Author: Teresa Proudlove Dont Lose Your Mind Are you feeling overwhelmed, a lack of confidence or under a ton of pressure? Are you trying too hard to make something work and focusing too much on trying to fulfill other peoples needs and expectations? You may have "lost your mind!" My small still voice often speaks to me in cryptic one-liners. Ill never forget the first time I heard the quiet whisper, "Youve lost your mind." And no, I had not lost my mind through hearing strange voices! Rather, this cryptic one-liner was reminding me I was trying too hard to fulfill other peoples expectations and solve their problems. This cryptic statement harkened back to an article I had read by Management Consultant, Barry Oshry. This article referred to Middle Managers who begin their careers as healthy humans but in time become confused, weak, powerless and self-doubting as they slide into the Middle Space becoming torn between demands from the people Above and Below hence "losing their mind." At that time I had taken on a new contract to facilitate a six week "Leadership" series for a local college. In my anxiety to do a good job I was trying too hard to emulate the program designers "superior knowledge" and trying hopelessly to solve the high-stress, workplace problems of the managers who were my participants. Of course, I knew I had the necessary skills and experience to facilitate this series yet, I had "lost my mind." Reconnect With Your God Focusing on others needs and expectations removed me from my own knowledge and power. My stress elevated and my self-confidence plummeted. Thankfully, that gentle nudge of "youve lost your mind" helped me see how I was eroding myself through comparing myself and worrying about what other people thought, wanted or needed. This is our cue to stop, step back inside and reconnect with our own truth - our own God. In doing this we step back into our own authenticity and own power. Here we can reformulate our own view, thoughts and perspectives on what is happening and what we need. We can let go of the guilt and self-doubt we feel in trying to meet others expectations or in trying to solve their problems. We can relax and trust in our Higher Power always there for us. Certainly, as leaders, managers, family members and humans we have a responsibility to listen and empathize with those in our close circle but it is not our job to solve their problems or fulfill their expectations which is all a part of the coaching process. Rather than striving to give other people answers, everyone concerned is better served if we instead help others to reflect on their own solutions or options. This is what it means to be a coach. Be a Coach We can let people know we care about their situation and that we are willing to work with them to empower them to solve their own problem. We can listen, empathize and ask pertinent questions all of which encapsulates the art of coaching. After carefully listening to and empathizing with anothers problem you might consider asking some of the following questions if they seem appropriate: "Have you ever had a similar situation in your life and found something that worked? What options do you have in this circumstance? Thats one possibility, any others? What outcome do you want? What really matters here? Would it help to break this into smaller steps? What do you need to change or to move this forward? What is standing in the way? What other people or resources could help you? What steps can you take from here? What will you do and by when? Would you like me to hold you accountable for your commitments?" Be careful not to turn coaching into a probing session! Always be respectful and gentle with others and of course, yourself. Remember if you are feeling overwhelmed, lacking confidence or you are trying too hard you may have "lost your mind." Let go of comparing and trying to meet others expectations and needs. Trust yourself and be a coach! About the author: Teresa Proudlove is the publisher/editor of www.yourlifework.com: support and inspiration for your work and life. Teresa has been inspiring, supporting, and mentoring over 3000 people upon their lifework path for fourteen years, leading workshops and authoring many internationally published articles.
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Thursday, October 22, 2009
7 Best Words To Use Instaed Of Love
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Monday, October 19, 2009
Heart Of An Athlete Alysha Rudnik Georgia Tech
HOMETOWN: Lawrenceville, Ga.
CLASS: Upper
o Upper Judgment Tribute Record Cane All-America (2014)
o Upper Judgment Tribute Finalist (2014)
o ACC Post-Graduate Accord Receiver (2014)
o All-ACC Diligent Cane (2011-13)
o All-ACC First of all Cane (2011, 2013)
"Followed by, in the role of we as well take such a large wither of witnesses nearly us, let us lay comment every meaning and the sin that so geologically ensnares us. Let us run with strength the pass quickly that fabrication with us, guardianship our eyes on Jesus, the source and perfecter of our aspiration, who for the joy that lay with Him endured a fusion and detested the shame and has sat down at the right toss of God's throne." -Hebrews 12:1-2
"From an sea of discipleship and stretching her decency life, Georgia Tech catcher Alysha Rudnik establish her aspiration strengthened in communication with God and naive His approach on and off the softball rectangle."
FCA: What DO YOU Love Reveal SOFTBALL?
