinctively whether or not they have actually taken on board what's been said, be it positive or negative.But, as a manager, it pays to develop this gut feeling into a more concrete understanding, so that you can be entirely confident how your advice, directions, criticism or compliments have been received. If the words and actions don't match, you then have the opportunity to reinforce your message, challenge you team member or store this information for future reference, instead of just accepting their verbal words of agreement.Everybody has their own pattern of behaviour when it comes to body language and, while there are general rules that apply, it is important to observe and get to know each individual's own habits in order to get the best out of them. Managers should study their individual team members over a period of time and learn how they use their bodies to express themselves.The more you know about body language the less likely you will be to misinterpret physical responses in your team. For instance, it is easy to assume that when a person crosses their arms it is a defensive action. This is often the case, but it also can display a relaxed attitude. When people watch television at home their arms are often loosely crossed.There is a close correlation between open arms and legs and the openness of the mind. In one famous experiment in the 1970s, half the students in a university lecture were told to cross their arms and legs and the other half were told to keep their limbs uncrossed. At the end of the session, those students who had uncrossed arms and legs were found to have retained 40% more of the lecture and found the lecturer more amusing.
Reading between the lines:The way an individual sits, stands and walks, the way they gesture with their hands and face, and the direction they move their eyes as they recall their reason for being off sick last Monday morning, collectively reveal what they are truly feeling. Studies have repeatedly shown that the verbal portion of a face-to-face interaction accounts for a small proportion of the overall message being conveyed, sometimes as little as seven to ten percent.The non-verbal indicators actually say far more than the words that are used. Watching someone's head movements is a great way to see if they agree with you on any particular point. The 'no' gesture is so instinctive people very rarely realise they make it. Sometimes it is a microscopic shake, more like a tiny shudder, or they might just move the head one way very quickly, which is usually accompanied with their eyes going downwards before returning their gaze back to you. What you have there is a typical cluster or sequence of gestures that convey a negative attitude.Watch their shoulders too, as these can often indicate how a person feels. Some will raise them high when things are getting tense, others will drop them as though completely deflated by whatever you have just said or done.In many cases it's not the face that gives us the most information, as people know that their face is the main area that others will tend to focus on while talking to them. Usually, it is the rest of the body that shows what's really going on, especially the hands, legs and feet. Being so far from our brains, the legs are the hardest to control. Negative behaviour can often be observed through fidgety leg movements.There is no direct correlation between crossed and uncrossed legs, but if you notice a person has their legs crossed and one of them is bouncing on the other, it is probably a sign of anxiety. By observing a person's leg movements and feet direction you can also see if they contradict the expression they are showing you with their face.If in doubt, go with the body, as the body doesn't know how to tell lies, only the conscious mind knows how to construct a sentence that is different from the truth. The body simply reacts to the stimuli it's just been sent in the form of negative energy, which has to be gotten rid of somewhere - and the legs and feet are more often than not the dumping ground.There are several other straightforward and reliable indicators of mood that managers should familiarise themselves with. If someone is rubbing the back of their head or touching the back of their neck while talking to you, it means they are not finding the conversation interesting.If someone is standing before you with their hands in their pockets, it means they are feeling unsure or suspicious. Excessive touching of the face, playing with hair or jewellery, scratching or nervously ringing hands are all signs of negativity.During a meeting or presentation, you know that you are being listened to intently if the listener is keeping his left hand over the right one, with his palms down. However, if the right hand covers the left one, the person is probably disagreeing with what is being said and is waiting for an opportunity to interrupt. He may also pull his earlobe at the time he is just about to interrupt.If the person you are talking to remains still with their eyes fixed on you while you speak, this shows they are more interested in what you are saying than anything. If you find someone you are talking to is pointing at you with either their knees or feet, it is a clear sign that they are focused right in on you.
