Why Are Some Men Emotionally Unavailable

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Perhaps you've met the One, seen him come on like gangbusters, but then pull back for no apparent reason. So that all of a sudden, everything becomes murky, anxious and uncertain in terms of your relationship. Are you a couple or not? Has he met someone else? Why is he running hot and cold? Do you have a future together? Should you have "the talk" about where things stand? And you wonder, "Is it me? Is it him? Why is this man emotionally unavailable and why do I mess with him?"

Maybe you tend to be involved with a guy for a few months and then he always falls away mysteriously, leaving you alone. Maybe you have been with a guy for 10 years who brings over the chicken soup when you are sick, is there whenever you need him, yet is completely unavailable for building a lasting relationship or family. Or maybe you are in a long term on-again, off-again relationship where one or the other of you periodically withdraws or sees other people. The whole thing can be very UNSETTLING and uncertain emotionally. I know.

Have you ever been involved and in love with one man for months, or even years, only to find that he simply cannot or will not take that next step into living together or marriage? Instead he gets irritated, distant, angry or simply hits the highway if there is any talk of sharing a future together? If you have read this far I know that you have had at least one of these FRUSTRATING experiences with a guy. First thing is to get you ongoing support and making it work with him (if you want to) ASAP! So before we explore the minds of emotionally unavailable men take a moment and sign up for my free Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Newsletter. It will come to you weekly with the secrets you need to know about creating a committed and lasting relationship. Click here to sign up.

THE MYSTERIES OF EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE MEN

Men can be very tough, almost impossible to figure out! They often have their own peculiar dynamics and specific fears that are hidden. And if you are interested in a great guy and finding it hard to figure out what is going on, it is often best to have a second pair of "eyes' on the situation. To help you read the guy's smoke signals and understand how to proceed to make things work out with him. A wise person who can help you avoid making costly MISTAKES that are common in love. To help you get the relationship you really want.

So if you are feeling down, or stuck in your love life or UNSURE of just how to handle a situation with a guy who continues to disappoint you or is emotionally unavailable: consider getting that "second pair of eyes or ears" to help you. There is a very unique opportunity for you right now because you can have one-on-one coaching from a trained Love Mentor(R). Each one has a long background in transformational work and is closely supervised by me. The best news is, we can give you an introductory 40 minute one-on-one personalized session for FREE. Just Click Here to get your own session by phone or Skype ASAP.

Fortunately, I've worked for over 25 years as a psychologist, clinical supervisor of therapists, and as a Love Mentor(R) and have heard just about every issue single guys have! I've logged thousands of hours in the trenches listening to men as they've completely opened up and explored their deepest issues, problems, needs and fears. Those private moments have given me a unique window into understanding guys' fears about maturity, commitment, forming a couple or creating a family. I understand how their minds work-how men tend to view love relationships and all the different resistances they have toward choosing a woman for the long haul. And why they are emotionally unavailable? But even more important than knowing the WHYs has been figuring out out HOW to guide many men, (including hard-core commitment-phobes) through the process of making a true lasting commitment to a woman. And my Love Mentors want to share that know-how with you.

So here's a small part of all I've learned about the minds of men. The good news is that they, like us, for the most part want true love, even a soul mate and down deep they realize that they'd be happier, more content and more sexually fulfilled if they had a good relationship. The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away. Often they EQUATE dating with fun, sex and feeling good. Unfortunately, they also equate COMMITMENT with heavy responsibilities, a sexless life, and a boring existence filled with endless chores like taking out the garbage, being a chauffeur and changing diapers.

Men fear being overwhelmed and taken over in an all-consuming couple that just leads to a dreadful life of providing, providing and more providing, ending in a quiet heart attack in the suburbs. They also fear that they simply cannot handle a woman's emotional baggage, her fitful dramas or that they are not equipped to make a woman happy. These thoughts lead to even deeper, unconscious fears that they themselves will fail, be rejected, betrayed, hurt or abandoned. All these fears play out in a variety of ways that sabotage the development of real love and commitment and lead to his becoming emotionally unavailable.

Men can be attracted to you, have mind-blowing sex with you, see you regularly and be caretaking to a fault and yet deny the fact that you are a couple! Or at the same time be secretly seeing another woman. They may fantasize about a future together with you and speak about those fantasies, but have not the slightest inclination to make it all come true. That's why dating and creating a relationship with them can be so confusing and frustrating. So if you are stuck in your love life or UNSURE of just how to deal with a guy who you're into but who has disappointed you, remember to sign up for my Dating Tips Relationship Advice Newsletter.

Wishing you great love,

"Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has been a frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show & is the creator of global free love mentoring sessions, author of the highly acclaimed "relationship advice book", "Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love" as well as the best-selling "dating advice book", "Love in 90 Days." Dr. Diana's revolutionary work is the basis of her PBS Special on love and dating. Connect with Dr. Diana through her "FREE RELATIONSHIP TIPS AND DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER". "

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