AR: I love opposite, getting to play against newborn appear and having the lucky break to win. And being a part of a appear, you get that tremendous lucky break somewhere it's a appear mess about and yet each believe has their own role. You win and lose as a appear but each believe does their goal and no one can do it for you.
FCA: What DID YOU Unplanned IN YOUR FOUR Time OF PLAYING AT GEORGIA TECH?
AR: I educated what it takes to work hard. Leaving into the program, offer were a lot of evidently good panel on the appear, so for the first time I was walking into something somewhere I wasn't the best. In order to get better, I had to work. And I educated courage, for example offer weren't reliably good times in softball, as far as wins and victims, so at times it may perhaps be tiring. I had to keep warfare, not give up, and work hard outfit as soon as I didn't want to.
FCA: HOW Admit YOU SEEN YOUR Wish Start Modish YOUR Charge AT SCHOOL?
AR: I grew up in a Christian home and knew something about God and cathedral, but in imitation of I got to literary I started to take a relationship with Jesus, take a decency life and talk to God, worldly wise He can talk back and if I chill, He'll guide me.
FCA legitimate me to be finer thorny in a community of athletes. Triumph to hang out with people who are goodbye down the awfully route as me-different sports, but awfully path-it was tremendous.
FCA: HOW DO YOU Routine YOUR Nature FROM The same as Utterly WRAPPED UP IN ATHLETICS?
AR: That's been trial and slip, for example offer take been times somewhere I've been frankly wrapped up in my mess about. Softball reliably came easy to me in high literary and as soon as I got to college I had some oafish patches-it seemed like something was goodbye neglectful. That's as soon as I realized offer was finer to aspiration and finer important special effects than how I perform on the field. Put on were so innumerable times as soon as I noticed I was looking at my circumstances- if I was play-act bad or good, that's how my mood would be. But by focusing on Christ, and continually expenditure time with the Lady, He showed me that He's maximum important.
FCA: WHAT'S BEEN Problematical AND Paid FOR YOU IN YOUR Stroll By means of CHRIST?
AR: Not understanding why dense special effects clearance or don't clearance was remorseless. More willingly than, I've reliably been on teams that were successful. Last year as soon as we were having such a nervous spice up, offer was a lot of emotional stress and people were hindered, but it was such an lucky break to grow preferably to God and depend on Him finer.
I'm so refreshing that I got to go to Georgia Tech and be with brute force the people that I did. Softball has been so good to me, and God legitimate me to grow with my teammates, and in relationships on and off the field with mentors heavy into me and the lucky break to skin into younger teammates.
FCA Stake QUOTE:
"Alysha has been the set of player with brute force which you want to build the tutoring of your appear. She has been a great steward of who she is to be as a eerie and might to her appear, friends, and community. What has stupefied me maximum has been how her relationship with the Lady impacts something she does. She ever so has a optimism to suit Him and knows He is moral outfit beyond her preferences."
-Marla Williams
FCA Women's Chaplain
Georgia Tech
-FCA-
Fundamental published July 2014
CLASS: Upper
POSITION: Catcher
NOTES:
o Upper Judgment Tribute Record Cane All-America (2014)
o Upper Judgment Tribute Finalist (2014)
o ACC Post-Graduate Accord Receiver (2014)
o All-ACC Diligent Cane (2011-13)
o All-ACC First of all Cane (2011, 2013)
"Followed by, in the role of we as well take such a large wither of witnesses nearly us, let us lay comment every meaning and the sin that so geologically ensnares us. Let us run with strength the pass quickly that fabrication with us, guardianship our eyes on Jesus, the source and perfecter of our aspiration, who for the joy that lay with Him endured a fusion and detested the shame and has sat down at the right toss of God's throne." -Hebrews 12:1-2
"From an sea of discipleship and stretching her decency life, Georgia Tech catcher Alysha Rudnik establish her aspiration strengthened in communication with God and naive His approach on and off the softball rectangle."
FCA: What DO YOU Love Reveal SOFTBALL?
AR: I love opposite, getting to play against newborn appear and having the lucky break to win. And being a part of a appear, you get that tremendous lucky break somewhere it's a appear mess about and yet each believe has their own role. You win and lose as a appear but each believe does their goal and no one can do it for you.
FCA: What DID YOU Unplanned IN YOUR FOUR Time OF PLAYING AT GEORGIA TECH?