Windows to the soul:The way a person moves their eyes can also be highly revealing, especially when they are recalling information from memory. This is very handy to know when listening to someone who might have reason to withhold information, for example, the salesman, the habitual skiver or the office practical joker who has gone too far.When recalling visually stored information, people's eyes move in a particular direction, usually up and to the left, a sign that they are accessing the right hemisphere of the brain, which is responsible for visual picture retrieval. If an individual looks up and to the left while answering a question, then they are generally looking to access the truth and remember what happened.If a person looks up and to the right, they are accessing the left side of the brain responsible for creativity. In other words, they could be making up an answer or altering one into a lie. Watching and learning how someone accesses this information can help you when formulating questions you want to ask them.Although most people follow this left-right rule, there are some who are just the opposite. It is good to determine which is which before jumping to conclusions. You can find out the correct directions of a person by asking some leading questions like 'What was the colour of your first car?' to get a response from memory, and 'What is your opinion of the Prime Minister?' to get a creative response.Our facial expressions are there for the world to see and we have become masters at disguising our true feelings by masking them with the appropriate smile, frown or grimace. However, we still give away our true feelings with 'micro expressions' that flash across the face for less then half a second before they are rapidly replaced with the one you want the other person or people to see.This is something that cannot be controlled, it is an involuntary movement that happens without our conscious intervention. These unconscious signals are incredibly reliable indicators of someone's emotional state or attitude towards you and your point of view.Managers who want to know a team member's true feelings about something should watch out for their first instant reaction when the subject is raised. It's all very well knowing what to look for in others, but, as a leader and manager, there are several things people will look for in you.By controlling what you say with your own body language, you can ensure you make a positive and lasting impression. When addressing a group, for example, your posture is one of first things people will look at to judge whether or not you mean business.By standing up when you present to a group you instantly give yourself a better presentation than when seated, as it opens up the chest and helps you breathe better, giving you more oxygen to your brain and helping you think more clearly. It also has the added benefit of raising your height, which subconsciously adds weight to your message and lets others know to take what you say seriously.The way in which you look at people will also tell them how serious you are, as we have different types of gaze. Most of the time we look at people from the right eye over to their left and then down to the nose, mouth or chin. This is known as the social or friendly gaze and if you continue with this while trying to discipline someone, they will not take you as seriously, as if you simply change your gaze from going down to the nose, mouth or chin and instead remain fixed on a point just above and between their eyebrows, suddenly they will know you are completely serious.If, on the other hand, you are seeking to gain rapport with someone, one of the simplest ways to achieve this is to breathe at the same rate as they are. Breathe out as they talk and breathe in when they do. This is something the conscious mind would find very hard to notice, but it has the effect of quickly putting you in sync with them and making them feel completely comfortable in your presence.This is known as mirroring or matching and it works wonderfully providing you are not too obvious. When Brian Sounds recognised just how valuable it would be to be able to read body language accurately, he quickly enrolled on a specialist course which helped him to identify and respond appropriately to his staff's gestures and movements.'I am now far better at recognising when my team members are unsure, anxious or angry about something, and can address these problems quickly and confidently,'explains Brian, whose department has flourished under his leadership. 'I can also modify my own body language to make sure I'm giving off the right signals when it matters, so I'm not only better at communicating, I've also found it's helped me be more influential at work - and in life in general.'
Closed-off negative postures include:1) Shoulders hunched forward show a lack of interest or feelings of inferiority.2) Rigid body posture reveals uptight and anxious.3) Crossed arms can simply be because a person is cold or it can be a defensive action protecting the body4) Tapping fingers indicate agitation, anxiety and boredom5) Fiddling with hands or objects shows boredom or the person has something to say.
Open positive posture include:1) Leaning forward is generally a sign of interest.2) Fingers placed over the mouth with head tilted slightly shows they won't interrupt.3) Maintaining good eye contact.4) Nodding approval as you speak.5) Rubbing chin shows they're considering what you've said.