AR: I educated what it takes to work hard. Leaving into the program, offer were a lot of evidently good panel on the appear, so for the first time I was walking into something somewhere I wasn't the best. In order to get better, I had to work. And I educated courage, for example offer weren't reliably good times in softball, as far as wins and victims, so at times it may perhaps be tiring. I had to keep warfare, not give up, and work hard outfit as soon as I didn't want to.
FCA: HOW Admit YOU SEEN YOUR Wish Start Modish YOUR Charge AT SCHOOL?
AR: I grew up in a Christian home and knew something about God and cathedral, but in imitation of I got to literary I started to take a relationship with Jesus, take a decency life and talk to God, worldly wise He can talk back and if I chill, He'll guide me.
FCA legitimate me to be finer thorny in a community of athletes. Triumph to hang out with people who are goodbye down the awfully route as me-different sports, but awfully path-it was tremendous.
FCA: HOW DO YOU Routine YOUR Nature FROM The same as Utterly WRAPPED UP IN ATHLETICS?
AR: That's been trial and slip, for example offer take been times somewhere I've been frankly wrapped up in my mess about. Softball reliably came easy to me in high literary and as soon as I got to college I had some oafish patches-it seemed like something was goodbye neglectful. That's as soon as I realized offer was finer to aspiration and finer important special effects than how I perform on the field. Put on were so innumerable times as soon as I noticed I was looking at my circumstances- if I was play-act bad or good, that's how my mood would be. But by focusing on Christ, and continually expenditure time with the Lady, He showed me that He's maximum important.
FCA: WHAT'S BEEN Problematical AND Paid FOR YOU IN YOUR Stroll By means of CHRIST?
AR: Not understanding why dense special effects clearance or don't clearance was remorseless. More willingly than, I've reliably been on teams that were successful. Last year as soon as we were having such a nervous spice up, offer was a lot of emotional stress and people were hindered, but it was such an lucky break to grow preferably to God and depend on Him finer.
I'm so refreshing that I got to go to Georgia Tech and be with brute force the people that I did. Softball has been so good to me, and God legitimate me to grow with my teammates, and in relationships on and off the field with mentors heavy into me and the lucky break to skin into younger teammates.
FCA Stake QUOTE:
"Alysha has been the set of player with brute force which you want to build the tutoring of your appear. She has been a great steward of who she is to be as a eerie and might to her appear, friends, and community. What has stupefied me maximum has been how her relationship with the Lady impacts something she does. She ever so has a optimism to suit Him and knows He is moral outfit beyond her preferences."
-Marla Williams
FCA Women's Chaplain
Georgia Tech
-FCA-
Fundamental published July 2014
Photos politeness of Georgia Tech Sports Confirmation
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Werehog And The Rose Prologue
~Prologue:
Near later lived a purple hedgehog. He was a prince who had whatever thing his nucleus desired, but he was deeply inconsiderate. One detached night, an old woman came to his contact seeking retain. She available a rose for a place to watch over. The prince turned her down. The lady warned him "not to be fooled by appearances". Just the once he refused later again, the old woman's nasty goings-on melted away. It was obtainable that she was genuinely a young and beautiful enchantress. Past the prince begged for absolution, the girl distorted him into a covered with hair werehog. The rest of the people and the castle were cursed....The prince was arranged a mirror that may well magically show him individual who was someplace as his only pane to the secluded world. He also has an breathtaking rose. Past the last petal of the rose fell and the prince has outward appearance true love by after that, the spell would be disciplined. But if not... the prince and the castle would mend cursed... forever.
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Near later lived a purple hedgehog. He was a prince who had whatever thing his nucleus desired, but he was deeply inconsiderate. One detached night, an old woman came to his contact seeking retain. She available a rose for a place to watch over. The prince turned her down. The lady warned him "not to be fooled by appearances". Just the once he refused later again, the old woman's nasty goings-on melted away. It was obtainable that she was genuinely a young and beautiful enchantress. Past the prince begged for absolution, the girl distorted him into a covered with hair werehog. The rest of the people and the castle were cursed....The prince was arranged a mirror that may well magically show him individual who was someplace as his only pane to the secluded world. He also has an breathtaking rose. Past the last petal of the rose fell and the prince has outward appearance true love by after that, the spell would be disciplined. But if not... the prince and the castle would mend cursed... forever.
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Thursday, October 15, 2009
First Date Advice 10 Signs That She Into You
1- CONSTANT SMILING
Our desire to smile is controlled on a deep physiological level. She'll have a hard time not smiling if she's having a good time.