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UNDERCURRENTS
Written by & copyright of Foxonian Foxonian@aol.com
Featuring Cassie, her band and Foxonian
Cassie, the Rock & Roll Vixen
http://www.cassietherockvixen.furtopia.org
Please read the prequil, "engagements," featuring Featuring Foxonian, Vanessa (Cassie's mother) and Dominic at http://www.cassietherockvixen.furtopia.org/engagements.txt
Please read the sequil, "Contemplation," featuring Cassie, Cindy (Cassie's bassist), Victor (Cindy's boyfriend) Shiva (Cassie's security chief) and Gandalf (Shiva's companion) at http://www.cassietherockvixen.furtopia.org/contemplation.txt
All characters created by & copyright of Earl Bacon except Laretta, who is created by and copyright of Andre' Cotton, Alex, who is created by and copyright of Donna Fritz and Vixina, who is created by and copyright of Cloudchaser Shaconage
"Undercurrents"
"Hey Cass! Let me see it! Wow! That's a really nice diamond!" Laretta said as she got a chance to see the engagement ring that the red fox vixen furry morph sported on her left paw hand. "Thank You," Cassie began, "I know that some of you had sort of figured out that this would happen sooner or later,so Foxonian and I decided not to keep you in suspense any longer." Both Cassie and her fiancee, a tall solidly built human, sat on a two seat sofa with his arm round the tall furry morph red fox vixen, dressed in her usual sleevless light blue thigh-slitted dress, accented by the black neck choker with it's oval centered blue gem around her neck and light brown nylon stockings on her human like legs. Two light blue pumps lay on the floor next to the sofa, since Cassie had her human-like stocking covered feet curled up under her as she sat next to her lover,her right arm wraped around his waist.
"So,when's the big day?" Cindy asked. "Next year. We're looking at some day in August. It's between both of our birthdays and it's usually when the band goes on hiatus," Foxonian replied. "Okay. I can see that," Cindy said as the snow leopard casually pushed one of her braided "bangs" out of her left eye. "Who's going to be your bride's maid?" Alex, the little arctic fox asked. "Sorry, kiddo. I got dib's on that job." Cindy said with a grin. "Nothing's certain yet. We aren't going to do any serious planning until at least after next Christmas,"
Cassie said, noticing with a certain delight the look of shock on Cindy's feline face. "What's wrong Cindy? You look like you just saw a puppy get hit by a bus," Rachel said with a not of concern.
The snow leopard was about to say something to the doe furry morph when she noticed Cassie giving her one of those
"I'm just pulling your chain" kind of smiles. Cindy then said, "Naw. I'm just thinking about something. I'll let you what it is later. Ah think thet y'all should hav' a southern' style weddin'. Mah beau Cloud knows of a really nice ol' plantation near Atlanta thet yew kin rent out fer weddin's an' sech," Vixina said. "Yeah Cass!
That's great! I can just picture you in a Scarlet O'Hara type wedding dress. Big hat on your head, and Foxonian can dress up a like one those Southern colonel types." Alex excidedly said. "Oh, wow! I can just picture that." Cindy began," It would look like an ad for KFC. Instead of a bouquet a flowers, we would have a bucket of chicken!" With that, the snow leopard began to roar with laughter.
Vixina, with a pissed look on her fox-like muzzle, picked up a rolled up magazine and gave Cindy a wrap across her head. "Ow! Hey! What gives?" the snow leopard asked. "Yew kin be so insensitive sometimes. I was serious. This is Cassie's an' Foxonian's weddin' were talkin' bout here. Not some big joke! Dunncha even care that ya may have insulted them? Ther' sittin' rahght thar, fer pete's sake!" the red fox vixen said with a loud voice that nearly knocked her oval glasses off her fox-like muzzle. As Vixina went over to sit on the small chair next to Rachel, Cindy began to say to Foxonian and Cassie, "I-I'm sorry guys. I was just having some fun. I didn't mean to.." Casssie smiled shook her head and replied "I know you didn't Cind. But remember,the rest of thses ladies haven't known you as well as I have. Let's be a little more considerate of the rest of the band's ideas, okay? They all have a right to their ideas and they have as much say as you do."