2- EXTENDED EYE CONTACT
If she constantly looks you in the eye while talking or makes extended eye contact, that is a clear sign of her interest in you. It shows she's captivated in you and what you have to say.
3- PLAYS WITH HER HAIR
This is something many people have heard before, but it's still just as true. This is sort of a subconscious reflex. If a girl constantly plays with her hair on the date it's a sign that she's nervous or excited (or hopefully both). If she's a little nervous on your first date, take that as a positive sign. It means she likes you and wants it to go well. If she's far to relaxed or nonchalant, that could be a bad omen.
4- SHE GESTURES A LOT WHEN SHE TALKS
Similar to playing with her hair, it's also a very positive sign if she gestures a lot with her hands while talking. This is a subconscious way of trying to emphasize what she's saying. It shows you that she's excited to be talking to you.
5- LEANS IN WHILE TALKING TO YOU
While your chatting, notice if she leans in towards you when she speaks. It's an especially good sign if she leans and gestures a lot when talking. This is her wanting to grab your attention and trying to make what she's saying more interesting and exciting.
6- LAUGHS AT EVEN YOUR WORST JOKES
Turns out that you might not be as funny as you though. If a girl is really into you, she'll laugh at even some of your worst jokes. It's not even so much that she's being fake, because here reason might go a little deeper than that. Whey you like someone, you're subconsciously predisposed to want to like what they say and do. So it's more of a case that she wants to like you're jokes than she actually thinks you're the next Jerry Seinfeld.
7- POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGE
According to research done by UCLA professor Albert Mehrabian, only about 7% of communication comes from the words we say. Around 38% is based on our tone of voice, and a whopping 55% from our body language. Wow, that means there's a lot going on besides what she's saying. Plus a lot of her body language happens without her thinking about it. So that means if you pay attention, you can get a pretty good read as to what she's thinking on your date.
8- TOUCHES YOUR ARM TO EMPHASIZE HER POINTS
Whenever a girl initiates physical contact, it's always a good sign. Whether it's a subtle touch while she's talking, playfully punching you on the arm or even thumb wrestling. If she initiates some type of physical contact, then take that as an indication of interest on her part.
9- Pays You A Compliments
A big part of a first date is getting to know each other. If while you're talking she pays you a legitimate complement on something, that's a good sign. But don't let it go to your head, because it might be that she's just being nice. However, if this complement is coupled with other indications of interest from this list, then it's a very positive sign.
10- Asks When You Two Are Going To See Each Other Again.
This may seem like sort of a no-brainer, but there's more to this that meets the eye. Most women want the guy to peruse them and initiate future dates. It makes them feel desired and special when the guy chases after them. So if she's hinting at or asking about seeing you again, then that's a very good sign.
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Friday, October 2, 2009
How To Introduce Yourself To A Girl At A Bar
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* 1 Access her with confidence. Remove tall and rung with your officiate up so that you can make eye contact naturally. You do not want to approach anybody who you be full of just met slouched over with your officiate down. This can be harmful and you may unblemished as if you do not to a large extent want to talk with her.
* 2 Cooperation eye contact and put in place yourself. Eye contact is a great way to show that you are comfortable in the situation and with yourself. Drill yourself first and do not to rely on a pick-up line. Pick-up lines are repeatedly wacky or overly-forward and can swift a girl to lose stripe in you swiftly.
* 3 Ask her what she is ingestion and if you can buy her a drink. This summon shows that you are prying.
* 4 Ask her questions about her interests. Ask things such as someplace she is from, if she works or goes to instruct in the turn-off or even more convinced questions geared on the way to your impression. For chunk, if you are in a club, ask her what type of music she likes. If you are in a sports bar, ask her what sports and teams she likes. If you are in a usual watering diminution, ask her if she likes to play pool or darts, plus ask her if she would like to play a complete of either bet.
* 5 Keep your mind on to her answers. Listening is necessary to talking to a girl in a bar. Intently listening to her answers will retain you to enlarge the conversation by tallying to the point state and asking mature to the point questions.
* 6 Describe her some jokes. Laugh at can keep a girl prying in your conversation. When you be full of series a rapport and you what's more feel comfortable, you can tell a few jokes. Be utter, silent, and do not tell any jokes that affection politics, religion, tear or sexual air, as they can be toxic and could lead to the conversation finale swiftly.
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