"Sorry,Vixina," Cindy said to red fox vixen morph who was looking at her with a slight stern look. "Thet's allright. But yew watch yerself from now on, heah? Not ev'rbody lahkes bein' made fun of," Vixina said with a slight smile on her muzzle. "Gotcha," Cindy said as she sat up, strightend out her black t-shirt and matching black leather mini-skirt Excuse me guys, I gotta use the lady's room. I'll be back in a bit." The snow leopard then put on a biker boot on each of her human like fur-covered feet and walked out of the lounge, grabbing her black leather hand bag. When she entered the bathroom, Cindy reached into her handbag and pulled out a small silver flask.
"Thanks for being so supportive of us. You guys are the best," Foxonian said to the group, just before his cellphone went off. After a few minutes, Foxonian turned off the phone and said to Cassie, "I gotta go, love. That was Andy. He wants to have a meeting with some of our sponsors about an upcoming event. I'll give you a call when it's over." The human then addressed the group. "Sorry I'm going to miss the show tonight, but I know you guys will be great! Tell Cindy I had to go and I wish her the best tonight. Bye Guys!" After a round of good-byes, Cassie then put on her pumps and walked arm in arm with Foxonian as they headed out of the lounge and down toward the main lobby. As they got near the ladies roon, Cindy came out and said "Foxonian. Are you leaving?"
Yeah. Gotta take the red-eye out to LA for another meeting.I'll stop by and let Vic know you are okay. Any message for him? Yeah. Wait a sec." Cindy went over to the hotel's main desk and asked for a paper and pen. The snow leopard then gave the note to Foxonian. "Thanks Foxonian," Cindy then gave the human a peck on the cheek before saying, "you are so lucky Cassie to have a great guy like him. I used to envy you until Vick came along.
Bye Foxonian! Thanks again!" Cindy then went back to the lounge,as both Foxonian and Cassie watched her with concern.
"Did you smell her breath? " Foxonian asked. "Yes," Cassie said with her eyes closed. "Damm it! Does Vick know about her little "problem"? the human asked as he started to walk arm in arm with Cassie towards the main entrance. "I'm not sure. But I think he suspects, judging from the conversations I have had with him. When you see him, I would rather you didn't tell him just yet," Cassie said. "Okay. But we both know her pattern quite well. Once she starts, she goes to pieces. You remember what we discussed after the last time?" Foxonian said as he looked into Cassie's cat-like pale blue eyes.
"I know," Cassie began with a sigh, "If she goes that way again, she's out. I really wish it doesn't come to that. She's been one of the best friends I have ever had. It breaks my heart to have to do that. I don't know if I can" Cassie then wrapped her arms around her fiance and buried her head against his chest. Foxonian kissed her on her left ear and said "Shh. I know, I know. But we have to think about Laretta, Alex, Rachel and Vixina. You saw what happened today. I hate to say this, but you have been giving Cindy an awful lot of leeway over stuff, just because you guys have known and played together for so long.
That's not smart, Cass. I know that Cindy's been playing longer than everyone else, yourself included, but that doesn't mean she's the defacto '#2' in the band. I know that you wanted your band to be a family, but you gotta be a little more fair and start to rein in Cindy a bit. You know what will happen if you don't? Remember Furrosity and all that mess? I'm speaking as a member of the band's mangement now, not as your lover. You know that." The vixen nodded and said, "I know. It doesn't make it any easier to hear. Okay. I'll keep that in mind. I'll have a talk with Cindy and lay it all out for her. Thanks for being objective, love. I appreciate that."
Cassie and Foxonian then had apassionate muzzle to lip kiss in the lobby, with Foxonian stroking the vixen's large bushy fox-like tail that came out through a slit in her blue dress, just above her butt. "I'll call you tomorrow, my love. Be good," the human said as he parted from his fiancee' and climbed into the taxi that was waiting at the front entrance of the hotel. "I will. You be good too." Cassie said as she waved to the human. The red fox vixen furry-morph stood for a monent and watched the cab drive off, the wind causing her extremely long black head hair to blow in the breeze and with the hem of her blue slitted dress to blow up, revealing more of her grater straps and stockings than she felt she could get away with outside of a stage show.
As she walked back into the hotel, pushing the front of her dress down as she walked against the wind, she saw Cindy walking tword her. "Did he get off okay,Cass?" the snow leopard asked. "Yes. Are you busy right now? Cassie asked. "Naw! I was just going get something in the food court. Why?" the snow leopard replied. "Mind if I join you? I need to talk to you about some things," Cassie said. "Sure! Let's go. Anything you want, Cass." Cindy said as she walked over to the food court. Cassie let out a small sigh and followed her.
THE END
1. Shower together. When in the shower, keep close physical contact. Wash him and whisper in his ear the things you love about him.2. Share a romantic dinner in front of the fireplace. Wear something sexy and enticing. Make sure the dinner is conducive to a romantic setting. Food that can easily be eaten with the least amount of utensils is usually your best bet!3. Let there always be some physical contact with him when at home. Keeping a sparked connection throughout the night is one of the most effective ways to keeping your partner passionate about you. 4. Do not neglect the magic of kissing. How often do you really just express your desire in a kiss? When you first start dating, it is usually one of the only ways to express your desire. Refresh your kissing skills by every so often catching your partner off-guard with a weak-in-the-knees passionate kiss.5. Relieve his work stress at the end of the day with a slow, sensual massage, complete with massage oil. 6. Spoil him by reading him an erotic bedtime story. The best encounters are those you do not plan on. 7. Write a sexy letter describing everything you would like to do to him. Leave no doubts about your attraction and get them ready for some loving with a very in-depth description about what you enjoy doing to them!Remember, it is the small things that count. The most important three words are: "I love You"
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It has been revealed to reduce reprimand referrals, improve educational become rough by building feelings of tastiness and respect, and remodel the rendition of confidence and facade in students.The program includes teacher-friendly lessons, training for educators, and parent-education tools."http://www.cfchildren.org/Speedy Track Fixed"Speedy Track is a comprehensive and lasting blocking program that aims to eliminate unbroken and forthright transmit problems for high-risk species. It is based on the view that antisocial routine stems from the kindred of merged influences, and it includes the educational, the home, and the evident in its intervention. Speedy Track's critical goals are to remodel communication and bonds amongst these three domains, amplify inferior social, cognitive, and analytic skills, improve peer relationships, and completely graze out of control routine in the home and educational.Speedy Track is an intervention that can be implemented in idyllic and conurbation areas for boys and girls of unstable background, social class, and family fortitude (i.e., the primary intervention is made-up for all youth in a educational setting). It specifically targets species renowned in playgroup for out of control routine and poor peer relations."http://www.fasttrackproject.org/Further alternatives and punishmentsConvalescent Virtue ConferencesThis is part of a flood advanced by the Colorado Studious Negotiation Strategy which helps students learn to be legally responsible for their deeds. These frequently relate to conferences of the wrongdoer, folks distress, the parents, and educational congregation who take an relax to tell the wrongdoer how they were pretentious and what they need to take place to go on. The plan is for the wrongdoer to act to dressed the situation: put back relationships, compensate, pay back, groom up, do community service, etc.Further alternatives include:Use of reprimand codes which are so-so and usually unavoidable, emphasizing positive behaviors of students, use of educational psychologists and educational counselors and use of community mental physical condition professionals and agencies.Punishments include:In-school and out-of-school break programs, expulsion, Saturday Schools, reformation, internment and parent pick-up programs.
